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ElsaElsa Boards Tag: fear http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ElsaElsa Boards Tag: fear en Sun, 14 Mar 2010 18:22:53 +0000 PallasAthena on "19 year old Capricorn in a Crisis" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/19-year-old-capricorn-in-a-crisis#post-50132 Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:49:52 +0000 PallasAthena 50132@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Hey Shell...I agree that I hope she is doing well and was able to move on to her new life. Regarding your foray into roller derby...have you had a chance to update on your experience as yet (I don't know if I missed it).  Everyone was excited for you and hoping to hear more about it. PA   shell on "19 year old Capricorn in a Crisis" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/19-year-old-capricorn-in-a-crisis#post-50131 Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:38:42 +0000 shell 50131@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ I hope she's doing okay and that we hear from her soon. chrispito on "19 year old Capricorn in a Crisis" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/19-year-old-capricorn-in-a-crisis#post-50127 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:36:43 +0000 chrispito 50127@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Sweethiez--it's an expression that (I believe) dates back to the ancient Romans, at a time they paid their soldiers in salt. Basically in 2010 it means--a good man who's acting from a place of truth and honour and thus one need not question his motives, even if at first they disappoint. Sweethiez on "19 year old Capricorn in a Crisis" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/19-year-old-capricorn-in-a-crisis#post-50068 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:22:35 +0000 Sweethiez 50068@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ (((LIsa Roxanne)))  I feel for you.. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time.  I had a mother who was an alcoholic and schizophrenic and I had to grow up really fast to take care of myself because I knew that she couldn't.  I agree with all the good advises everybody gave you.. Get out of there and get your life back! Yes, you'll have to start from scratches but it's so worth it.  When I did it for me, I didn't have friends then to support me (I had my workaholic father, who I love very much, but no friends and lots of enemies) and it was still hard but now I'm so strong internally.. Those experiences show you how really strong you are and how NOTHING can destroy you! I truly believe  that NOTHING can kill me... the only thing that can kill me is me!!! and I chose to live and to live HAPPILY!! I had to work at that but now life is better, not perfect but better! Now I have real good friends, not many but I don't need too many anyways.. just quality not quantity! I don't have any capricorn (or earth planets!!) but I also have a cancer rising and I have saturn-pluto in my 5th house (childhood and personal expression).. I have pluto in my late 4th house and saturn exactly conjunct my 5th house cusp.  Pluto in the 4th house means learning to find security within yourself without anybody else... it was hard to do at a young age but now I feel good that I went through it.  I have high hopes for you because you're looking for a way out instead of letting yourself go and I praise you for that!  The beginning (or the start) of any great thing is hard to do but after it became much more easier! Have courage and you'll see the light soon!! Take great care of yourself Lisa!!! I'm sending much love your way and I hope that you'll get out of this situation soon...   PS chrispito said : "Also: an older man who tells a younger woman she is too young for him is A MAN WORTH HIS SALT." what does this mean?? Sorry i don't know many english expressions!  Shaina on "19 year old Capricorn in a Crisis" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/19-year-old-capricorn-in-a-crisis#post-50062 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 08:38:19 +0000 Shaina 50062@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/   I also wish I had seen this post sooner. I am so sorry you are going through so much.  That really is the burden of Capricorn-- grow up young, usually through the harshest circumstances possible.  Find the right therapist for you and stick with it.  It's not easy for Caps to open up to others but you'll need to learn the correct ways of going through life-- systems, another Capricorn word.  Find someone who will teach you what your family has not.  And remember, you are not YOUR family.  The Cancer Rising versus all that Cap (esp Cap NNode Rx) concerns me that you will have a struggle to escape a self-image formed like them, but I think your Jupiter in Leo/Venus in Aquarius says something about forming a family YOU choose.  So, with all that Cap, you have the power to learn how to choose wisely, and build something better.  For yourself and the people you choose.  Best of luck to you darlin'.   cosmickisses2u on "19 year old Capricorn in a Crisis" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/19-year-old-capricorn-in-a-crisis#post-49678 Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:33:17 +0000 cosmickisses2u 49678@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ((((Gigglestomp))) I wish I had seen this post sooner. I also grew up with a mother who had mental illness complicated by addictions to alcohol, weed, cocaine and nicotine. It was hell for me and I can relate to what you're going through. Its been 3 weeks and I pray you have taken the advice given on this board and moved out. My prayers and blessing to you Lindiloo on "19 year old Capricorn in a Crisis" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/19-year-old-capricorn-in-a-crisis#post-49672 Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:06:09 +0000 Lindiloo 49672@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Good luck Gigglestomp.. I've only just read this post and thread and see such warm support here, makes me so, so proud to be a part of this community..I think that in situations such as this where help and support are so clearly needed, people post and get the right people responding at the right time here, and you have some seriously strong support here from some ace people.  I just want to add my best wishes and huge respect for all you've endured and managed now to talk about.  Hugs and healing thoughts coming your way XX wyrdling on "Name your fears and face them: Elsas Idea..run with it" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/name-your-fears-and-face-them/page/2#post-47661 Tue, 02 Mar 2010 07:11:23 +0000 wyrdling 47661@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ of giving up of promising too much and not being able to deliver of failing on my responsibilities (what i have chosen) of breaking down and losing my grip (again) of not being a good enough partner of a frightening kind of empty feeling inside. Joules on "Name your fears and face them: Elsas Idea..run with it" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/name-your-fears-and-face-them/page/2#post-47539 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:43:37 +0000 Joules 47539@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ I think my biggest fear is having to associate with people I don't like.  I like my own energy field and my own space.  If I'm on my own or with my wife or if I choose to associate all is well.  This is a pretty minor fear.  Isn't fear just obsession over something that hasn't actually happened?  I mean you can think about something scary and get scared.  A shadow in the dark can scare you if you let it.   If I imagine falling before a rock climb, I could get too scared to even start for instance.  But the fear is only there because I'm imagining a negative scenario.  If I can "switch the station" so my mind isn't thinking about that, the fear also vanishes.  But if I've been on that station a long time, it's hard not to fall back into that type of thinking.   I'm really not afraid of much, and am pretty well convinced I can do almost anything well if I put my energy into it.  Also, I have proven this to myself many times in many different types of activities and settings.  When I have sought accomplishment or validation, I pretty much always got it after I worked hard enough.  My real power is my physical health and vitality, the sharpness of my mind, and the connection of that to my spirit.  If those things are maintained, I can survive anything. Therefore they are primary, not secondary to things like "I have X amount of money, or I have this particular job or friend etc".  How much time do we waste fearing things won't go well when we haven't even tried?  80% of success is showing up. I feel unlimited, because my power comes from within, not from without, and the internal source is hooked up directly to the Creator.  If I'm aligned with the power within me,  all is well.  If I ignore that power, then fear, guilt, lack of self worth, etc gains power.  If those things gain enough power, you can lose connection to the source.  Then real trouble is possible.   I am constantly reconnecting myself.  Every day.  Sometimes every minute.  Sometimes with every breath.  Whatever it takes.  I am constantly asking the Creator to protect me, to hide me if I need to be hidden, to show me if I need to be shown, reveal to me as much as I can handle and to grow my awareness as fast as I can.  I want to finish my work on this planet ASAP and then remain as a guide, and also just to have time for nothing but pure enjoyment and superfluous bliss. WhosThatLady on "Name your fears and face them: Elsas Idea..run with it" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/name-your-fears-and-face-them/page/2#post-47508 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 19:25:10 +0000 WhosThatLady 47508@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Wow I was just thinking about my fears today! I'm a sag stellium and my fears make sense according to that.   I'm afraid of: * being committed because what if I can't follow through? * gaining weight  * losing control * being abandoned by the people I love * being ordinary * not achieving my dreams * never being able to fully love myself * ending up alone because of how picky I am and how mean I get when a guy starts getting close * that I am living in a dream world and nothing really matters.