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ElsaElsa Boards Tag: materialism http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ElsaElsa Boards Tag: materialism en Fri, 30 Jul 2010 12:19:35 +0000 Joules on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-39788 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:47:41 +0000 Joules 39788@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ isthmus on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-39781 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:10:06 +0000 isthmus 39781@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Hey Lunalie, I know it's not quite the same as makeup, but you can save a lot by making your own beauty/bath stuff. I recently borrowed this book <a href="http://books.google.ca/books?id=qFxWndFIhv8C&printsec=frontcover&dq=eco+beauty+lauren+cox&client=firefox-a&cd=1#v=onepage&q=eco%20beauty%20lauren%20cox&f=false">Ecobeauty by Lauren Cox</a> from the Toronto Public Library and there are some really cheap and easy recipes for things like scrubs, masks, etc. to pamper yourself. (On that note, borrow any fashion magazines, books, etc. from the library!) Are you new in TO btw? There are some great consignment stores downtown. I like Fashionably Yours on Queen W for higher end stuff, but there are a few cheaper places like Black Market further east and a couple of used clothes stores along Yonge b/w Wellesley and Queen (sorry, can't remember names/intersections). I'd also try sample sales, like this week's upcoming Preloved sample sale at 24 ryerson ($10-$50 maximum) and more permanent places like Five. Try checking out these TO blogs for more fashion news/sales. <a href="http://www.thecheapgirl.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.thecheapgirl.com/</a> <a href="http://iwantigot.geekigirl.com/" rel="nofollow">http://iwantigot.geekigirl.com/</a> Dina on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-39694 Sun, 24 Jan 2010 22:21:58 +0000 Dina 39694@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ No, you're really not.  You have Leo and you need to express yourself and be sexy.  This expresses the fullness of your being.  When you limit yourself like this and shut down your essence you get stifled.  And this will hamper your creativity.  Beauty comes from within, but it's bullshit that it can't be expressed on the outside.  It's not about materialism.  You are a piece of art, and you are your own canvas.  Sure people can tell you that you need to "get real," but you aren't being narcissistic, you merely need to express your pride and invention in being who you are.  Someone with Leo has to exude completely.   Lunalie on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-16457 Fri, 21 Aug 2009 10:57:56 +0000 Lunalie 16457@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ opal, thanks so much :) Seems like, "give it space" is often the common theme with my current issue right now. Also, "trying something new" is difficult at this point. I'm a perfectionist! I remember an aunt of mine as I was growing up when she said, "If you can't do it, why bother? If you want to learn it and you can't do it, why bother?" My dad (her brother) also believed in this. THey had a mean competitive streak and were determined to "outdo" the other. I was also compared A LOT to other kids back then so having that perfectionist, competitive nature is one I'm trying to "brainwash" out of me. But yeah - the space-giving bit you mentioned... I guess I really should allow myself that. I don't quite know what it is that's my art. I do know that I am amazing with fashion but often without the patience.   Thnks!  opal on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-16384 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:26:08 +0000 opal 16384@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Hi Lunalie, I've been reading through all this and some thoughts came into my mind which might help. You say you are in the throes of a Saturn/Pluto transit which to me means   that you are experiencing restrictions, or contraction (Saturn) in certain areas which will allow you to eventually transform (Pluto) in some way.  The image that comes to mind is of the caterpillar when it moves into the chrysalis stage - it gets hung, wrapped up tight and melts before it can emerge into a butterfly.  I'd say you're in the melting at the moment....  The other thing I noticed is that you keep talking about what you're not good at, and what you can't do, so I'm thinking that something in you wants to push the envelope (or pupa) into new territory somehow, just that you don't know what it is yet.  You have Mars/Leo/5th - your drive is to express your creative individuality. Soooo...why don't you try some things creatively that you haven't done before, not with a view to any of it being a possible career or with any kind of a result in mind, but more to just try and release yourself into Creativity and see what appears. It's  the idea of putting yourself into a right-brain freedom, doing things just for the joy of experimenting and opening up new pathways in self which may give you access to the yous that haven't seen the light of day yet.  The Artist's Way might help with this also.  Give yourself time, try not to pressure yourself, remember, in nature all growth occurs because of the ABSENCE of pressure.  Something is growing in you, and will emerge in its time - your job now is to give it space and time and nurture.  Lots of blessings! Lunalie on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-16358 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 12:41:21 +0000 Lunalie 16358@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Thanks Kash. I guess it's the earth trine/sextile I have that doesn't make it any easier with regards to this sort of self expression. Plus, the Leo North Node. I have this push-pull feeling regarding invisibility.  Anonymous on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-16339 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 10:52:54 +0000 Anonymous 16339@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ no you are not materialistic. never for get we are basically animals, and all animals groom. you could be a cat licking yourself obsessively or an ape picking gnats off of your fur, no matter. it depends on how far you want to take your grooming habits. my mother (also an aries) loves her creams and her jewelry and her clothes. Do you thing. don't worry about it. you like makeup, you like makeup. you have no one to answer to except yourself. Lunalie on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-16338 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 10:45:02 +0000 Lunalie 16338@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ mimi: I do understand what you're saying and I think about this all the time. I am not so much complaining about how I could buy things for the sake of buying them. I'm a creative person and this is my means of self-expression. I do not dress for anyone but myself. I'm pushing through this and it's not like I'm dying, really. I am just saying that a part of me - my creativity - feels really cut off. There's a huge difference. I don't care about who's styling for what and who gets to see me - not so much. it's really all about how I see myself and how I can express my creativity. If "looking good" and "owning things" was the sole purpose of my being, I would've gone back to find a job that is dissatisfying right now only so I can own things. I haven't done that yet and my first priority is to take care of my interests. So while I may be upset (and sometimes seemingly whiny) about this, it's not like I'm doing nothing to progress in my life. I'm really moving forward. I'm making sacrifices. I am just hit very hard that a huge part of me - my creativity - is being sacrificed. I wish I can just express myself through paintings, sculpture, singing or what not - like a traditional artist but this is not my medium.  mimi mottet on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-16195 Tue, 18 Aug 2009 21:52:43 +0000 mimi mottet 16195@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ I think you need to re=think this whole thing. Narcissism is a by product of your 20's and maybe into your 30's. After that you need to get real.  If you are in a business that values and worships beauty you are going to get sucked up in it's wake. OK, looking good is a priority for feeling good. But if you're down i on the  inside then nothing on the outside is going to help.  Go to clothing swaps, buy your cosmetics at Walmart, color your own hair, do a home spa on the cheap using stuff from the fridge. Get back to basics and be grateful for getting a reality check from the Universe. You are not your looks. You are not your brand name clothing or looking flashy or stylin all over the place. When everything is said and done you can take nothing with you but the good you leave behind. Look at what you have and not what you can't afford. Everyday look around and give thanks for what you have. That is how life gets better after the storm.    One thing that helped me when I was going thru a "poor" phase is remembering that there are kids starving in Africa walking around with no clothes on and haven't had a sip of clean water in years.   But I had the money for a chicken soft taco from Taco Bell. The Attitude is Gratitude.  Lunalie on "Clothing/Makeup as self-expression. Am I too materialistic?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/clothingmakeup-as-self-expression-am-i-too-materialistic#post-15983 Mon, 17 Aug 2009 13:23:58 +0000 Lunalie 15983@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ mudlikesubstance: I really like the idea! I just wish I can sew a lot better than I already do! In fashion school, my garments always look horrific because of my terrible sewing skills. Conceptually great, but the final garment is a mess! I wish refashioning was even an option but my sewing is horrific!  I would LOVE to offer personal shopping or closet cleanout services, but... what are my credentials? That's the thing I feel that I need (This is probably my Capricorn Midheaven speaking). I need to appear very much legit - and plus, like all else, I am not confident in recommending certain clothes to certain people. I wish I had that confidence! I couldn't even honestly dress myself appropriately though I think I have a strong idea how I would do so now. I think I will need to try this on a few friends first, and then maybe branch this out into a small business. I've always wanted a small business anyway :)   Dreams: Yes. I am actually working towards becoming a clothing stylist. I volunteer in an organization where I am one - for practice. Honestly, I would LOVE to work in a small boutique in Toronto just to get my feet wet from this again. But I'm struggling with a lot of things - mainly because this does not give me the money I need to pay my bills. Also, thanks for the pattern site! I've never seen this before! I usually go to Burdastyle forall my free patterning needs :) I also try to make my own as patternmaking was one of my stronger skills in fashion design, next to illustration/conceptual.   denamaria: I would love to get a decent paying job, but I am really not happy about going back into web design to provide myself with this income to feed my creativity. It came to the point that web design has been exhausting and it was killing me slowly. The reason why I know this: the company that laid me off was the best company I ever worked in. The people are great and everything is great. After working many years in organziations with very messed up office politics, I thought that was the solution to all my problems - I realized it was also the work. It wasn't suited for my personality. So yeah - I'd LOVE to work again, but it seems like the only option left for me is to go back to school because my skills are highly technical and will not be marketable int he people-related field I'm going for. So hence my sadness. Much as I would LOVE to earn enough to keep my creativity flowing, I cannot do something that doesn't suit my skills. I guess you can never have everything :( and I do volunteer for a non-profit and that is fun :) I help dress people. It's great :) I just wish I could dress myself so I can "look the part." Again - that's my Capricorn Midheaven speaking.