http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ElsaElsa Boards Topic: 7th House Moon doesn't want to partner? What? en Sun, 21 Mar 2010 11:28:01 +0000 http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-17077 Wed, 26 Aug 2009 18:15:55 +0000 mimitabby 17077@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>I like the get a second cellphone idea.</p> <p>You need your space. your mother needs to find another outlet.</p> <p>i have kids 28 and 30 and I really really try not to overwhelm them by calling them too often.&nbsp; I can't imagine going to therapy and agreeing to something and then going on the BLITZ.</p> <p>I'd start calling her old friend up and asking them to fix her up on blind dates.</p> <p>And the friendship with a married man? THAT can't be good.</p> <p>Good luck.<br />PUSH AWAY, you need to.</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-17070 Wed, 26 Aug 2009 17:59:04 +0000 Dawn 17070@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>You don't say who has the 7th house moon but by your post it sounds like it may be you. What house does your mother's moon fall in? Because mine falls in my&nbsp;8th on the&nbsp;cusp (I think)&nbsp;of my ninth&nbsp;and she is forever trying to control my life and is a real busy body! It took me years to extract myself! All of the above advice is very sage... </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-16556 Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:36:08 +0000 weo31 16556@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>And for the record... I am a Cancer Sun/Libra Moon/Gemini Rising.. Mom is an Aries Sun/Cancer Moon/Leo Rising.. Dad is Libra Sun/Aquarius Moon/Scorpio Rising and my sister is Pisces Sun/Pisces Moon/ Sag Rising </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-16555 Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:33:56 +0000 weo31 16555@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>Wow, I had no idea that so many others were going through the same ordeals.&nbsp; Here's my story. I am a 31 year old guy..youngest of 4. My parents are both older.. Mother is 64, Father is 72. My Mom has been in failing health for several years, due to Emphysema/COPD. </p> <p>Last year,&nbsp;1 month before my 30th birthday, I was layed off from my job as a Pharmacy Technician, my rent on my Apartment went up $200 bucks, I totaled my car.. and that is just for starters. My Mother went into a coma in July (a day before my birthday). I was asked to move back home, when she finally recovered (Which I had too anyway, because I could not find another job). I became the primary caregiver, though my Mom has ups and downs in her disease. </p> <p>For the most part my other 3 siblings refuse to do anything to help and I believe my father is in the begining stages of Dementia, but he will not see a doctor and won't admit it. Then my sister comes to &quot;help&quot;, yet the only thing she does is cook and brag to everybody about all the work she has done at my Moms house. (Although I am the one who actually does it).</p> <p>I am in the process of getting back on my feet and leaving them to deal with the hell, I'm done. Sometimes you can love someone and want to give them everything, but you can only give so much. </p> <p>It's really hard for me to know that I have to cut ties if I want to survive, but sometimes it's the onle way. </p> <p>I hope all you&nbsp;&nbsp;find your own answers and hopefully come away knowing that you have done all you can do. </p> <p>Thanks for sharing your stories.. It meant a lot to me to know I am not alone.&nbsp;</p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-11376 Fri, 10 Jul 2009 20:24:38 +0000 DreamsAreality 11376@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>Detach or Die!!!</p> <p>&nbsp;Oh my, that must be something akin to how you're feeling!&nbsp; Can you change phone numbers and/or get an additional cell-line and only use the new&nbsp;for your RL and the old one she knows, turn off the ringer, except for the appointed time of contact?????&nbsp; What does your boss say about her calling at work?&nbsp; </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-11196 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 21:36:52 +0000 hrae 11196@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>moonpluto- i feel unworthy of your compliment, but thank you <img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/icon_wink.gif" /></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>((jenfullmoon)) best of luck to you, and her- maybe a transit will pass your mom soon and shed some light unto her </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-11146 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:24:56 +0000 Jessica 11146@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>My best friend has her Pisces Moon AND Sun in 7th... and her Pisces Sun/Moon mom is like this too.... egads.&lt;!--Session data--&gt; </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-11143 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:22:49 +0000 jenfullmoon 11143@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>She wants every day, multiple times a day. Oprah and Gayle. I tried calling her every single day for over a year once and I got nearly suicidal. (If you ask her now, I never called her every day :P) I do worry about early onset Alzheimer's with her, but with the menopause and being a widow, that might be the cause too. So far nothing has come up at the doctor's other than her being recommended depression drugs that she won't take. I dread the day she comes down with dementia because then my life is over, so I hear you, daemoness.</p> <p>Every day that I talk to her on the phone I am crankier than other days (and it has been pointed out to me). I tend to not be home almost every night of the week so she can't call me (&quot;I'm in class&quot; and &quot;I'm working&quot; and &quot;I have a meeting&quot; help), but June was a pretty dead month and she got in the habit of knowing I'd be home whenever she felt like dialing. Which is 97% of the time :P</p> <p>I agree on the emergencies, but she clearly doesn't care about the crying wolf factor. Or she just can't tell what an &quot;emergency&quot; is. She called yet again (phone call #4) last night when I had a friend over and when I asked if it was an emergency she got all snotty at me.&nbsp; </p> <p>I probably shouldn't pick up. I just feel like I am stuck dealing with her call no matter what. She clogs the voice mail box to the point where I don't ever want to listen to ANY messages (if a real emergency comes up, I'm not going to know about it), she won't e-mail, she calls every phone number she can and I definitely can't not pick up her calls at work (no caller ID). </p> <p>I read some Dear Abby column the other day that was like this and Dear Abby was pretty much like, &quot;Just give in, she's never going to change.&quot; Sigh. Probably true. I just want to wring her neck these days AND I have to spend the weekend over there. I've seen her on almost every weekend since March. Argh.&nbsp; &nbsp; </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-11006 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 02:34:18 +0000 moonpluto 11006@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>You are very wise, hrae -- </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/7th-house-moon-doesnt-want-to-partner-what#post-10999 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 02:19:52 +0000 hrae 10999@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>hummm</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>&quot;We AGREED a few months ago that we would only have phone calls twice a week, Wednesdays and Sundays, but then she'd bitch that she couldn't call me on Mondays and what if something happened on Mondays and blah blah...&quot;</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>I don't mean to sound mean about you or your mom, but you stated your needs, she refused to respect them...but I also can't help but think you refused to respect them yourself...</p> <p>If that was the agreement, can't you go back to it, and be <em>very firm</em> in <em>only</em> answering on those days? It might take awhile for her to get it, but by showing her that you're not going to deal with it except in those time parameters, then that's the compromise. Or, the other thing, is telling her YOU will call HER at a certain time when it's convenient for you each day. And then don't pick up her calls in between. </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>As for emergencies, you will know them when they happen, right? If she makes everything seem like an emergency to her, then that's like the boy who cried wolf, and it only makes it worse for herself later.&nbsp; </p>