http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ElsaElsa Boards Topic: Anger, Projection, and Control en Fri, 19 Mar 2010 15:02:27 +0000 http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-34662 Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:20:31 +0000 daisynymph 34662@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>Opal, Moonpluto - most people rarely practice active listening and it never ceases to amaze people when they come across someone who does.&nbsp; Really, truly good listeners are hard to find and people don't know how to react when they meet one.&nbsp; They suddenly make it about them and assume that you are listening so well b/c of what THEY are saying to you....when it reality it is just in your nature.&nbsp; I have this happen to me as well.&nbsp; </p> <p>It is a compliment to you, though one I am sure you are willing to deny on many occasions.&nbsp; <img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/icon_wink.gif" /></p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-15279 Wed, 12 Aug 2009 10:12:31 +0000 Zara 15279@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>kashimiri is right about boundries. i have my sun, saturn and jupiter in the 12th. i have had major issues with a controlling mother and it wasnt until i set up boundries that things got a little peaceful. </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-13570 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 13:15:30 +0000 goddess 13570@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>people without boundaries don't like hitting yours. gets more challenging because we expect them to play by the same set of standards we do. they don't.</p> <p>on the plus side, if one of these folks is p.o.'d at you, it probably means you did a good job of setting your own boundaries. </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-13562 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 11:07:55 +0000 denamaria 13562@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>Wow! &nbsp;Kashmiri....good point...that makes sense. Because the feeling one gets if the other has no boundaries is to make up for it...</p> <p>Tam...I am going to try that too....what a great idea!&nbsp;</p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-13541 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 02:45:08 +0000 moonpluto 13541@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>I appreciate everyone's responses here -- I am grateful</p> <p>And I agree: people show up in our lives to teach us... </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-13536 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 02:32:27 +0000 Lunalie 13536@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>kashmiri:</p> <p>So basically, these energy vampires project their lack of boundaries onto the (12th house) person. That makes a lot of sense.&nbsp;</p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-13531 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 01:44:17 +0000 Anonymous 13531@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>These people are bit players or major players in your life depending on how you choose to see it...they show up to teach you something.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm as easily annoyed by the energy vampires as the next person but ultimately choosing to be the captain of our ship is more profitable, energy-reserve wise.&nbsp;</p> <p>I am pretty sure the reason why people get angry when you (euphemistically) stick up for yourself and define your boundaries is because THEY ARE UNABLE TO DEFINE THEIR OWN...</p> <p>I have Neptune in the 12th and have loads of compassion for most anyone but it is in aspect to Saturn and have had to learn to turn off the tap. it's like water...it ain't going to stay clean and free-flowing forever if we allow the source to be poisoned.</p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-13523 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 00:21:55 +0000 Lunalie 13523@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>Tam:</p> <p>That's a great way of dealing with a situation like that!&nbsp;</p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-13521 Wed, 29 Jul 2009 23:56:29 +0000 Anonymous 13521@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>&quot;Basically the power dynamic is unbalanced from the beginning, so perhaps setting firmer boundaries from the start would stop you getting sucked into these situations. &quot; Lightbulb! Good words Opal, good words. </p> http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/anger-projection-and-control#post-13519 Wed, 29 Jul 2009 23:47:29 +0000 Tam 13519@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ <p>I feel for you. You and Jessica both did great though! </p> <p>I have&nbsp; <img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/sun.gif" />,<img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/mercury.gif" />,<img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/mars.gif" /> and north node in the 12th AND a <img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/pisces.gif" /> 10th house. People tell me who I am and what I think and feel. So I made a Gemini game out of it just for my own amusement. I say &quot;really, give me an example&quot; they then stammer because they can't give an example of me thinking or feeling whatever they projected on me. Game over. <img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/icon_smile.gif" /></p> <p>I have a lot of compassion for people, but they totally take advantage then get furious if I take up for myself. Jeez. </p>