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ElsaElsa Boards Topic: Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you? http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ElsaElsa Boards Topic: Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you? en Fri, 30 Jul 2010 12:23:22 +0000 luci on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you/page/2#post-36323 Wed, 06 Jan 2010 09:43:27 +0000 luci 36323@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Yeah,adding my comments way late: Sounds like a personality issue, is all. It's how he is in a situation with his buddies, and he's probably bragging about you. ;)  The yawning? Well...I had a hard time learning that men have this genetic dislike to eye contact during deep conversations, myself. It's true. They look everywhere but at you - and it seems like they're not paying attention. But they ARE. Figured this out as pretty much the case when I realized that if we were in the car and he was driving while we were talking about something, it felt different. Becuase he had something to FOCUS ON while we were talking and he wasn't as uncomfortable. persian_cat on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you/page/2#post-31170 Wed, 25 Nov 2009 03:51:40 +0000 persian_cat 31170@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Aw Bananas.  You're just one lovestruck woman.  Get your ass off here.  I'm envious. omie on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you/page/2#post-31103 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 16:38:31 +0000 omie 31103@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ God I love what you just wrote. Nicely said, and a whole lot of meat there. Bananas on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you/page/2#post-31079 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 14:47:43 +0000 Bananas 31079@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Satori, I try... sometimes I forget. :) I always have one coping skill or another that I try to think about ahead of time for when I get hot under the collar over something he does or says. And then when it happens, I draw a complete blank! Love. That keeps coming up, like you either you know you love someone or you don't. Well, sure I love him but to me there are different levels and types of love.  There's the love you have for a friend which is unconditional yet ironically noncommittal. You can love a partner like that for their wonderful qualities, but decide they don't give you what you need, or "a committed relationship with them won't work," and so you can't be WITH them. I love him this way but that doesn't ensure that it would WORK with us, see? There's romantic love. Check, yes. Attraction, sentimental feelings, tenderness, a quixotic vision of our coupling, yes. And then there's spousal love. The mature, dependable and dependant love that endures through weight gains and weight loss, holiday disagreements, job losses, mortgages, sleepless nights up with the kids, farting, family feuds, funerals, relocations, stock mark crashes, health issues, miscarriages, decisions to adopt, dull nights in front of the TV, awkward moments with friends' wives, business losses, meddling in-laws, the list goes on. These are all very unsexy things, but they are the things that, if persevered through, make a relationship stronger. That's real, committed love to me, and do we have what it takes to get there? Well, hell, I don't know but we need to work on getting the basics down. Does that answer your question, ladies? satori on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you#post-31071 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 13:52:50 +0000 satori 31071@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ do you think he really loves you?  do you really love him?  one thing to do might be to get baby pictures of HIM and then look at them when he yawns.  :) I think it was Gandhi that said, "be the change you want to see in the world."  Bananas on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you#post-31068 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 13:27:44 +0000 Bananas 31068@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ I know you did. :) S'okay. Liz on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you#post-31067 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 13:25:33 +0000 Liz 31067@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Ya I know bananas. I had one so i'm pining. :/ Sorry about that.   Bananas on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you#post-31065 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 13:13:38 +0000 Bananas 31065@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Girl, you betta find that Pisces. I've noticed you mention your longing for another Pisces pretty frequently. I have this image in my mind of you roaming the world, metaphorically, peeking in every doorway and window for that Pisces. Go get him! And make sure he has lots of air in his chart for that chatty moon of yours! This morning I got a call from the man, reporting a dream he had where some guy was blatantly hitting on me in front of him and he was getting mad. First of all, who the hell would hit on me but I find that so amusing/comforting. We have mutual jealousy, yeah baby. Scorpio moon and Taurus getting together for some smothering possession. Love it. Liz on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you#post-31060 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 12:40:58 +0000 Liz 31060@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Bananas, I do prefer other saturn signs. Just feel that at least saturn in gems will listen to me vent. :P Really enjoyed dating a saturn in virgo and working with a saturn in taurus during my saturn return. Very supportive people to me. Also enjoyed dating pisces.. because they can always just give me a hug. :)   Bananas on "Do people fool themselves into thinking they love you?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/do-people-fool-themselves-into-thinking-they-love-you#post-31035 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 05:51:27 +0000 Bananas 31035@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Liz: I would think that a Saturn in Gemini (disciplinarian, father figure) would downplay or pooh-pooh your Gemini moon (emotions). Like this: Gemini Moon: I'm so upset about a, b, and c. ::crying:: Gemini Saturn: Aw, come on now... you're making a big deal over nothing. Actually (lightbulb coming on) I know this for a FACT! My MOTHER has a Gemini moon. We have inspired talks (I'm a Libra after all, lots of air) but I never took her emotional reactions seriously.  I'm getting older now, understanding her more, and realizing what my Saturn has the potential to ruin. So I let her have her reactions and remain more open minded when there's a problem. I realized that she needs someone "in her corner" more than she gets. But I think for as long as a person remains unaware of their Saturn (not you, I mean non-astrology types like my man), I think they limit their potential to empathize with another person.