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ElsaElsa Boards Topic: How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer? http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ElsaElsa Boards Topic: How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer? en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:46:32 +0000 luci on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10787 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:51:08 +0000 luci 10787@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ I can honestly say I'm not like that., what you describe. I'm not friends with any of my exes, nor do I want to be - I don't want to hang around someone I don't respect. I've cut people out of MY life before (family, none the less) have never looked back. And no, I haven't contacted her in these six years. Not once. Yes, I'm regretful I did what I did. No, I'm not guilt-ridden and agonizing over it; just the loss of a close friend that "got me" in a way no one else ever has before.  Fuck, I can't change the past; it'd be pretty stupid to feel that guilty over it. Regret and guilt are leagues apart. But I DO value her as a friend and a person which was why I thought about it.      And you know what? Typing all that out just helped solidify the reasons why contacting her is a bad idea.  So I'm double sticking by my choice, now. Bretagne on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10784 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:44:22 +0000 Bretagne 10784@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ by the way, Good luck Luci.<img src="/my-plugins/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/icon_smile.gif" />   Bretagne on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10783 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:43:55 +0000 Bretagne 10783@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Pisces love to reminisce about there past lovers and friends. I have noticed it is soooo hard for them to emotionally detach from people they use to be involved with. My friend who is a Pisces does this all the time. He constantly tries to rekindle friendships or relationships when they have expired. The best thing to do is live and learn and then move on. You apologized and still it didn't help, there is a reason you haven't been friends for 6 years. You can go ahead and try to talk to her and see where you both stand. But I'm sure that durning these 6 years you at least tried once to contact her and the results weren't good. Do you want to rekindle more so to show her that you are indeed a good person, even if you hooked up with her Ex. Is it guilt? My Pisces friends do this, they feel guilty and want to prove to the other. When really they need not to prove anything, except love themselves and move on. luci on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10470 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 02:38:41 +0000 luci 10470@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ I don't know. I think I have my closure. I know how she feels and I really don't have to do too much probing to figure how she feels NOW. What I'm famous for is not being able to stand the EMOTION behind it all, and looking for something to ease the pain. Dragging us both through why she was pissed at me AGAIN isn't going to heal that. And since all signs point to "Dumb idea, Luci", I think I'll just let sleeping dogs lie.  denamaria on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10462 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 01:26:40 +0000 denamaria 10462@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Luci..you have gotten alot of good advice here and from the people you really needed to hear it from....another Cancer (astrologically speaking).  You mentioned your friend being a Cancer and you are a Pisces, as Toni said..."I think this is out of astrology now"..and it may be and only you know what that is. I am Mars in Cancer and I wrote how I did react and others like Moonpluto (Cancer) and Shell (Mars in Cancer) told you how they would feel under these circumstances or what they would do. I am also Venus in Pisces and I am thinking you want some kind of closure to this..forgiveness, that she has forgotten it, she hasn't either from what you wrote....so I don't know.  Maybe you need to have a finality...no matter how it turns out...good or bad...but, a finale....then, you can move on from this.  I can sense your angst through your words, chica!  Toni on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10460 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 00:56:25 +0000 Toni 10460@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Hmm, in my honest opinion, I have a hesitant feeling about you reconciling with her. Your relationship is too poisoned and there's wayyy too much tension. I would 'learn to lay it aside' or let this one die out slowly. It may take years for you to not make a big deal out of this anymore, but it's better for you, a Pisces, to let it fade over the years than to make more bad memories of her slamming the door in your face. I know laying something aside isn't easy, but it's better than putting more poison into this already shaky relationship. This thing is out of astrology, but if we were to talk astrology, then here it is: Cancers do not let go easily! Too bad you didn't offend an Gemini or Sagittarius, they might at least have a chance of forgiving you.   luci on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10443 Sun, 05 Jul 2009 21:01:11 +0000 luci 10443@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Thanks, Shell. It's just sort of...she's the only person I've ever met that really GOT me, ya know?  shell on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10437 Sun, 05 Jul 2009 20:00:15 +0000 shell 10437@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ I too have Venus in Virgo in the 11th, and Mars in Cancer.....couldn't tell you exactly the astrological connection to this....but I would be LIVID if one of my friends did that.  I know everyone is human, I'm sure it was a mistake, and I'm sure you learned a valuable lesson from it.  To second Tess, I get physically wound up just at the thought of one of my friends doing that to me, I would eventually forgive in my heart...but I just couldn't ever let it go.  Perhaps it's that Cancer Mars.  I think it'd be best to let it go, because she will always be suspicious of you.  I think with that Venus in Virgo in the 11th...it's important for our friends to be consistently trustworthy, and even though your intent wasn't to hurt her and you learned from your mistake...I doubt she'll EVER see you the same as she did beforehand and with the same level of admiration as you do her. I think it's kind of an offense to mankind that you don't think you'll find another friend as intelligent as you two =)  I'm sure there is another soul out there that you can connect with on that level again....and it will be a clean slate, you don't have to worry about being untrusted and the such. Best wishes, Luci! moonpluto on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10432 Sun, 05 Jul 2009 19:05:18 +0000 moonpluto 10432@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ For the record, never used the word "force" -- did talk about control. I'll keep my opinions to myself now. DreamsAreality on "How To Make Amends With Prickly Cancer?" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/how-to-make-amends-with-prickly-cancer#post-10427 Sun, 05 Jul 2009 18:19:53 +0000 DreamsAreality 10427@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Ummm, when it does feel right Luci, do you have an address where you could drop her a short note about your thoughts on the matter and give her a return address and phone number?  Then, the onus is on her if she wishes to either connect or remain at the distance.