ElsaElsa Boards Topic: That Jealousy Thing Again

ElsaElsa Boards Topic: That Jealousy Thing Again http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ElsaElsa Boards Topic: That Jealousy Thing Again en Fri, 19 Mar 2010 13:50:44 +0000 Piya on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27670 Sun, 01 Nov 2009 18:09:49 +0000 Piya 27670@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ This is one thing I love about this community. (Nearly) Everyone has such good advice. Luci, I hope you are able to put some of this stuff into reality <3 user on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27637 Sun, 01 Nov 2009 14:14:06 +0000 user 27637@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ The part about the swimming hurt me a lot to read. He's off swimming and having fun doing something he knows you also like to do (and even if he forgot, you've reminded him). Somewhere out there, there is a man (or more than one) who wants to go swimming with you, but you'll never meet him if you are with this guy. TAH on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27608 Sat, 31 Oct 2009 20:00:59 +0000 TAH 27608@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Hi Lucy and company,  So sorry to hear what you're going through.  From what I see: He's cheating on you, but because he's rationalizing it, you have no hard evidence for yourself to present to him to back up why you should leave him.  This is how I see it because I was in a situation like this. And you're watery (Pisces?), so it's so hard to leave.  For me, I must admit I put up with a lot of shit before I'm over it. But I can't bring myself to break up with anyone. I've never broken up with anyone before. But sometimes I'm already over the person, I'm just waiting for them to break up with me. It sounds kinda horrible, but that's what my pattern is. For you, of course I don't want to tell you what to do, and am only here to offer support and advice, and an empathetic heart. Maybe you'll leave. Maybe you'll wait till he leaves you. Maybe it'll take you more or less time to get over it all.  In any case, my bottom line is: I hope it does end, for your happiness and your emotional health. You don't deserve to be this unhappy. You deserve to be treated well, and to feel loved. If you are feeling unloved by the person who should be loving you, that is plenty of reason to start separating yourself from then, whether it be slowly or suddenly. Best of luck, and I think I can safely say here that we're all rooting for you. :)  ram on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27582 Sat, 31 Oct 2009 12:25:24 +0000 ram 27582@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ((((luci)))) I'd like to add something but Notariem really said all I ever wanted to add :-) I think you can take as much time as you want to get over the guy...but the relationship seems to me already finished... acknowledge this will preserve you form having more disappointed expectation towards his behaviour.... he seems to be used to be a "good friend"...could he be that for you until the day you make it to move out? sorry, I'm just a saturnish libra and this is my best advice for a pisces "-)   HarinderSeera on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27580 Sat, 31 Oct 2009 11:54:29 +0000 HarinderSeera 27580@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Hey Luci, sorry to hear that you have to deal with this kind of shit but here is an advice from a male and it is MOVE ON. I am sure you could do better with your life, without him. You don't wanna be with someone who doesn't treat you well.  miss on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27471 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 04:55:06 +0000 miss 27471@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ ((((luci)))) I am sorry you have to deal with this shit. I have been there and it sucks!! Take care of yourself and know that you already know the answers. xoxo SaDiablo on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27468 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 04:07:52 +0000 SaDiablo 27468@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ 'They say that having an emotional relationship is considered cheating. So if you're friends, and friend is having emotional issues and talks to you about it, it's cheating." No, that's not emotional cheating.  Emotional cheating is when you go to an outside party with things that, by rights, you should be telling your partner about.  When you view your partner as "just that person you go home to at night," and get all of your emotinal intimacy from someone else, that's an emotional affair.  If you're worried about your job, your parents, your relationship, what have you, and the first person you go to for comfort and advice isn't your partner, then you've already emotionally checked out of your relationship and are actively working to kill it completely.  IMHO, of course. satori on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27464 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:37:25 +0000 satori 27464@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ hey Mimi, this was a thread about luci's personal situation.  I don't know how anyone else feels but personally I would feel attacked if your comment were leveled at my personal support thread. there's already a thread about friends/exes/jealousy in general.  or a person could start a fresh one.  but since your comment is HERE I'm going to respond to it: no one has all the answers, including you.  feel free to get all judgey, and I'll feel free to be PISSED.  mimi mottet on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27462 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:23:01 +0000 mimi mottet 27462@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Relationships are so complicated, heart wrenching and traumatic it's a wonder any of us even go there. I have lots to say over friendship type relationships between men and women. They say that having an emotional relationship is considered cheating. So if you're friends, and friend is having emotional issues and talks to you about it, it's cheating. For God's sake, what the hell are friends suppose to do? Walk around talk about the weather? Are we suppose to go thru life and only have friends from XYZ groups so as not to rock the boat? And if all the rules of proper social interaction are broken, well you have a two timing jerk on your hands. We might as well wear HazMat suits the rest of our fucking life if all these damn rules and regulations of proper social interaction between men and women are broken. How about bringing back ball and chains so we can let everyone know this one is taken. Stay away and don't touch.  This is the most screwed up planet I've ever lived on. No wonder I'm misunderstood. Get married or hitched, live in an exclusive bubble and don't dare look at another person of the opposite sex. No wonder relationships don't last. Gotta come up for air sometime.   Ro on "That Jealousy Thing Again" http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/that-jealousy-thing-again#post-27444 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 01:38:41 +0000 Ro 27444@http://boards.elsaelsa.com/ Exactly, Goddess.  Haha are you agreeing with my statement, or not?  I'm kind of confused.     But what I'm saying is I've had to make myself uncomfortable a few times and do a few things I may have not done if I were single for the sake of my relationship.  Because it mattered, and the guy mattered.  And I wanted it to work.  That's just how it should work, in my opinion. :)