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I'm bitter. but I keep trying to move forward. and I delude myself a lot. pisces sun, capricorn moon.
I got about half way through that article and gave up in disgust. Reminds me why I stopped reading newspapers. Honestly, if anyone buys into all that media bullshit about how 'we' are supposed to live our lives, then of course they won't be happy. I'm getting happier as I get older only because I work hard at facing the demons, try to deal in reality rather than fantasy , and try to be human, whatever that may turn out to be. Carve your own path.
Right on, Opal.
Maureen Dowd is often full of horseshite, so I take anything that comes out of her face with a grain of salt. I can't think of anybody who's particularly fancy-free at the moment, categorically speaking. Maybe the superrich or trust fund babies... and I doubt it even then. We all like to compete in the Oppression Olympics.
That said, I'm pretty happy right now, overall. The thing I'm working on is indeed not caring so much, just flowing and letting things go. Who cares if certain people like me? Who cares if you can't fit into my life? So I've got to build my own furniture and pump my own gas and do my own taxes and keep kissing frogs till I find the right toad for me. Whatever. If it's going to work, it's going to work, if it ain't, it ain't.
That's hard for a power-mad, control freak Cancerian to say, let alone do. But I'm done being a bag of misery. Gonna try this joy and fun thing for a spell, while I've got the chance, see if lives up to the hype.
Satori -- I just read all about Cap moons in "Person to Person Astrology". I had a little dejavu with your description.
Tam -- that is fantastic!
a good friend asked me this this morning, and I said no. Then again we hadn't seen each other in a while and I was being bombarded with "how's work" "how's school" "how's that man" "how's your family" and all the questions made me feel like I was facing a firing squad. Just trying to stay sane and finding small joys where I can. In things like cheese.
Moon today is conjunct my natal Pluto and squaring my natal Moon in Capricorn. I'm sure when the Moon hits Sagittarius and my ASC in a few days I will feel more upbeat.
I've been pretty unhappy for months now...but the moment I jump into the car and drive to the beach, or end up doing something completely spontaneous...I"M exhilerated. Guess happiness is fleeting? No need to hold onto it...or anything in life. Letting go is the most beautiful feeling in the word.
Sag sun/aries moon:)
I am happy. Scorpio moon can be a bit (understatement) brooding. Gemini sun + Merc and Jupiter get bored with that. My Aquarius man lifts me up or kicks my ass depending on which is needed when I get too mopey. :)
Hapiness is a kind of a mind thing, so when I want to be happy I kind of force myself but Im not spontaneously happy. The world is crazy, how can we be ? I see too much the reality of everything and the defaults and can do nothing or at least not much
If someone asks whether I'm happy, and I have to think about it, I'm usually something other than happy (at the moment). It's a Gemini thing :)
Overall I am pretty happy. I do get overwhelmed with all the shit that needs to get done on a daily basis, but even then I feel lucky that I have my family to take care of, messes and all. Don't get me wrong there are times that I do bitch about it,lol.
neva, I'm also a Cancer and am in a similar place. I'm surprisingly happy right now. I think part of it is that I'm constrained at the moment, my options are limited, which is actually making me happier because I know there's no point in dreaming or trying for other things at the moment. I have no planets in Earth, so maybe this grounding is something other people experience naturally.
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rising. 
Hmm Happiness, I know happiness is all in the mind but my mind seems very scattered most of the time. (
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I may be happy for a moment but it never seems to last long enough, I feel 
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keeps me down or depressed. But I like to hear that other people are happy or working through the shit. 
But I must say for not having much happiness in my life at the moment, I appreciate what I have and the simple pleasures.
Yay user and neva - fellow cancerians :)
Happiness? I'm not sure what that means - I can talk about meaning, creativity, the quotidian.... but happiness? Not sure...
(The lovely and good smelling waitress just served me a huge plate of food. Ah, happiness....)
(Assuming heterosexuality) women who are with men are happier then those who are not.
Terribly UN-pc but true.
I guess I should have finished / started or completed my thought. If you are unhappy it may be the fault you find with men. Women who get along with men tend to be happier is what I'm saying. We (women as a species) do not fare as well without men as we have fooled ourselves into thinking and I expect Saturn in Libra will bring this to the front.
People who buy into the pond scum are unhappy. There is this alternate reality that exists on the surface of our consciousness, most vividly expressed in the media that says all these things about how women and men should behave, what they should want, what are salient measures of success, etc. Some people look into that warped reflection of reality and say, "Yeah thats about right." and those people are not just unhappy, but totally oblivious as to why.
true to pisces, i need lots of time alone... but my innate nature, is one of contentment, inspite of everything
sun/moon pisces
I think both women and men have a tough time being who they are. It's an uphill battle a lot of the time. I think that's what makes people unhappy, women or men.
A square peg isn't going to be happy in a round hole. Plus, the whole consumerism thing is a self-made prison of misery as well.
Bah, who wants a life without men? SOOOOO boring.
I think we are generally about as happy as we decide to be. I am pretty fuckin' happy. Bouncy, even. Sure, I have moments but who doesn't? They are moments, they don't define me.
Astrology? 1H Sun/Saturn/Asc in Gemini opposite 7H Moon/Neptune in Sag
Happiness is clearly extremely subjective, in the least, considering all these great response.
I just want to interject here also and add that I don't endorse Maureen Dowd in any way (or the NY Times). The article only sent my mind reeling about this strange topic of American women being more unhappy these days due to the added stress from both family and professional life.
I guess I should have finished / started or completed my thought. If you are unhappy it may be the fault you find with men. Women who get along with men tend to be happier is what I'm saying. We (women as a species) do not fare as well without men as we have fooled ourselves into thinking and I expect Saturn in Libra will bring this to the front.
This perspective is interesting to me because as a woman who has always gotten along with men (be it gay or straight), it's been a struggle for me to get along with women. I've always wanted to ... I just didn't know how; I think I'm learning to be better now.
Elsa, am I correct in deducing what you mean -- that even though some women are perfectly happy being single, if they can't get along with men they are unhappy?
Piya I am saying this very un-pc thing: Women who are with men (raising their kids or whatever) are happier than those who are without men.
By and large this is true... there are of course exceptions.
As to what you say... I do agree if you can get along with both sexes on this planet you are liable to be happier because if otherwise, you've got a hell of a lot of people you've got to avoid and the energy this takes will make you cranky.
I'm as happy as possible under the circumstances LOL.
Tomorrow is the autumnal equinox - BALANCE yay - so I will think about that & the sun going into Libra
Good question...
I am happy to be partnered up.
But I am happy because I am wrestling with a lot of issues within me: the concept of perfection and such. In this day and age, it seems like the struggle is to not only be a supermom and a career woman but also some sort of beauty queen. I've struggled with this all my life, and since then, I haven't felt like a woman until recently - because my partner helps me acknowledge the "woman" in me to the point where I go far and wide to do bits and pieces of self-discovery.
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Are you happy and what's the astrology?
Is this trend of more responsibilities for women = more stress/depression, something that spans through other cultures (I know there are quite a few international ladies here)?
I think I'm generally happy outwardly, though I have my moods/emotional periods. But I don't have a ton of responsibilities, I don't have children, I'm living with my fiance and I'm not currently in school. Pisces Sun/Taurus Asc/Cancer Moon.