I thought of sharing this earlier but decided not to.. now I think I will and hope for the best.

My ex accidently called me on my cell on the 14th. The older pisces. It was a planets in sag and pisces uranian day. We got caught up and I gave him my mailing address for him to mail an xmas card. He had dialed the wrong number completely.

I thought about boundaries and did not send him one even though my libra wondered if i should.. in reciprocity.

At the time I rolled with it but the call did unnerve me the next day.

I had had a sex dream about him the night or 2 before.

But onward I went back to online dating.. only to encounter the creep. We chatted through yahoo messenger under a pisces moon and he seemed too good to be true.. which i figured and he was. Once we talked on the phone he wouldn't actually listen to me or converse with me lol. Just wanted to compliment me and fantasize about who he thought I was. So I emailed him after telling him I didn't think we were compatible which lead to him finding my cell number and email addresses and contacting me with more compliments and projection. VERY unnerving.. especially with my pluto square coming up in 2011. A friend of mine had a stalker during his square and I'm worried I'll attract one. 

Then on the 23rd I received an xmas card and gift card from the ex.. for yoga clothes. Made me cry. He really knows me so in comparison it was really overwhelming. He has a cap moon. 

I have libra planets in the 12th and pluto going through my 3rd house. 

An ex popping up this time of year must be especially confusing.....is there a chance you could get back together?  Sounds like you definitely still have feelings for him, maybe him for you too?  

(That stalker guy, ick, creepy - I certainly hope he goes away!)

Hi Liz, that's a great story! I wish I had an ex who was that sweet. I did something similar for an ex on Christmas (left a bottle of Italian wine and a nice note on his doorstep), but haven't had one do such a generous act towards me. I'd say the sensitive, generous ones are definitely *keepers*!

I can also relate to you about the creeps on the internet, which is why I won't date on the internet. In contrast however, I had someone label ME a stalker when in fact I was only giving him compliments and attention. This is someone who I was actually seeing though, not a random internet person. Got pissed off about my kindness and outgoing friendly nature I guess, I certainly never meant anything harmful or a false projection (though maybe he wasn't entirely what I thought).

I do have a *favorite* ex who, every holiday (and often on random days in between), we always send each other a nice flirty text  or email note. This has actually been happening a lot in recent months. We have made it a point to stay in touch, though many many years have gone by since we've seen each other (other than virtually). We dated on and off from 1999-2002. I think our attraction is still as strong as ever though, and *coincidentally* both of us are still single! We just texted each other again yesterday... ahhhh

you didn't say why the ex is an ex. i would focus less on the comparison, and more on those issues if you're having second thoughts, to make an informed decision. but beware of seeing it as him or stalker, because those are not your only two options.

good luck.

Sorry Goddess and Dorothy. We aren't together because I want kids (or at least try) and he doesn't since he's too old (35 and 59). The old pluto in capricorn kick in the nuts and the opposite saturn/uranus which was saturn in my 11th and uranus in my 5th, and right on his sun in pisces and 2nd saturn return. Also I think because he has saturn in his 5th and uranus in his 11th which hurts my brain. He's in great health and while with me his slightly high blood pressure evened out, but he also has the fact that he had a heart attack around 50 and is watching his parents age into their mid 80s.

So if we are together then it will be without children and I'm not ready to accept that just yet. And I keep wondering about it because in truth I have a huge extended family that i love dearly and don't have to actually have in my daily life. I am living at home and am enjoying being close to my niece and nephews who are 18months, 4 years and 7 years old. Being with him means moving back to the city I was living in and not watching them grow up quite so closely. I find it deeply rewarding being in their life as Aunt Liz, changing diapers and the lot. 

But in trying to move on with my life I'm struck by the darkness of dating while others are desperate for the same thing. The creep was pure control. While the love with him was real and respectful from day one. These are definitely saturn in libra square pluto in capricorn issues to be worked out. 

I'll be back to dating properly in the new year. And the children issue should be resolved once saturn enters scorpio and can bridge the opposition that pushed it apart.. so I have 2-3 years lol. 

My sister is virgo and is finally past her pluto square pluto and has found a man incredibly compatible for her and she may end up married and pregnant in the spring.. when for the last year she has been dealing with the super controlling ex who's the father of her 7 year old and didn't think having more children was even close to on her current agenda. So I see what is possible. Will have to get out there and keep dating to learn more. :P

The cell just range again but ended before I reached it. It was the ex again but no message left. Guess he realized who he was accidently calling again. Ouch. Might be time to ask him to take my number off his cell if he's going to be accidently dialing me? So sad to me.

I went on a date last night.. more friend vibe than romantic. Have another coffee date this weekend. 

Have an interview tomorrow.

Pluto in 3rd and saturn now in my 12th moving to my libra venus/pluto/sun and mars. Feel like my back door is open and all kinds of people are wandering in lol.

Liz, good for you for putting yourself out there and going on dates. I think it's awesome, and brave.