Anyone want to cop to this?  What is the end game here?

no.

Never. Does neither of us any good.

no, not people I don't like...but I have been guilty of dating people I felt very lukewarm about, hoping things would hot up.  And of course, they didn't.  The rationalization was I needed to give them a chance, that many romances started off very slow.  But honestly there's either a glimmer of interest or there is not, and I usually know it within a short time.  So anything else is fooling both of us and not fair to the other person.

No. That's a recipe for disaster... & it's unfair to the other person =(

I'll cop.  I used to do this but haven't in a long time.  So many reasons why I use to.

Here are some of them: something, even if crappy was better than nothing.  Negative attention is still attention.  I didn't like being alone with myself, sheeze if your a jerk then I'm not.    I liked everyone else better than I liked myself.

Not someone I didn't like...but yes, I haue dated to ease loneliness (mine and theirs) or cause I was up for an adventure.

Um, how do you know you don't like 'em, unless you date 'em ? ::scratches head::

Nope.  Prefer to be alone than to have a mediocre relationship or even mediocre dating experiences.

The thing is... I have too much Uranus to even date. It does make avoiding uncool (erm, persons of bad moral character) very easy. 

Do You Date People You Don't Like To Fill A Void OrTo Stave Off Loneliness?

NOPE!!! but i would probably avoid dating someone i like, just so i dont lose my "loneliness".

Yes, I'll cop to it. I only did it for about a six-month period a few years back. I was estranged from the love of my life and went a little crazy trying to convince myself that I didn't care and was still happy. Dated a couple of guys that were in no way right for me, just to keep the distraction going. It's not something I'd do again - I wasn't being even remotely true to myself.

I have never dated anyone I didn't like but, like brizo and bluerose, I have dated people to stave off loneliness.

On my end, I'm very upfront about it and, to be quite honest, I don't know why any of my partners have stuck around after I've made it very clear that they're a placeholder.  I wouldn't stand for it if the tables were reversed.  I have always liked the person, though.  I just didn't want anything deep or exclusive with them.  *shrugs*

Why is this so bad? This isn't my reality but I could seriously give a shit if someone else does this. I know some really REALLY lonely people--catastrophically lonely. I couldn't blame them for dating someone they weren't super hot for. Many humans crave contact and there is scientific proof that it's good for your immune system. Amongst other things. Why is individual life so valued in western society? I don't get it.

Not that I recall.  I did have a chat at work with a 30 something who was doing the internet thing.  I told her I never dated anyone that someone else didn't know.  If there wasn't a 6 degrees of seperation working, I wouldn't give it a second thought.  She on the other hand invited a stanger in her house with plans to cook him dinner.  He said he wasn't hungry, he had a hot dog before he came and brought a six pack.  I think my eyes exploded outta my head.  Of course I didn't mention Elsa's morning post about the serial cannibal or anything, but I was SHOCKED.  Is it me?

Uh, no it isn't you. I wouldn't invite some stranger over to my house with his six pack. Why is it shocking though? People are weird. They do weird stuff!

No, I haven't yet. I've thought about it a few times, but it's not something I could stomach personally. If venus/saturn/pluto doesn't get along with someone, she's not going to waste valuable time, power, and resources for little to no return on her investment. I'm happier in my own company than in the company of someone I dislike.

Just my continuing thoughts from the extreme side of celibacy/hermit crabness. : )

Ooh -- that doesn't sit right with me. 

When I was 19/20, I did go out with men other people suggested I spend time with, or once my boss told me to go out with a friend of hers to the New York Film Festival because he'd bought her a ticket and she couldn't go (and he was closer to my age anyway), so I did. But I didn't know it was a date...I thought I was just filling in. But it was the NY Film Festival, hello! Who passes that up. I figured we'd stop at McDonald's for dinner cuz I was just a butt in the seat. He took me to an AWESOME African restaurant, bought dinner, and then when he brought me to my place, he asked if we could hang out again. I was like "sure, that would be cool -- you know where I work..." He was very nice -- lovely company. I was 19 and honestly, I thought he was about 40, so I figured we were just companions for the evening. apparently he was like 25 :P Ruff. I felt really bad. I didn't mean to lead him on. My mom also worked with a mid-20s guy from France who was lonely in the states and just wanted to go out sometimes. She had him take me out to dinner and a movie "unromantically" one night. It was weird as hell LOL He was nice, but very distant and hard to read. I felt like a baby. I went out with him because my mom said I could! LOL I wasn't trying to get a free dinner out of it -- I offered to pay for my dinner, but he insisted on paying anyway. I didn't know what to do :/ So it wasn't intentional, but I did spend time with these gentleman to change things up a bit. I didn't realize they were dates, if they were :P A little oblivious, you could say...

Did this a bit when I was young. 5th house Stellium is able to generate romance whenever/wherever she wants it, even if it's just BS. Experimenting right now to see if I can do it again at midlife post-divorce to stave off loneliness. Not sure I can anymore; too aware of hurting others. End game would be place holding until the one I want is available, or until a new love shows up.

It's not that you don't like them -- you just don't really "like" them like that... Unsuitable for a real relationship.
Really, I think I just need to get laid, but want the pretense of a "boyfriend." Too old for a hookup.

I'm sure Saturn is gonna give me a hard smack down if I do this right now...

I have sun, merc, venus & saturn in scorpio and dating has always felt weird to me.  Even though I really did try to step out of my "comfort zone"  i.e..boys from the neighborhood, when I was in my early 20's it never quite worked for me.

So, I can't even imagine dating someone I don't like just for something to do.  Some of the best times of my adult life have been my celibate phases.  We Scorpios are very good at being celibate for long periods of time.  Maybe... that is why when we are in a relationship we get the sex crazy reputation.

@Kashmiri... you said "Many humans crave contact and there is scientific proof that it's good for your immune system. Amongst other things."

This is true! I don't think it's wrong to date someone you aren't all that into, & it may well be a solution for certain folks! I just don't want to "make do" & I don't want anyone making do with me. In fact, if I did do that, it would make me feel even more lonely! I tried it once, it ended badly all round.

I make do with a LOT... in fact most other things I'm flexible on, but romantic relationships don't seem to work the same way. It makes things hard, there's no doubting that, so I get you saying it makes no sense. I guess some people are "all or nothing" & some aren't... the aren't ones may well be the lucky ones in the end!

Yes, I did once. However, I prefer to be alone than with the wrong person or with someone for the wrong reasons.

I had a friend who dated someone she was meh about. She kept him around "for the holidays" so she wouldn't be lonely and had a date for parties.

Unconsciously. It was a disaster. I've seen others now around me do the same and they end up in disaster as well, needless to say, I've become a lot more critical of my own motives and I'm more discriminating. I used to just date anyone who asked just because I didn't put much thought into it and I was like, well whatever. Not so anymore. If I'm not into a guy, I'm not into it. 

I didn't even realize it until the relationship was over and then it all went downhill after that and it didn't end easily or happily. There was a lot of mutual bitterness. I think we both idealized each other to the point that we no longer paid attention to the things we disliked and just shoved it under because there was no one else around.

Anyway, I was crushing on this Virgo guy and he lied and told me that the Virgo was in a relationship and so I gave up on Virgo and then he pursued my like hell. I don't think I ever stopped to think about what I really wanted or needed at the time. I was flattered and figured I must be in love too. Right.

There have been times when start out liking them just fine, and then it dawns on me that I don't like them as I spend more time with them. It takes me a while to figure out if I'm being fair or too judgmental, so for a little while I might still be dating them even though I don't like them.

It's the mixture of feelings that confuses me - how do I know if it's one of those quirks in the beginning of dating or if it's a deeper incompatibility? So it takes time to figure it out.

A couple of times.  Like SaD and others said, I didn't dislike them, I just felt they're OK, they don't turn me on, but it's something to do.

Libra stellium & Libra Moon didn't like being lonely.  I know, that makes no sense with my space issues, but I wasn't aware of them at the time. 

It was very unfulfilling, to say the least, and I decided I'd rather be by myself than waste everyone's time.

I'm surprised my brain is working this early in the morning...here's a thought:

Some men admitted to dating and bedding women they actively disliked.

It's all about the sex and the conquest, but yikes, that's fucking shallow.

@LisLioness... that's a great way of putting it. Unfulfilling! I was looking for that word ;)

If I'm not seriously attracted with a guy, it's definitely a NO. But if I am attracted, it is even worse: I get so passionate and fantasize to such extent (Mercury conjunct Neptune conjunct Desc) that it is awfully painful to stay away from the guy... which I have to after I came to realize it rarely is more than a momentary coup de foudre. Venus in Capricorn is not interested in only flirting, something that is painfully going against the aforementioned Venus being inconjunct with Mars and with the 5th House Libra Moon *sigh*.

I dreaded my first date with Ox. I was really looking forward to going on a different date with someone else the following weekend. I mean, I thought he was ok and had been around him in a sideways manner on and off my whole life. But, purely only went out with him just because he asked and I didn't have anything better to do. I didn't believe for one second that we would hit it off or get along. I figured, one date to prove to myself there's nothing there. LOL. We've been together ever since.

I was actively "making" myself date at the time.

Absolutely not.  Purposefully spending time - personal time - with someone I didn't like????   I can't imagine doing such a thing.

I've never experienced such a void or loneliness that would compel me to do such a thing.  I like my alone time and need it.

I have before. It was disturbing to realize, "Hey, I don't even really like this person." I didn't see myself finding anyone better, just didn't think it was going to happen. So I looked for his good qualities and was prepared to make do.

I'm glad that wsan't how it worked out...

I have Venus in the 7th... I think everyone I date is great, even when they suck.

Nope, in fact I have never been on a real date. Like they pick you up and pay. And I was married for almost 20 years and had 5 kids! Anyone say Neptune in the dsc? Funny part is I only realized I hadn't had a real date like 2 years ago lol

Nope.  Not even when I was single and hating it.  I'd go out on a date with pretty much anybody once, but if I didn't like them (or vice versa) we did not progress to a second date.

I'd rather be single than with the wrong person.

Nope. What is the point? If you are one of those persons who isn't in for anything serious and just fun, I could see it but not me personally. I don't like relationships with any people who I do not think would be someone that I could connect with. And why would you want to hang out with someone you can't stand? That is torture in itself!

I would rather be alone and find other things to do with my time. Just because one is alone (single) does not have to mean lonliness. Hang out with your friends than! I personallly need my alone time and prefer to be alone the major of the time. So I can't see to waste any of that time on someone I don't like that all.

I read somewhere that people who are extraverts get their energy off of being around others and hate to be alone whereas introverts are the opposite. I am wondering if someone who is extremely social and extraverts (someone who can not stand to be alone at all) would be someone more likely to do this? I had a friend once who could not stand to be alone at all - she had to have someone else around and if there wasn't she would be calling me on the phone and try to get me to meet her for coffee or something - but yes, she would often stay in bad relationships to avoid being alone.  

It might sound strange, but I think it has to do with how strong your likes and dislikes are when you are in getting to know someone. I can tolerate a lot of things, and I like to get to know people as much as I can before I see how well we fit or not. I can have a good feeling, good vibes and things go well, but in the end it's more friend than a meaningful relationship.

It takes me a while to sort out my feelings as I keep busy, so by the time I get in touch with all the feelings, it may turn out that I don't like that person enough to keep dating.

I dated a guy in high school I didn't like. The endgame was that I had something to distract me from the complete misery at home and at school.

I read somewhere that people who are extraverts get their energy off of being around others and hate to be alone whereas introverts are the opposite

See, sometimes I've dated *meh* just to get others off my back.  Mostly my daughters who say I'm a hermit.  And because of what they've said I've gotten a little worried about myself.  I'm introverted and very content to just stay home in my own little world...

So then I date and I'm not into it and that just convinces me I should have stayed to myself...