Sorry, it's a real "boo-hoo" time for me. I know that in order to deal with having a 7th house stellium (and really, an emphasized 3rd quadrant) I have to get to know myself and what makes me happy so I don't lose myself in others. Honestly, I am tired of getting to know myself lol. It's getting tough, not having someone special in my life, because it has literally been years. I have been living by the "better myself, get to know better people" thing for years but now I am frustrated.

I would like to know if anyone has any advice on what I can do to bring this "other" into my life...

Here is a link to my chart:

http://i722.photobucket.com/albums/ww230/backdowntomars/MyChart.gif

posting the chart to make it easier...

I hear ya, I have a 7th stellium but yours is so much worse! Unfortunately, Saturn is part of yours, so "really wanting a partner" goes hand in hand with "having to wait an effing long time to find one," probably.

Unfortunately, the usual advice to anyone who wants a partner boils down to "online dating, online dating, online dating" if you want to find someone any more. Or you could do the "take classes and hang out in bars" advice. 

If you want to know of an astrological basis for "how do I find a mate", ruler of 7th in the 7th house indicates meeting one through other people you know, or possibly business partnerships. (Or doctoral offices, I read once, but that one just seems weird.) 

Thanks for the 7th house ruler in the 7th information jenfullmoon, I did not know that!

So many people are down on Saturn but actually I think that having it in my 7th house is a good thing. I used to want to be married by 19(!) and I used to get so sad when I would read that Saturn in the 7th usually means "marriage after Saturn's return, after age 28-30", since I had been reading bridal magazines and planning my wedding since I was 7 or 8. When I was 19, 20 and less responsible, I went for the worst guys - guys who treated me like crap, guys who weren't educated and could not hold a job, just all around baddies. I am glad that I didn't end up married young to one of them or impregnated by one of them. I actually credit Saturn for that because even though I liked the guys, in my head I knew "whoa, he's not the one - he wont be a good provider and if he lies and cheats now, then imagine...". I get chills just imagining myself marrying my first serious guy at 19. This actually turned into my thinking "well, if I want someone worthwhile then I have to get myself together as well, can't ask for what you don't have yourself". So I broke away from a toxic and negative friend group, went back to college and got my degree, really started to take care of myself and get to know myself. Ahhh! Now I am tired of the self-help talk, lol! I want romance!

Heh, yeah, I wanted to be with the guy I was going to marry by age 19 myself. THAT didn't happen, obviously. I just desperately wish I had been paired off early, especially since 95% of my relatives were married/met The One in their teen years. I am the big freak. Wasn't going to happen for me though.

Looking at upcoming transits/progressions, I don't think I have any possible romance time coming up for literally another 10 years (when Uranus hits my descendant). GRUMBLE. But...what can you do? It's not 100% under your control alone.

"It's not 100% under your control alone." - I agree with this, that is why I am so against the online dating thing for myself, it seems so forced although I know a few people who have met and gotten married that way so maybe their destiny was to use this "force".

The same is true with many members of my family - they met "The One" in their late teens however, they are all divorced now so... The good thing is, they really don't talk much smack about my being single, they now know it is important to be able to support yourself first and my mom is so not even into the thought of having grandchildren!