I really wasn't sure whether to post this to "relationships" or "sexuality," so I picked the one where things can get slightly off-color without derailing the conversation.  :)

Okay, so here's what's on my mind:  saturation, overstimulation, need for the void, and deprivation.

It's come to my attention lately that I really do need space.  (Aqua moon sq. Uranus -- can anyone say, "duh?!" *grins*)  Specifically, I need space to miss someone or something so that I don't get overloaded or bored, take things for granted.

When I'm dating someone, I like a day or two "off" so that I'm happy to see 'em when they come around.  Although I'd like to have sex everyday, if I do I quickly get to the point where it's not fun -- so I have sex every couple of days, instead.  :)

I need to miss something, even a little bit, to continually appreciate it!  Intentionally depriving myself makes the bonds stronger.

Who else feels this way?  Is this a Neptune (pining), Pluto (extremes), or Uranus (distancing) thing?

Dan Hicks has this covered - How Can I Miss You When You Won't' Go Away?

Yup, exactly!  :)

I see my men once weekly, each. JP even less than that, but I'm not sure how he would feel about being one of "my men."

I dance twice a week, no more except special workshops.

I think I know how ya feel ;-)

I would say Uranus in my case. I definitely need my personal space!!

Another vote for Uranus, here. : )

I need the space, too! Uranus for me, 100% :).

I like having really good sex a couple times a week as opposed to routine sex every day.  I have to build an appetite.

I like space too. Routines are great, but sex shouldn't get stuck in one.

I think it's possibly my 7H Mars-Venus in Gemini and trine my Uranus in Libra. Or maybe my Sag AC. Either way, I like a bit of space in relationships.

Specifically, I need space to miss someone or something so that I don't get overloaded or bored, take things for granted

Definitely. And like brizo, great sex once or at most twice a week is ideal for me. Great sex is *exhausting*, after all, even while it's energising.

When I was first in love in my early twenties and we had sex every night, that was great, but that was right at the start and it was all a novelty (and a learning process). By the time I was married at 35, I definitely got very antsy with being expected to perform nightly. I found it the reverse of aphrodisiac!

I can take several nights in a row if it's for a limited time, eg we've gone away together - that's great. But stretching into infinity? - no way. I like GREAT sex not routine sex. Great sex requires a buildup - getting up a head of steam! And the anticipation is so much a part of it... and when I am fully wound up I can go on all night.

Uranus semi-sextile Mars, trine Neptune? I'm not sure what the astrology is, could also be Mars opp Venus/Vesta. And my Amor/Eros conjunction in Aqua probably plays a part. As does the life I've lived - my sex life has mostly been unpredictable, varied and exciting - so the routine of married sex, and having sex on tap, just didn't do it for me at all (sadly).

Oh YES!

Pluto/Uranus conjunct in Virgo, trine Cap moon. Those both sextile Neptune in Scopio.

So... All of the above, plus.

Let us go deep, then leave me the fuck alone for a while.

uranus in the 7th house square venus in sag... oh dear god, yes. please go away so i can miss you.

Leoman's gone for 2 weeks and I'm pretty sad about it. I used to think I needed space but it transpires with the right person I am happier when they are close.

I think having progressed Venus/Mars conjunction move into Taurus (now conjunct my n.Chiron) has had something to do with this.

ScorpMoonGuy is out of state too right now. I have missed him so much! He has been gone since 2-1 and won't be back until sometime the first week of March!

When he gets back we are going to move into a comfortable space together, big enough for us and our kids. And it will be very nice to have him so close again, but I will still need some personal space from him/them.

I have Sun and Moon opposite Uranus, Uranus in the 7th house, Venus in the 12th trine Neptune, and opposite Pluto, and a minor Sun/Pluto aspect.

And I agree with you on the points you've made SaD. I have to have my space, as in my own home apart from his. And I need time, and days alone without him, to miss him, and check in with my own gratitude and humility for having someone as loving as my guy in my life.

I've got a 1st house Sun trine Mars, and a 6th house stellium. I can become quite snobby, and nitpicky about stupid stuff rather quickly without a good dose of reality, and time to think alone.  It also helps us build up more to talk about (double Gem) when we do see each other.

As for, er, intimacy. What I know about myself, is I'd probably start off with a marathon fueled by curiosity, energy, and having it bottled up for so long. But when I had a boyfriend, I liked seeing him about twice or three times a week; quality over quantity. In between visits, I kept in touch with my regular friends, family, and worked, and wrote letters to him about things that I thought he might like to read about.

I need and love my independence about as much as I need to be loved for being so independent, and off beat. : )

"Let us go deep, then leave me the fuck alone for a while."

Precisely, Michele, says my 7th house Uranus, and Scorpio DC. I need time to process all that depth, and make sense of it.

Yep, I need space too. Aqua DC, Mars in the 11th opposing Uranus. I have a t-square involving Sun/Mars/Uranus so...

Definitely Uranian things I am hearing here - even though I am a Leo/Libra, I love my alone time.  My man is on a slightly different schedule than I am, I get 4 hours to myself after work before he comes home.  And we don't spend every night together either, one or two nights a week apart is great, it's healthy to step back and reflect, miss him, anticipate seeing him again.  BTW, I have Venus conj. Uranus (tight orb) in the 11th.  He's an Aqu/Aqu/rest all Cap, Leo rising, Uranus conj. Asc., Pluto rising.  My astrologer said watch out he's very Uranian/Aquarian, must be all that Cap, because he is much more into being together than I am at times.  Not that I don't want to be with him, but I need my space. 

Martini you've got that strong Venus/Uranus (in the 11th no less!) going, it holds to the theme :-)

To all you uranian folks out there: when I was younger I felt suffocated when a boyfriend wanted to see me daily. I once said "really I think hanging out twice or three times a week will be more than enough" in passing...

Little did I know that that was NOT appropriate for a college relationship, for the boy took it to heart and even quoted it back to me during a brawl! LOLL. I've since learned to tame my uranus and to see my significant others ahem, a bit more often.

*lol @debdeb*  I guess you're right... but, dang!  How 'bout someone change for me, man?  :P  Compromise:  it goes both ways.  *laughs*

Same here...

Im very spacey. I need it! I get bored quickly with men, not exactly sure why, but I do like a man with suprises who can keep me on my toes. Havent met one of those yet.