I haven't. Just wondering what the payoff was for the players involved?

I don't think there is a payoff. I think the sharp edges cut everyone.

I agree with Julian.  I got involved as a married woman and developed feelings and wanted the other person to love me, too.  Being pretty young I never stopped to think what would happen after he loved me. 

I hurt that man badly, and there is no excuse for that whatsoever.  I could have kept it casual. or better yet, behaved with integrity and either worked on my relationship or left it.  And never got involved at all.

As it is I learned a valuable lesson.  Be careful what you want, you just might get it.  And do no harm.

Is it as bad as a 'hate rhomboid' ?   I'd chalk it up to a bad Venus transit. Nobody triangulates like Venus !

oh, the relationship was supposed to buoy my ego since I was being abandoned and ignored at home.  I was supposed to feel better about myself.  But acting against my own moral code just made me feel like shit.   You would think this lesson would stay with me but I got involved again when I was thirty, this time as the other woman.  And got burned really bad.

As you will notice, I'm alone.  Who knows who might have come along had I not been taken up in all this?  I might have missed my mate.   And I have only myself to blame.

No I can't see anything positive from it. It would make me feel really horrible.

I haven't, but I have loved/wanted two men at the same time. And for some weird reason, men in my life tend to come in pairs. On one hand, I can see myself being in a healthy open relationship someday, maybe. On the other, it feels like my mind is trying to split in two, and it gives me a headache each time I feel like I have to choose or be with one person.

I wouldn't enter into a relationship with some who belonged to someone else. But I think there is an ocean of difference between a love triangle; which I'm guessing is not totally honest and above board, and having what I would call 'intimate friends' which I would categorize as totally open, and honest about who one is with, and why.

Yes. It's not pleasant, nor worth repeating.

When I was a teen my best friend had two cousins hanging out with us all the time. Cousin#1 fell for me hard, but I fell hard for the other one. Apparently the first "laid a claim" on me, so our lust became forbidden. Her whole family warned me no to, but I ended up hooking up with Cousin#2. Everyone found out, the other guy threatened suicide, and to make a long story short, it sorta ruined the relationship between us all for many years.

Somehow it was all worth it.. I mean I was like in love with the guy. If I could go back in time, I wouldn't change a thing >:)

After my last relationship ended a few years ago, I started dating/sleeping with one of my good friends. She was a neighbor at the complex I had just moved out of, and she had a serious boyfriend of 3 years. I didn't feel bad at all because the guy was a dick. I liked knowing that she had sex with me right before she picked him up from the airport, then the next night brought him over to my place to hang out. We had our fling for a few months but cut it off once she moved back home, save a couple of visits, at her boyfriend's, brother's, and father's behest. 

The whole thing blew up at her house on Christmas Eve with her all her family over. Huge screaming match between her, her father, and boyfriend. She had way more to deal with in the way of consequences than I did, but the whole situation was just hard on everyone involved. Its now almost four years later and they just got married a few months ago.

Yes, from both sides, and in other weird circumstances (eg loving and being loved by two men one of whom was gay)

- and it's not something anyone can enjoy unless they're a masochist or a mischief maker. It's almost always extremely painful, but love has its compensations, and each circumstance is different.

It's necessary in those situations to behave with integrity, no matter how much in love you are. And, from the other perspective, no matter how much you might despise what your husband and his floozy are doing!

Thanks for being so candid everyone.

Yes.  Nothing but heartache.

Sure have and I wouldn't recommend it for anyone. Love should be between two people. If there's a third, take it as the person is not at all serious about you. If I want someone, another wouldn't be around, period.

This was back when I was 21. He was a Cancer and he had a Leo gf who was younger than him. We met and hit it off. I tried to keep a good balance of friendship but he pursued. He broke up with her and we did our thing and then he dumped me and got back with her. Months later, we reconnect and he told me that she was on her way out. It all came to a head when he said he felt "torn". My gut then bitch slapped me back to reality and I knew that the guy had no love in his heart for either one of us. I left and then he got really nasty saying I was the psycho...go figure...

He then came back a year later trying to hit me up on Facebook....The Leo was away at college and I had just had an intense breakup. I told him six ways from Sunday what he could do with himself. He's in a relationship and had a baby with another girl (she got preggers like a month after they dated....i know...).

Funny thing I saw him on a dating site pretending to be single....ah guys like him never change. I am also extremely happy it ended. It was only a matter of time before I either shot myself or gotten AIDS, whichever could kill me first

http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_triangle_e.htm

I don't know if this would be considered a triangle.  I wanted to be with person A but they wanted to be remain friends.  I thought,"Maybe the universe is trying to tell me I should be with person B (an ex)" so I wooed him back.  Neptune was conjunct my sun, it was a crazy, delusional confusing time.  There was also a person C who was interested me and I did not completely write off but he knew that he only had a chance if person A and B did not work out :/.  My heart was with person A.  There were irreconcilable differences with person B, so I ended up leaving him a 2nd time.  I am damn lucky I didn't end up alone.

My ex was a compulsive triangulator. My favorite time was the period when  he was perpetually calling me and telling me we should reconcile in our marriage because it was God's will. Then during the same phone call he'd tell me what his girlfriend thought about the whole thing. He'd tell me all her deep and poignant thoughts about *our*relationship until one day I finally said you know something, this woman is amazing. I think we should both marry her.

Christ how did I stay alive through that.

Just reading your posts. I've never been involved with a married man but coming very close now. It's not easy when you try to keep your integrity intact (virgo sun, libra rising plus scorpio moon and neptune in 5th) but still trying after 2 years. We have venus in leo and mars in leo conjunction and mars in gemini and venus in sag opposition. Plus scorpio moons conjunction - so lots of lust and it's getting stronger by the day. But he's married...so everyday is a struggle because attraction is mutual but we don't talk about it. I quess both waiting for sth to just happen... What to do...

Yes.

Most recent: two friends/roommates. Person A "dibs" me for himself, even though person B and I had chemistry...I gave my phone number to B, and it was taken away by A...

When B failed to call, but A pursued, I thought B wasn't interested...

WRONG.

B wanted to keep it a secret (he is constantly doing this "third wheel" to himself, btw) but I insisted on ending it with A, as soon as I learned the truth, then being honest about my feelings for B.

It was not a pretty time, but A was eventually, if grudgingly, supportive.

Still friends with both, although closer to B. A is still prone to being cranky about the rejection. For me, the feelings I have for A are familial, but I think he still carries a lil flame for me.

Virgogirl... I get the feeling you should wait.. or at least just talk about it until he breaks up with her. From what I've heard, jumping in before the married person is out, is just throwing a bomb into all three of your lives.

Thanks cheesemissile. I'll try- really hard because of that. If anything is going to happen I want it to be for the right reason. Plus I want for us to develop sth more then lust for each other...do you have any experience?

@InTheDark:

Poefh, sounds to me like you walked right into a bootie trap. Glad you made it out in one piece.

“I didn't feel bad at all because the guy was a dick.” I wonder who badmouthed him.

“..save a couple of visits, at her boyfriend's, brother's, and father’s behest.” Did you save her ass out of a sticky situation?

I wonder, in retrospect, was she worth the effort? Sounds to me like the kind of woman who would create the same sort of mess over and over again.

I met a woman like that once. She badmouthed her ex-husband so bad, I swear she was ready to feed him to the fish. Later I discovered she got the facts all mixed up in her story. She told me he had been to war, and according to her he "wasn't the same person after he came home".

Uhm, no, duhh.

But later I found out - by doing some research - that she wasn't the same person when he came home. Wonder what she had going on when he was fighting a war.

errr yes. No pay off, learned a lot. I wasn't dishonest with anyone, but it was absolutly a triangle, more than once actualy, some on purpose, some not. I don't think I'd do it again.

Yes, on both sides.  I have a Gemini moon, I put it down to that.

Prefer not to go through that again.

Mermaid, she actually didn't badmouth him. She felt very guilty. I heard their conversations first hand..while laying her bed. I also met the guy. 

As far as her ass and sticky situations go...yes, I came all over it, if that's what you're asking ;) 

Why did you add 4 paragraphs of nonsense to the end of that post? You seem to have taken an interest in me, for some reason. Is there something I can do for you directly so you don't have to continue digging through my old posts and resurrecting dead threads?

@InTheDark:

Dude! Teeeuuuwww much information ... (ass)

The threads are not dead to me, they're still alive and kicking.

"You seem to have taken an interest in me, for some reason"
Pfht. Do you repeat yourself often?

I can dig up as much as I damn well please.

"Is there something I can do for you directly.."What kind of store are you running? 'Intrigue Unlimited'?

I know that you can. I'm asking if there's something I can do directly to save you the time and the rest of us the inconveniece?

@InTheDark:

"...the inconveniece"

*shrugs*

And to be upfront (again): I'm trying to figure out what the h*ll went on in my life for the past 12 months. And I can do so as I damn well please.

yes I have. Unbeknownst to me, my ex was cheating. I didn't know this was happening. She wanted to keep me around. She knew that if I knew what she was up to then I would bounce permanently, never to be seen or heard from again. So she lied and lied, and I became, for awhile, an ignorant participant in a love triangle.

I have and to be honest there is no pay off. None whatsoever. Having that lying, cheating man or woman means jack when they're off to find the next person for their triange. That's just on real talk!

@Empress_Scorps:

*handshake*

It's a reenactment of the ancient death-sex-control triangle.
Paul Verhaeghe wrote a book about it.
If you read that, it will never happen to you again.
Unless you're a willing participant ofcourse.
I got 'called' for the sex a couple of times.
Didn't bite tho. Not a ho.

My best friend..... his girlfriend doesn't know 

@Twinbulls:

Women always know. If they shut up about it they're simply starting to look elsewhere.

yes..twice with married men..Young and stupid,thinking that no one would get hurt.

Mmm, the closest I came to a love triangle... I was engaged but was ready to leave him. Lots of Neptoon happening, wont get into why I wanted to leave.

Anyways, I'm not proud of this, but I got involved with a couple, neither were ready for that kind of relationship, me either,v really. Anyways, I fell for the guy, it was mutual but neither of us would leave our partners.

It was nothing but confusion and it sucked. I felt horrible that I cheated on my fiance, as revenge, based on me thinking he had an affair.