I have never understood those who suffer from unrequited love.  I have known people to suffer from this and always have the hardest time understanding where they are coming from because in my world I can't love those who don't love me...?  so...

Have you ever suffered from unrequited love?  Have you known anyone who suffered from unrequited love and if so what did  you observe?  What is the astrology of unrequited love?

I only really ever loved one person and she loves me.............

I loved McRib sandwiches.......... but they never really loved me.

What do you mean by unrequited love? I don't understand it. 

But I have had people who have loved me, but couldn't get to me because I said no.

I am talking about loving someone who does not love you.  Have you ever loved someone who does not love you and suffered with being "love sick?" 

Ohhhh.... sorry, I don't usually understand about love in those terms. Because I have Capricorn Venus/Libra Saturn and things are very clear cut for me to them. 

No I have not suffered from it. I know a few people who do all the time. I think she has 1st house Venus in Aries  trines 9th house Sag Neptune. She always fall this type of thing. Its really hard to deal with a person who is constantly suffering from this affliction. I know I sound cruel, but sometimes I want her to have a dose of reality.

I agree that it is difficult to watch someone suffer from this sort of thing, Sunny. I also want them to face reality as soon as possibe. I don't think they know what love is when they think they love someone who does not return their affections.

The thing is they don't know what love is. I've explained and showed her what love is. But there is no point, she knows best. But did you notice they have unrealistic demands on the person they want, as the list of requirements they must have, to even talk to them. Its insane so this feeds their "unrequited love" theme.

And they wonder why they can't get a guy or why the guy likes "someone" who they think is beneath them, list wise. But they don't know its not always about the list its about everything that other person can offer.

Yes I have. I don't see what a man loving me or not loving me has to do with it! - you can fall in love with someone because of the *person he is*, and the overwhelming attraction you feel for him, not for what he's giving back! - or I can

I've twice fallen in love with gay men, who loved me too as a friend but not in that way. There was a Scorp I fell for when I was 41 and just back from Italy and the broken marriage - he courted me then backed off! It was painful. I fell in love in my 50s with a married man who was very fond of me, and kinda used our friendship as an escape valve from his moribund marriage (we never made love, he'd never been unfaithful in 33 years). And I fell in love with a ten years younger man when I was about 60 - he was a good friend for a while, extremely sexy and attractive, but only into younger women! (and going through a nasty divorce). So that got nowhere either!

I've also twice stayed in love with a man I'd lost for years after the affair was over - but both these men had deeply loved me too (and told me years later they still did, whatever that meant!)

I feel what I feel, Sun/Venus, Venus opp Mars - and being rational about it has no bearing...  Venus square Neptune might, also my fixed Taurus Moon which limpet-like finds it almost impossible to let go, once it loves. I also have an inconjunct Libra Chiron > Taurus Moon. But I'm just guessing!

Yeah... Neptune ::shakes head::

Yes. A lot. Pisces sun and Venus in the 8th. :P

Suffering through it now. Pluto transit approaching square to Venus in Aries :/

Plus ive got Moon conjunct Pluto natally opposing Venus & Mars, on top of which ive never felt this way about anyone in my life so its hitting me especially hard!

Huuuuurts...

yeah..  i was young and stupid.  over interpreted mixed signals that werent actually signals at all..  i fell hard, and then made a complete ass of myself. 

but now i know i have to be wary of my neptune, and can usually stop those false extrapolations before they get out of hand...  usually..  ok, sometimes....

The thing is they don't know what love is.

No so - we certainly do ;)  And I don't see how anyone can say that of another person, and of a kind of love situation they've had the good fortune never to experience. There may be people who wish this on themselves for whatever reason, but most of us would give a lot never to have suffered in this way.

It's not *just* Neptune either, in the sense of unfounded imaginings. In one sense it's a pure love: it's love of the person regardless of what you get from that - it bears no relationship to 'loving' ie obsessing over people like film stars or pop stars you've never met.

I don't see why it's so hard to understand; on the other hand I agree it's foolish to put your life on hold for something like this (one reason I tended to have more than one relationship going at a time!)

Like the guys sang: "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with..."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i6qzVFKAIJI&feature=related

I AM THE QUEEN OF UNREQUITED LOVE! 

Venus is in Taurus in the 9th. 

HOWEVER, for the past, oh, 10 years of my life, this has been constant! I can name Transits and personal planets/afflictions...

Personal to me:

1. PISCES Descendant, tightly conjunct north node. 

2. Aries Sun in the 7th tightly square Neptune in the 4th

3. Venus is tightly trine mars, but apart of a grand earth trine with the south node. 

Transits:

1. FUN FUN FUN NEPTUNE IN AQAURIUS opposing my POOR LEO MOON and SQUARING my VENUS IN TAURUS for the past, oh, 7-8 years. 

2. NEPTUNE IN MY 5th house for, I don't know, all of my dating life! Thank god I'm young. 

I'm coming out of this with Saturn transiting the 2nd and totally building my self-esteem! Feels so good.

its not falling in love with person but falling in love for the sake of love & with unrealistic "image" of a person ,, having neptune fifth house .. venus neptune tight square .. lots of dreaming goes on

yeah twice.... sun sun and venus venus square in synastry .. as well as venus neptune square in synastry as well as my personal birth chart...

i agree with lalola

my neptune is also in the 5th - but in capricorn (isn't it supposed to make me a realist?!)

and venus is in 8th -- :( is it that bad -- shudder

@Blessed Place I agree. I have dealt with unrequited love several times, and I'm currently going through it now. It's terrible. I cry myself to sleep most nights...because I have a broken heart. I am prone to delusion in love, with an 8th house Virgo Venus, square a Rx 12th house Sag Neptune. But I know this about myself. It's quite painful to deal with. But I have a nicely aspected Aquarian Moon - ruler of my 7th, (with trines to my Jupiter/Saturn conjunction in Libra). I see the failed logic behind this unrequited love. Its clear as day....but what I think and feel are two very different things. With an 8th house Leo sun opposing my Aqua moon, it really is an issue of Head vs. Heart.

I've had very long relationships with several partners and I know what love looks like. My last boyfriend and I dated and lived together for 6 years. He is my best friend. He is my family. I will love him until the day I die. It's because I know what love looks and feels like, that I know that when I am lovesick it's because my love is not being returned. Not because I don't understand what real love is, and NOT because I haven't experienced real love.

When you fall in love with someone and the day comes where you tell them so, and the love is not returned, do you then just get in your car, drive home, and say: "Oh, well. I guess I don't love him anymore"? I'm guessing, probably not.

You feel great pain. You feel heartsick. Eventually you heal and move on. But, in all my life, when I've felt this before, I have never looked back and said, "I DIDN'T love him afterall!" I might look back and say "what was I thinking", but I still know the love I felt for that person, at that time, was real, and pure. As real, and as pure as it was for someone I dated, lived with, and loved for 6 years. It just...wasn't reciprocated.

I know that it hurt so much *because* I knew (logically) that I was loving them at a detriment to myself...but we don't choose who we love - as much as I wish this were so.

And it is interesting to hear people say that they *know* unrequited love is not real love, when this statement is immediately followed by the person saying "I don't understand that [behavior]", or "I've never experienced anything like it".

The ex (of 6 yrs) that I mentioned above has suffered from severe depression for more than a decade. People routinely tell him to "just get up", "call your friends", "act happy and you'll be happy". But anyone who has suffered from the same affliction knows things just aren't that simple; these simple-seeming things aren't as easy for this person, as they might be for you.

Your reality, your perception of a situation - of life, in general - are yours...and yours alone. If you've never been depressed a day in your life, do you deny the reality of the existence of depression? Or of the reality of the person who is suffering from depression? Do you think if they just opened their eyes to the reality of life, that things wouldn't be so bad for them?

I hope I'm not offending anyone. I'm certainly not trying to be a bitch or anything like that. I'm just trying to make a point. No one wants to suffer through the pain of unrequited love, and those who have will all admit that when the pain of their broken heart became unbearable, there's nothing they wouldn't give, pay, or do to be able to move on; to just stop caring.

It's just that I have friends who have said similiar things to me about unrequited love and heart sickness (Specifically mine. Specifically the one I am suffering through now.). It's upsetting to have your pain, and your reality, diminished by those who are lucky enough not to experience this kind of grief.

I think only twice out of the five or so times this has happened to me (in over 50 years, ie since I;ve been 16), I've eventually said to myself "wtf was all that about? - I didn't really love him". that was Neptune, seeking to fill the void - I'm kinda lost with nobody to love, it's a deep need for me. 

The others were the REAL THING, for men I knew well and deeply loved, who didn;t for one reason or another reciprocate that feeling. All were fond of me.

I can't turn love on and off like a tap just because 'he' doesn't feel the same way I do. I'd go so far as to question whether it's truly love, if you can control it so easily! "Oh that's not working, I'll just turn the faucet and stop the supply!"  Huh? How do you DO that?

One thing I am sure of: we all mean something different by the word 'love'  hahaha

I feel for you, StarF

Annoyingly, my brain seems to require that I always be mentally chasing after someone, even if I wouldn't actually flirt with them if I had a gun held to my head. Even if they don't like me back. Reason and logic doesn't stop it.

Yes.

12th house Venus rules my chart and trines an 8th house Neptune. I know the feeling inside and out.

I can also agree with BP's words on it, and add that there are many types of love in life. There are some I've never experienced, and some I don't wish to know, but they are still classified as love to me because of the truth in another's words, and feelings.

Thank you, Blessed Place :-\

Growing up I would daydream about love quite a bit. I just really wanted the fantasy, the movie scenario. Especially in high school. Now though, it's not about *the great need* of having a partner, "an other", or someone to fantasize about.

With regards to the current unrequited love situation I am in, it wasn't the "partnering" I was focused on, or needed, with him that caused me to feel this pain. The hurt comes from knowing, from seeing in his eyes, that he doesn't feel the same as I.

Yes, it was my own fault and nothing more than a fantasy though.

Blessed Place and StarF pretty much said everything and I couldn't have put it better.People who suffer from unrequited love do face reality on a daily basis.It's incredibly painful to be in love with someone who can't reciprocate.We are aware of this and we have to deal with it every day. Believe me, there's nothing I'd rather do than move on and be happy.Who want's to spend years pining for someone who they can't have. No one.Unfortunately this is not a choice, it's imposed.

its not falling in love with person but falling in love for the sake of love & with unrealistic "image" of a person

This is not always the case.There are people who are in love with their best friend.They don't have an unrealistic image of their loved one, they know him/her very well.Unfortunately their love is unavailable to them.