I found this whilst out perusing:

http://unwrittenlettersproject.wordpress.com/2009/08/02/dear-readers/

Very excellent message.  Now the only question is: how to trust yourself again when your instincts re: "what love is" led you astray?

Anyone?  Anyone?

Bueller?

I totally agree with this, SaDiablo. One of my best friends is going through a breakup right now. Im sending this to her. Thank you :)

aw...Bueller!

RIP John Hughs

anyway...how to trust yourself...

YOU LOVE YOURSELF. Love, love, love,love, love yourself. You love yourself, you kick to the curb anything and anybody that does not fit into this plan of LOVE FOR YOURSELF. Ever heard that old saying "do what you love and the money will follow?" I like to paraphrase it to "Love yourself and the love will follow."

You and I are very much in the same boat right now, SaD. I feel you, I really really do! 

Yep...you have to fall in love with yourself first.

 Last Novemeber I met my "mirror" someone who brought about the same feelings I had about myself. It wasn't completly healthy...and then I realized Oh crap...I was too self-absorbed and smug at having 'caught him' was way to tied with my ego...and he probably felt the same way. We were happy that we "caught" eachother..but it was only to satisfy a very superficial part of our needs...

Now i'm processing this and realizing I have to dig deeper and allow myself to be myself more often ..otherwise I'll continue attracting people who mirror how I feel about myself (which is positive as long as I 'look' good).  I love myself but it was a very superfical kind of appreciation for looks rather than my warm heart and unique personality.

Oh - my venus(sag) is conjunct my sun(sag)...wonder if that has anything to do with it. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm 

in the article they said,

"Don’t make someone a priority when you’re only an option to them."

How very Very VERY astute of them, and well worth remembering!   Amen and AMEN!!!

I'm in a relationship with a great guy and I don't exactly love myself :( I'm trying though. I wonder if there's still hope for me :(

lunalie, yes there is. i am living proof that a person can learn to love herself. the self-loathing didn't abate for years and occasionally raises its nasty head but it is %120 possible...

Thanks Kash :) That's good to know. The whole self-love thing is really difficult for me, considering that I felt that I've lived a life so far that lacked authenticity. And when I'm feeling like my friends are dropping off one by one like flies because of the new person emerging, it's REALLY hard to see if you can be lovable.

lunalie, new friends await.  Not that letting go of the old ones is easy, but there are more people out there waiting to get to know the exciting new you! 

What kind of friends don't want you to grow and change for the better? 

Hey everyone,

 I am the Editor of the Unwritten Letters Project, where this letter was retrieved, and I would just like to comment and say thank you for reading the site and I really hope this letter affected you in some way. I loved this letter as well and love the quote "dreamsAreality" pointed out. Thank you for supporting my project even further. Love the blog, Elsa Elsa. 

Alex

::waves at Alex::

Thanks Dreams :) Thanks sooo much for that encouragement :)

And Alex - welcome! :) I linked this letter to a broken-hearted friend and it very much resonated with her. Thanks for having that up there :) 

Hi, Alex!  *waves*  Love your site!

Ugh...  Self-love.  I used to have that, but I lost it somewhere.  Here's hoping that therapy will help me find it again.

BTW, you guys RAWK.  Srsly.  Hardcore, yo.  I love you guys!  (((((((GROUP)))))))

SaDiablo, I wonder if you can see all the wonderfully enthusiastic energy you put out there! I wish I could reflect some back to you....but instead I will send you the group mascot!

Awww... Thanks, Lynn!  Shiny chickens be the bomb-diggity-est.  *nodnod*  And, ja, I see my energy at work all the time, for good and bad.  I infect whole houses with my moods.  *lol*  I'm resurging after a low point, though, and it's been hard to see my positives for a loooooong time.  So your encouraging words are dearly and vastly appreciated: it helps me remember that, yeah, there really are good things about being me and not everyone is blind to what they are.   It means a lot, a lot, alot.