I'm bummed. Usually getting some serious loving from my new dude cheers me up but he's 700 miles away. Caught in a negative loop even Farside can't get me out of.

What do you do when you need an emotional intervention? 

I plan and scheme! Lol.

The laughing baby always cheers me up

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5P6UU6m3cqk&feature=player_embedded

Hope ya feel better!

New dude?  I missed New Dude!  Huzzah to New Dude!  And New kashmiri.

Music is the answer for me, usually playing music but I'm crippled at the mo since I have no piano and can't play the guitar I have.  God forbid I have to drag out the flute.

Sorry to hear you are down.....  I have been having a particularly hard time with my daughter - she is just going through a really bad spell.  I have a whole lot of good cries - and I am finally reaching out more to people that work with my daughter, just letting them know I need help.  Asking for help is brutal for me - so I am wondering if there is anyone you can maybe lean on, maybe someone who can just give you a different perspective?  I hope you are feeling better soon.......  

If u r stuck somewhere, know you'll be back home soon; go for a good walk; take a nap and as u fall asleep, visualize something wonderful and calming; call up a friend who will let u be/say how u r without judging; remember everything wonderful in your life while taking said walk; remember some horrible trauma and how everything is BETTER now; eat cheese; eat chocolate...

Go out with some friends.

Alternatively, talk to someone who is having a hard time.  Not to have a pity party, but rather focus on cheering the other person up.  Listening to another person's problems can put your own into perspective.  I usually find that helps.  Just don't make a crutch out of it (of course).

Get started on a project you've been putting off; the resulting sense of accomplishment can be a constructive diversion, the healthiest kind.

And if none of those are your cup of tea, youtube one of Greg Giraldo's roasts.  If your humor is edgy and intense, you'll like him.

Good luck :-)

Awww Kash, sorry to hear that. It sucks being down in the dumps :(

Catch up on movies, sleep, eat really good food, relax and just take some down time.  May help you recharge till you're back to your shiny self again. Glad to hear you have a new dude!!! 

That farside cartoon cheered me up :)

I pack my tent and get on my bike and run away for a little while.

forget what I just said and just watch this break dancing baby

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FiNUkDnDMFA

(that laughing baby was pretty funny tam)

Break out a run. Running is good for the soul.

thanks for all your help (and the baby videos, i love them:) )

dorothy i'm so sorry to hear you've hit a rough patch with your daughter. i remember you saying a few weeks ago she had new caregivers. i really hope you're able to continue building your relationship with them, I agree asking for help is very hard

i feel like i need help all the time and i get tired of asking. i used to suffer from serious depression when i was younger and i do not like i am in the same place as i was 15 years ago. it feels like bad news heaped on bad news and it's been like this for a few years now. i get tired and heavy but i imagine that for the next several years of pluto transiting my Cap Moon this is going to be something i will have to learn to manage and deal with the best i can.

((Kash)) sorry you're flat.. that leaden stuff that comes with Pluto to your Moon is not nice..another friend has this just now and she is a real giver, like you, but sometimes it just helps to reach out and you have so many people here, lots of whom might not even post, who read your warm, caring and wise words so often, and silently thank you for some insight you gave without realising it. You are special.

I cheer myself up with a cup of Earl Grey and a cake.. make myself a promise that as soon as I'm free to I'll sit and cosy up by the fire ( chillier here in Scotland just now) and lose myself in a movie or a good book.  Escape from your heavier thoughts and feelings by distracting yourself with something you enjoy.  A big mama type hug of caring and protection and soothing from someone you love is the best, but if it's not available, close your eyes and feel it anyway..

 Tam you are a darling..you too have words that are appreciated more than you perhaps know.. thanks for the baby, and thanks Nota.. hope you are keeping well too hun.

xx

thanks Lindiloo! I didn't do it on purpose, (mercury moving into Scorpio) but I will be having my first therapy session in the morning to try to get over being stalked. I have gotten as far on my own as I can.

Every time I go out of my house or the office I'm still on high alert looking for her. Every decision I make about going anywhere, I still factor in whether it is worth it or not.

I'm excited! I'm going to be better soon for the first time in 5 years.

good luck, tam. that's got to be so hard.

kash, i expect your normal good spirits will return soon. in the meantime, here's my favorite laughing baby video - the quadruplets - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yE6PNps5N9I

{{{kash}}} & {{{everybody else who could use a hug}}}

thanks goddess!

Raise your endorphins. Run. Eat fruit.

Address whatever is bothering you.

Feel better, Kash! (maybe at this point you already do!)

((kash)) and ((tam))

For short bouts of feeling blue, I like to snuggle in bed with my kitty and watch terrible chick flicks that force me to cry like a big baby. Then I laugh at myself afterwards because I'm a mess. An example of a movie that would do this to me, "PS I love you".

The simplest and easiest way to cheer myself is to smile or laugh. Not a small smile either. A real one that makes your face do some work. If you think of it as a fake or hollow smile, the effects may not work. Just a genuine, feelin'-good, smile or seeing someone else give a smile while they pass me work. Works better in front of a mirror since you smile then your see yourself smile and see how happy you are then you're inclined to smile back at your reflection.

 At least that's how it is for me.

 Also, having fun with friends (jackpot!), reading FML, watching movies I like, buying things, and if I have to cry, letting it all out makes me feel better.

Another thing too is not to try to force a good mood or try to cheer up but get under blankets and sleep or mope or whatever -- be dark if needed ----giving permission to live the lousy mood. Of course if this gets to a scary place (and only you can say if it does), then intervention is necessary -- but sometimes it's best to go with it, not force self to be UP, esp for others. I have also had "serious" depressions, my whole life actually. It's not something I talk about much, and not on here, and virgo rising (me) always seems like everything is fine.

Anyway...

(( Kash))) - something for your Cappy moon: I find sometimes it's best to just let the melancholy flow.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ie0hiFKMpY

I like to play "Don't Rain on My Parade" and sing along at top volume.  Try it!  ((((everyone))))

tam thanks for letting us know your next step (with therapy). i was wondering about it. as for my mental health i don't have trouble accepting/naming feelings...m.p. what you are saying about 'giving permission', i do appreciate it, however that isn't what i'm up against, emotionally. perhaps when i come here asking for others to share their experience with coping, well i don't know what kind of impression that gives. i feel lucky that i am able to articulate my feelings...i don't feel so lucky that life for the last couple of years has been one loss after the next

Good luck Tam.. Go girl.. just know your wings can fly.. xx

Kashmiri, actually, I wasn't trying to give you advice or tell you what you should do -- I was talking about things that I do, try to go with the dark mood, for example. It really wasn't a comment on you at all. I was sharing my experience (and sometimes I use "you" but I don't mean, literally, you)

I think it's time to take a break from these boards probably (again, speaking of myself). Venus in Leo signing off!

I eat doughnuts and watch Firefly.

If it's just a small funk, usually some peppy music will lift me up, especially if I can prance around and sing at the top of my lungs.  For the bigger funks... ugh... I'm not so good with those.  First I try staying in bed until it passes, and if that doesn't work I go DO, and if that doesn't work I find someone to bitch to, and if that doesn't work I just sit there slightly pissy until it goes away.

Yeah, me and the big funk don't mix well.  Unless by big funk you mean George Clinton.

Playing video games... if shopping is NOT possible.

I am always and will be a geek :) 

for some reason SaD mentioning George Clinton reminded me of Muppets In Space.  if that sounds at all interesting to you I suggest you watch it.  it always cheers me up.

I absolutely LURVE me some Muppets!  In fact, Muppets are fabulous de-funkifiers.  My Gem BFF and I will sing "Manahmanah" to each other when we're bored/down.

George Clinton always reminds me of PCU.  Also good for funktitude.  *nodnodNOD*

Muppets from Space is the best post-Jim Henson Muppet film.

"Build a jacuzzi and we will come, okay."

hehe, muppets.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRRFfg2Guq4 

I listen to Johnny Cash's "Get Rhythm (when you feel the blues)" and then keep it up with lots of other similar toe-tappin' music.

Plus, I love hot cocoa. 

Lots of great versions of the Johnny Cash song on youtube, but I can't do links.  sorry . . . 

ahhhhh the muppets!:)

saD "sit there til it goes passes" that made me laugh--made me think of gas (insert fart joke). 

thank you, everybody. i really benefit a lot in hearing how you all cheer yourselves up. it means a lot to me

moonpluto, i'm sorry if i've offended you. 

Read escapist literature, go for walks with my dog (when I had a dog), took naps with my cats lying on top of me purring (when I had cats), ate good chocolate (when I could still eat chocolate), smoked cigarettes (when I still smoked) . . .

Those were the good 'ole days. Now I look at pictures of my granddaughter being her happy, silly self. But I still find reading my favorites, like the Tolkien books and similar speculative fiction books helps me distance myself from the blues. Only they MUST have happy endings. When I'm feeling down, the last thing I want to be reminded of is sucky reality.

11th house Moon conjunct Neptune in Libra does love her fantasies!!   

@Satori  LOVE Nathan Fillion and Firefly! Best scene was him walking back to the ship buck naked. VERY nice ass!! Been watching his new show, Castle. The man is very endearing and his birthday is the day after my Aries husband's. Yeah, I do like them Aries!!

((( kash)))...oh, have been meaning to post since i read you were stuck in the basement at your sisters ... hope you're out of there soon &  can get back to where you belong...with the dude, for now...

what i do..if it feels very heavy....i try not to resist but go into it...., i usually light some candles, music, lie down and give myself reiki, especially to the heart chakra and let the tears roll.....maybe it is residue of feeling of all the trauma  you went through last year...the split came suddendly....even with new dude, it takes time to integrate that sudden/HUGE change in your life 

 tam - sounds like best step to take, hope it lifts soon...you don't need to live with that fear...but i understand ... take care

ha ha neith a nice ass cheers me up time and time again