I have a hard time coping with moodiness in people. I never  know what to say or do  when I am facing a person who is moody and they seem to be closed to all conversation or ideas to help themselves.

How do you cope with a person who is moody?  If you are moody  what relieves  you?

Who's moody, Im not moody, not not not not...........

My Cancer husband is very moody.. more and more so the older he gets.  I find it uncomfortable.. like walking on eggshells.. I think the fact that I pick up other peoples vibes very easily doesn't help.

Give us all the love and support you can, and as far as me....feed me.

I'm not good at this at all Annalisa! I guess the best thing I could do is realize they might be having a bad day or just not in the mood for niceties and either go away or try my best not to talk.

I usually get mad at them, lol.

I used to get really irritated by such behavior, over a period i have become patient and can deal with it. 

Caroline, that's EXACTLY why I'm not good at this type of stuff.

I get mad too, Caroline! I would rather know how to deal with this sort of person more effectively.  GW, it sounds tough to deal with the moodiness.  I am very bad at coping with this sort of person.

I don't react to other people's moods. I see this is as a boundary /control issue. You can be a moody as you like, it's not my business or concern. I mean think about it. 

"Tammy is in a bad mood! Everybody freeze and stop what they're doing!"

har

Oh gosh. This situation can get me into such a dither. So much so that I've developed a strategy when I find myself getting sucked into the 'death spiral' of a moody person.

I do the initial, "something is bothering you?", "what's wrong?", "do you want to talk about it?", "is there something I can do?"...

The harder part that I have to conciously make an effort to do is, if the above isn't effective, I verbally put a period on my interaction. "I'm sorry that you're having a hard time, and if I can help, please let me know. In the meantime, I need you to xyz your behavior toward me/around me. I'm not the enemy/problem here."

I'm really patient.. but I can only take so much and after a while I snap and tell him to suck it up in true forthright Aries fashion *LOL*

I agree, CP, with all you  say. It's such a bad time! I do all that you say but it never  helps. I find I have to ignore it and hope they work their way out of it.

I leave them alone.

so do I, kr. It's all I can think of doing!

Shine and carry on.

This may be counter-intuitive, but leaving us alone is often the correct response.  Nothing pisses me off more thoroughly than somebody trying to jolly me out of a funk.

good idea, Julian!

@Korellyn, good  to know! I have someone close to me who tends to moodiness and I never know what to do. I will try your suggestion!

I am a walking mood. I don't mind moodiness in a person at all, I can't afford to. 

Nota, how do you want to be treated when you are feeling moody?

Don't worry about me, I'm just in a mood. If that bothers you, thats your own lack of psychic boundaries. Not my problem. Please don't try to fix me either, I'll be fine. If you need to do something about it to make yourself feel better, then try forgiving me.

My mom is moody but I know how to get her to laugh out of it, if it's something ridiculous she is moody about. She is a Gemini so her moods change quickly anyway. Others I give a wide berth

Avoidance, minding my own bee's-wax.

I just stay away from them, give them their space. It's too much of a trigger for me.

i expect them to act like an adult and deal with their crap on their own time

i have trouble respecting people who take their moods out on others

I ignore it.  People think I can't sense it, because of the Aries/Leo "crass, insensitive and bumptious" core, but I have a very fine tuned Libra vibes antenna.

I don't care if you're in a snit and you choose to seethe in silence.  Unless you TELL me what's bugging you, I'm going to ignore you.

This is one of many reasons I didn't get along with the Cancer Moon clan in the hubs' family.  Sometimes the baby Scorpio (Cancer Moon conjunct Saturn) pulls this.  She whines, then yells.  I walk away until she calms down.

My ex husband was moody - he had a Cap Moon, inconjunct Chiron in Cancer. I just left him well alone and cooked him a very good dinner accompanied by his favourite music - that usually brought him round. He would normally go off on his own and do a lot of outdoor work - hard physical activity got him through it. But sometimes towards the end of our marriage he would be moody for days - nightmare! I need a man who *talks to me*!!

Okay, so I'm one of ''those'' people...

So what helps?

Two things:
--Rescue Remedy
--Being surrounded by level-headed people.

Here we go...this is from Liz Greene's Astrology for Lovers.  Great book.

If you are the timid and secretly resentful type, stay away from Leo.  Fire signs are not known for their sensitivity to the feeling currents around them (my note:  greatly mitigated by my Libra stellium), and they dont make good telepaths of other people's needs if those needs aren't voiced. Leo may inadvertently trample over others' feelings without meaning to, or even realizing it, simply because he's so caught up in his own vision.  Therefore, you have to make a noise if you want a piece of the stage.  If you have set a precedent of ten years of meek subservience and then discover you've got a stomach ulcer or migraine headaches because you're seeting with anger over that Leo's clumsy insensitivity, blame yourself.

Super-moody over here. I warn people, and disapear. Or I warn them and carry on. I also do NOT want to be "fixed." The mood is not something you can fix. The mood is like the changing weather. It passes. On to another mood and another.

SO I guess if you don't like extreme weather, walk on over to another climate?

I've lost friends that couldn't cope with my disapearing. What can I do? Part of the disapearing is to protect others when its extreme.

Others get off on the moodiness. Like I'm some kind of entertainment. That riles me up some. I'm not you're personal show. Go get your own damn mood.   

@Michele YES, I HATE it when I get worked up and people think it's funny! I'm not a freakin' sideshow!

ha, i love michele's attitude and i relate to it.

i'm a very moody person and i am a LONER because it seems the only respectful, mature way to handle this :)

but in cases where i can't separate myself - for example, with my son - i just try to be clear about what i need. and i also tolerate his own moods and quirks, so it is easy to reciprocate.

for example, after work i will come home and if my son is pouncing on me with questions, i buy myself time. "I'll give you an answer at 7pm, let me just clear my head first." if the other person (like my ex) is insistent on crossing this clearly-delineated boundary, then i get very upset and it just escalates something minor into an overblown drama.

first, don't take it personally. i don't care if you're the dalai lama, i cannot be perfectly buoyant around you 24/7.

second, give me some space. if i'm in a funk, the last thing i have is self-control and patience, which i'm TRYING to regain. so don't try to FIX it, because between the two of us, i know better how to fix my mood than you do.

third, communication is key to foster understanding and prevent resentment. i don't want to be a debbie-downer and don't expect people to be responsible for my moods. which is why i get along with other moody people. but when i'm faced with people who really don't understand, then i try to communicate and explain myself. "no it's not you, i was actually upset over..."  it helps when the other person can meet me in the middle here and actually wants to understand what i go through. after repeated failed attempts at being understood, i will ultimately shut down and put a wall up.

all that said, i've dealt with moody people who really had no self-awareness or respect for other people. they felt justified in being snappy and rude. i think this is a separate issue.

ETA: i said all the above more in terms of people one is close to - roommates, spouses, etc. when i'm at work i leave my mood at the door and do my best to be chipper.

ETA 2: i put the moodiness in context. if it's a stressful period, and the person has proven to be an otherwise warm-spirited, generous person, then i can tolerate it. but if the person is consistently in a funk and expects me to pull him/her out of it all the time, then i back away. part of being an adult is knowing how to manage your moods.

I'm not good at dealing with moody people, if you wanna go off and be moody on your own, fine, but if your moodiness is going to affect other people, that's just annoying. if someone is going to put their moodiness in my face i will probably laugh because it is entertaining.

Well my boyfriend and I take turns being moody. ha. took me awhile to get used to his cancer moods-- he has them way more often than me! He usually just needs extra TLC to bring him out of it.... my moodiness is different. I need to be completely alone and need my space to get out of it.... i go to my cave..... :)

I figure it isn't my business to cope with:)

It doesn't bother me that much. I leave them to it. Which is what they want. If they want something else, unless we are very close they're going to just learn how to ask for it because I am no one's mother.

I'm probably quite moody myself - hard to tell. My moods are certainly very up and down... Since I've mostly lived alone I can usually just shut myself off. The only time I've lived with anyone in an intimate situation was my ex, see above, and since he was moody too he knew how to handle it. He was never one for getting in anyone's space, quite the reverse - as a Sun Aqua he needed a lotta space himself.

I have Mars/ Saturn conjunct in Cancer, both Rx

I go have a snack. And if they're still moody, I go have another snack!

Hahahaha!

@ dorchid. exactly what you said, too.

especially the part where i need to be allowed to defrag in close personal situations. and i state it clearly. i will clean the muck off and be right with you.

another thing... astrology wise... even when in a "mood," and i am presuming we are all sort of talking about the darker side of things... i have the life-saving Leo rising, Jupiter on the ascendant card I can pull out, for myself and for the sake of others. it just comes right out and i imagine, oftentimes no one is the wiser. that helps me out a great deal.

it can backfire and make the darkness bigger. that's when i retreat into my 12th house batcave.

I give space and try to understand.I have no problems with moody people.Nobody can be cheerful all the time.If they need me for a talk or just to be there for them I'll gladly help,but I let them come to me,not the other way around.

But,I couldn't tolerate people who constantly complain about everything and everyone,and who's mood is set on "bad" all the time.Also,there's a difference between being moody and just plain rude.

Other then that,when I'm moody just feed me and I'll be fine