"The expression a woman wears on her face is far more important than the clothes she wears on her back."

-Dale Carnegie

I keep reading this quote on twitter.  Do you agree with it?  When you see a woman, anywhere in whatever circumstances, who do you judge her. For example, let's say you're traveling.  Checking into your hotel, you see a well-dressed woman checking in alongside you. On the way to your room, you see a maid in the hallway.  Do the expressions on their face count? What is your thought process here?

Hmmmm, well I think you can tell from someone's expression what kind of person they probably are, or rather, from their smile.  If someone is genuinely a nice, happy person you can tell from their eyes, I think.  If they're an angry, miserable person you can also tell.  THAT to me is more important than the outer shell and how they're presented to the world. 

I also think that eyes can tell more than the facial expressions, however i am no expert. And to actually make a judgement i need more time, still eyes give me the prelude.

I do agree, Surd, the eyes say it all for me. I try to look them in the eye to see what I can see.

No I don't agree with it. What, am I god? How do I judge? I smile and say hello. If they smile and say hello back--that's nice. If they don't I assume they have something going on in their own life and carry about my business. My thought process is, I don't read minds and don't know what is going on for a person/what kind of burden they carry so I don't impose my judgement on them.

If the well-dressed woman was chewing out the desk clerk and the maid was singing while she folded the towels, it sure would count with me.

I feel like, Becca but it takes much less to engage or lose my interest.

For example if the well-dressed woman had a hard look on her face (referencing the quote), I would not be at all interested in knowing her. In contrast, anyone with a smile and a twinkle in their eye, is someone I would like to spend time with.  I am out there looking for Mary Poppins, I think.

I am interested in magic and think it's found all over the place. :)

Face & demeanor are far more important to me than clothes or 'rank',
Angie

I don't judge them, but I do try to read their story in their eyes. 

I prefer happy and sparkly too, but sometimes the outside doesn't match the inside so I try to look past it. 

When my moon cast a shadow on my sun, I can pass for a not so happy person.

I have been judged by my face so many times, I couldn't even tell you. This is the face I was born with. Can't do anything about it. I haven't had any trouble making any friends in life though, I must be doing something right!

Nothing makes a woman / man more approachable than than a face which says: "Hey , ask me something."

And nothing shrivels a man's / woman's interest faster than a face which says: "It's all your fault , and I'm gonna make you pay!!"

I agree with Kashmiri, I try not to judge

Yes! The face means everything!!

The eyes and the expression around one's mouth tell all.

I think it's that the clothes & other external features can tell you about some, though certainly not all, external circumstances of that person's life at the PRESENT moment.  Can't tell you much about her history, cause people rise or crash all the time.

Whereas the face & eyes can tell you about what's going on inside of her.  To some extent.  Some people have a crazy poker-face.

I judge on my gut-reaction if I have to do it quickly, but usually I try to with-hold judgement until I've gotten to know someone better and seen how they act in a variety of situations.  

Usually notice the vibe/non-verbal body language she sends out, e.g. approachable, busy, defensive, etc. first. The expressions and eyes say a lot, but it depends on whether it's congruent with the rest.

It's too complex to sum up in a sentence. The human brain can take in many signals and process them in the twinkling of an eye: deportment, style, financial status, sexual confidence, awareness of her own body, health, mood - there are any number of variables which we pick up on and judge pretty instantly.

I do judge, or rather evaluate: it's instinctive. I'm willing to admit I was wrong first time, in some respects, when I get to know a person; but those first impressions are usually pretty accurate since they're based on years of experience

I have Saggie ASC as well as Jupiter/Gemini and will cop to talking to anyone and everyone:) I do make a lot of eye contact--I guess that's why everyone talks to me anyway???

I had absolutely horrible teeth until my Saturn Return and the amount of criticism I received for my stony face/lack of smile was unbelievable. I am over it but I have never forgotten and have a lot of empathy for people who are self-conscious about smiling.

It sure is nice to be able to smile freely, lemme tell ya! :) <----like that! every day.

I wish I had a scanner, I'd scan my passport photo and show you guys, it's a hilarious photo. I wasn't "smiling"...but I WAS. I lifted the corners of my mouth, pulled back my ears, smoothed my brow...and got to neutral. Ha ha ha!

I know that it's not the norm, and might even piss people off to hear this, but I strive to NOT judge others when I meet them. It's a reflexive action, yes ? I'm working toward being more open, neutral and compassionate than allowing a 'first impression' to take root. I loathe being judged, so I work hard at doing something different.

It's not the expression, because that's fluid. Scent, stance of the body, whether she is in her space or willing to venture out.

Okay, it's like this: I lived in a hotel for a long time. Every once in a while there would be a blunt cut blond who entered, with a tightly packed black roller case who was on her cell phone. On her luggage cart would be two more black bags and and a Dell Omniplex desktop, and you'd know this was a woman who was hanging on to her job while leaving her boyfriend, and this was serious because she was 36 and there was no marriage but there was property and she did just not care anymore about the property because she was Walking. Every time you'd see her there was a phone, phone, phone: Every time you'd see her there would be black from head to toe with fur cuffs and boots that appeared to be designed to slit your throat.

Then you'd get a female insurance adjuster from some middle state with wildly inappropriate dark flyaway hair who'd laugh at some joke the guy behind the desk was telling, and it would sound like cigarettes and humidity and some kind of rare freedom she had worked out between herself and  the rest of the world.

The thing is, both of these women had their shit they were carrying with them. It was just that you could tell who had wrapped every single piece of it in cellophane and layered it  for travel, compartment by compartment; and who was weirdly secure enough to leave most of it behind.

you should be a writer, eva

i love reading your words

What Lona said. : )

100% with kashmiri

yes you can tell a lot about a person by their expression, eyes, mouth...but it's just a snapshot in time.  See them 20 minutes later and you might have a totally different experience.

Unless someone is throwing their shit AT me, I have no interest nor reason to judge.

By throwing their shit at me, I mean women who look others up and down if they don't like how they're dressed, etc ;)   These people I do judge as rather pathetic...if you have have to compare yourself to someone else to feel good about yourself....you need a hug, but I sure as heck ain't going to offer one.

I think her face tells you about her & her clothes tell you about her circumstance!

"Then you'd get a female insurance adjuster from some middle state with wildly inappropriate dark flyaway hair who'd laugh at some joke the guy behind the desk was telling, and it would sound like cigarettes and humidity and some kind of rare freedom she had worked out between herself and  the rest of the world."

I love this. And I've met that lady too

I don't judge I gauge  =)

Can't tell anything about a persons face...if you could then one person would win poker over and over again, but as it goes....best not to judge anyways...the spells we cast on others are the spells that binds us.