I've had a crush on my Scorpio male friend of three years, and I've always kind of sensed that he's had feelings for me, too - though it's hard for me to tell just what they really are.  After my jealousy once got the better of me, I called to apologize and told him much I really liked him and that I had feelings for him, though I was careful not to use the word "love".  He listened but didn't say anything and acted nervous around me after that, though I felt better for having expressed myself and acted normally around him.

In the year or so since then, we've helped each other through tough times and are now working together on a creative project and a few business ideas.  As a result, he's opened up to me a lot more, and I know that he trusts and cares about me, though I'm still hoping for something more.  I'm a very patient girl with Sun in Sag, Moon in Taurus, and Venus in Capricorn, if that helps, and I'm not in a rush for a relationship - but I don't want to fool myself either.

So if you're not tired of trying to solve the mystery of Scorpios, please share your thoughts.

If you're talking about any Scorpio... nah.  I love a person with loads of Scorp/Pluto, but it's not enough.  Now if you're asking about a particular Scorpio, well, a very, very long time indeed.  Not that I'm going to sit and pine and yearn and weep and be lonely, because I've done all that and it's not worth it.  I'll be just fine without that particlar person, thank you very much, living my life and doing my things and if, if, they should finally remove their head from their ass and notice my greatness, I'd be happy to oblige them for a while.  *lol*

I think if he were interested n more, he'd be on it. He's not interested...

Sorry. :(

I hate to say this but I'd have to agree with Elsa. I spent much of my younger years pining over a guy whom I thought had interest in me but never showed it. You have a life to live. I wouldn't waste it on wondering whether or not this person has feelings for you.

Well it sounds like he may have feelings but he's not attracted perhaps?  If someone is not attracted to you, that is pretty fini.

It's hard to tell but based on what you've written it sounds like he is not able or willing to discuss his relationship to you, although perhaps I am wrong on that count. It indicates that his secretive nature has the best of him and he's deeply defended. You expressed your feelings before and it sounds as though he was unable to share his true feelings. He may feel comfortable around you because he knows your feelings and that he can trust you; it's a nice position for him because apparently he doesn't have to open up to you. I feel confident in saying that if he knows that you still have the same kinds of feelings for him (does he know?) and he has not pursued you or shared his feelings then he is not interested or capable of being in a romantic relationship at this time.

 At least, this is my opinion as a Scorpio man. I once read that what scorpios need to do is give up something every day, and that really resonated with me. Every day I have to shed something: vanity, pride, secretiveness, possessiveness, jealousy, myopic perspectives, etc. The transformational aspects of the sign and the attention, focus, and determination are wonderful qualities but there are many shadow ones that have to be engaged and set aside to turn the scorpion into an eagle.  

I don't like unresolved issues and perhaps at a careful moment these matters can be gently confronted. If he cannot respond and clings to his withdrawal in silence or secretiveness then you may want to focus on the professional aspects of the relationship and set aside those hopes for a romantic involvement. The process of mourning might be harder since you will be engaged professionally, but it can be done and you will be able to move forward and find a person who is capable of engaging you with the intimacy you desire and healthy communication that is the life blood of intimate relationships. 

Best wishes. 

Thank you all so much for your answers here. 

As much as I dreaded the response, I knew I needed to hear it, and that's probably why I asked it in these forums - the truth is probably easier coming from all of you since it might be very painful if I ever actually heard it from him. 

RonNoc, your answer was very thoughtful and especially meaningful coming from another Scorpio male - your last paragraph is exactly the realization I've been having lately. 

So now, instead of trying to figure out why the Scorpio guy can't share his feelings, I'm going to work on how this Sag girl can stop wanting emotionally unavailable men!

Peace, everyone ;)

Sounds like you're going to be just fine, Lulu, with all that good Sag power at your command. It's a courageous thing to open yourself up to hear what isn't easy to take; it shows you're a brave person devoted to your growth process. Be good to yourself during this transition and warm regards. 

Wow Lulu! This could be a Venus Capriorn issue. I have mine in Capricorn and it's in his 7th house which means it's ruled by Saturn, the planet that knows no time! So we can wait and wait and wait and nothing will change less and until Saturn wants it to (if ever!) thus the harsh lessons. I am in the same boat and am having to talk myself out of being obsessed (scorpio sun, rising and Mars...yikes) with this person everyday. I go up an down. So cry, write, sing, punch pillows, whatever helps and get on with your life. I don't want to have to come back here in a year and see you are still waiting....like I am...lol! Best of luck you!!

 Make him wait and keep him guessing.

It seems I'm always waiting for Scorpios. My ex husband and now this bastard. There were others in between. Best to move on if you can, but I know it's very hard to resist their sting! Why did God have to create them--esp the male ones? And they are ususally so damn hot too! Argh!

I have a son who is a scorpio with venus conjunct uranus in scorpio as well. He is 30 and very single. He's never had a relationship that went anywhere. As a mother, I find this very sad and frustrating; I want my son to be happy but he has found a lot of women who were not available... or were too nutty.. sigh.

If you're waiting for my son (I know you're not) I think you're wasting your time, if he really wanted you, you'd be wearing his ring by now.

Good luck. 

i don't wait.  Not anymore. I think i was about to be fooled again.... but i've learned so much from my recent relationship that it's easy to... well, easier to see other ones for what they are.