Can someone please explain what is going on with my double Scorpio Raul? Is he testing me, punishing me? Is he just unsure or moody? Should I say Adios Amigo? I am CRAZY about him! We have a very strong connection; however I have gotten some very mixed signals. Last week he talked about us moving into together, now that I am on the east coast taking care of osme things, he assumes I am with my ex and refuses to speak to me! ARGH!

Please help me figure this one out! How do I deal wiith this one? I appreciate any and all insight!

It doesn't please him you are not with him and instead of saying it clearly, finds false pretext ! it's a bit normal with the alignements at that time...

Juno (jalousy) opp mercury square mars and pluto

Where is his juno and your's ?

He has issues with asserting his masculinity.  Which sorry to say, you don't make him feel better about. You find his mind games aggravating.  He finds you psychically confusing.  Hes hurting.  Let him go. 

Sorry to be a snoop, but your link allowed me look at your other charts.  I like Greg. Whats his deal?

OMG! Greg is the BIGGEST A-hole you could ever meet! He's my friend's husband. Physically, mentally, and emotinally abusive to her! I know it doesn't show in his chart, but he really is a jerk! He is quite successful in his military career, but an alcoholic and major jerk!

hahahahahahaha.

Notatirem,

How does he find me psychically confusing?  Culturally yes!

How is he hurting? He is currently ignoring onset diabetes symptoms and refusing to get medical help.

I do find all his mindgames incredibly aggravating!

Funny you say he has trouble asserting his masculity. I do not put up with his macho BS one bit! Well, not outside the bedroom!

Vespa,

A Scorpio should make you feel elevated, always. Anything else, move on.

 A double Scorpio is a very KARMIC situation. I'm speaking from experience here. Don't waste one minute of your life taking crap from an abusive person. LIFE IS TOO SHORT!  Self esteem is at the base of either deflecting or attracting abuse. I wish they would teach self esteem in junior high.

Also, unresolved diabetes really screws with your brain chemistry. 

Mimi,

You're totally right about all that you say. So double scorpios are karmic? That might explain why I've been unable to shake him--I'm not THAT in love with him yet keep taking him back. I NEVER take anyone back once i'm done. I THOUGHT I was done a few times! So tired of his games and BS.

He is at a critical point with his diabete--has lost 20lbs in the last few weeks and he had none to spare! Very fit, now his clothes are hanging off of him. I have totally noticed his neurology being totally off; his behavior has been weird (like being right in front of his car and walking the other way). He has all the symptoms of peripheral neuropathy, but is ignorning them and refusing treatment. I'm really concerned for him regardless of what happens--will probably contact his adult children and urge them to get him into a doctor's care. I do worry and care about him.

Maybe I was brought into his life at this time for a reason, since I'm all about getting medical care. (being a Virgo)

A Scorpio should make you feel elevated, always. Anything else, move on.

Julian,

That is good advice for ANY sign of the Zodiac! I must constantly remind myself of these simple words of wisdom! 

Cheers,
LISA

I always seem to have Scorpios in my life, I guess it's because I have some planets in Cancer and Pluto on the IC. Not sure.

Anyway, FWIW, if you're romantically involved with a Scorpio, it will not be a long-term happy relationship if he doesn't respect you. It's kind of a quandary, because you can't make him respect you - the very act of trying to make someone respect you shows a lack of self-respect.

Unevolved Scorpios will play with you for a long time before dropping you, kind of like a cat with a mouse. Evolved Scorpios have too much self-respect and self-awareness to engage in that behavior, but both types will suss out very early on whether or not they can roll you. What you're made of, in other words. It's just a reflex.

Why not focus on yourself and your gifts?

I don't know. if he's accusing you of cheating with no reason to, then he's being possessive and presumptive.  Wouldn't fly with me.

But, that's just me.  I'd tell him to fester with his not talking to me and walk away. 

Today, he assumes you're with your Ex and he won't talk with you. So then what - you iron it out and move in together? You go to the grocery store and to run errands, take too long and so obviously you were shacking up with someone else in the time you were gone? Where does it stop?

It snowballs, ya know? If you don't trust me when I've given you NO reason not to, you don't trust me.  It's insulting and disrespectful.

Lisa, I guess all of us if not most of us here have been mesmerized by a scorpio. I have current involvements with scorpio (double, stellium), and so far it has been heavenly though a bit scary on the intensity side. I think the best approach to loving a scorpio would be to enjoy them when they feel good about themselves, everything else in between takes a lot of acceptance and understanding.

However, LOYALTY and DEVOTION is a big thing with scorpios.  If you weather it through the storm with them and you're still left standing, you're not necessarily assured with the continuing passion but nevertheless you will be assured of an equal devotion. So, determine what you want out of your scorpion guy.  There's a price to pay to be with them, remember that always. Sometimes too dearly.

Where's your earth signs placed natally? Are these having nice aspects with any of his water signs? Know how to HOLD and CONTAIN his emotions. He would consider a woman priceless who hangs around to clean up after the fireworks have long ended.

Be prepared to call it quits and say goodbye ANYTIME. Let him know that you are comfortable with endings and new beginnings. That way, you always give him a chance to start all over again to "build up" and "explode". Give him this particular high and he will not get tired of starting all over again with the same woman - that is YOU.

Speaking as a scorpio my first impression is that he is feeling insecure. If this is true then he's not toying with you or manipulating you; he's behaviorally reactive due to a false cognition. Scorpios want assurances (speaking personally here so a little disclosure) that you only desire them with the same intensity that they desire you. This raises an interesting question - how insecure is he? If he is full of annoying false bravado (machismo) and acts like a loon then I have to imagine that's very unattractive. Then again you might find compassion for the scared person inside all of that hot air and see the love they have and want to share with you, if it is genuinely there.

I very much like what persian_cat wrote and agree with it. Loyalty and devotion are indeed important. It's very difficult for a scorpio to contain his emotions, although that is no excuse to behave inappropriately. I am also fascinated by what she wrote about being comfortable with endings and new beginnings. She's so right about that; scorpio rules over psychic transformation,which likely contributes to so much of the problems for people with a lot of that energy within. Humans are conservative by nature; we don't like to change, no matter what our culture says. Often the ending is nothing more than a new beginning with a Scorpio, and often a better beginning with an expanded horizon for the relationship. 

Ask yourself what you want. If you love him then you should be true to your love and try to connect with him, explaining that you understand why he is fearful and provide reassurances that you love him and would never betray that; if he is so insecure that he cannot receive your sincere message then you can part knowing that you had the satisfaction of being true to yourself, your love, and the relationship that you had started to build with him. Hopefully he is not so closed off that he cannot hear what you have say with sincerity and love. 

Not sure if any of this helps but I just wanted to toss in my $.02. Best of luck. 

"Often the ending is nothing more than a new beginning with a Scorpio, and often a better beginning with an expanded horizon for the relationship."

That is exactly how I wanted to put this idea together. With Scorpio's endings, it actually means a shedding of the old rules/operative framework to welcome the new; only with lots of emotional drama that would rival a soap opera scene of the same magnitude and proportions. Intensely dramatic "endings" - if you dig into this and still manage a cool frappucino and pretty much get on right on schedule for the rest of the day....then you can HANDLE any scorpio.

Take it from the Scorpio authority with:

Scorpion mother in law

Scorpion daughter

Scorpion boss

Scorpion lover

As soon as a Scorpio tries to write me off, my mind is starting to get busy doing mental calculation as to the number of days or hours they will come knocking on my door again.  Time and space are very important for them to gather their wits about them. And so the cycle continues...

Maybe I'm just properly equipped to handle the situation due to my Sun/Asc in Leo that digs in the psychology behind all that drama and the solid Cappy moon that could withstand ANYTHING.

Lisa, if you learn your way around your scorpion guy, you will marvel at the evolution that comes next. You will gain better understanding of yourself through his own self-evolution and the constant cycle of association and disassociation with him.

If you are prepared for an upheaval of all sorts of emotions that you could potentially feel....then dig in!