Who in this community "nurtures" you. That is who do you feel is a good "mother" for your needs?

In my case it is moonpluto who always gets my dark stuff and Lynne E who supports with no expectation or strings attached...

Your turn!

I think I'm older than Lupa, but Lupa.  she's so even, calm, and transcendent.

and goddess has similar energy, but is, well, different, more ethereal? 

ah, and I feel like they provide wisdom, acceptance, and make me feel safe expressing myself. 

Dang Elsa, you gonna make me cry.

Everyone who commented on that post I wrote when I realized my relationship was dying -- that nurtured me. I meant to print it out -- still have to. I really value that, if someone, a stranger, takes the time to add their two or three or four cents because they've been there and they tell you yes: it will get better, yes, you will be loved again -- isn't that mother love?

Aww.. thank you so much for saying that Elsa..and how spooky. I was thinking about you today and felt like mailing to say, girl you bring out the mother hen in me!! Then I thought och maybe I'm just silly. My beloved grandson, the double Capricorn says I am now and then with a great big gap toothed 5yr old grin, so I must be.

I feel soothed so yes, nurtured by Tam, a lovely soul, love reading Kashmiri  but again, a touch of the mother hen there for me..and Sartori  intrigues, while Moonpluto I connect with you at a deep level too.

there are lots of people here who are very warm and kind and i frequently feel resonate. lupa, satori and kashmiri, in particular, i find very soothing and generally feel understood by.

I dreamed about kashmiri the other night.   I likes her muchly.

when i first started posting here there was a woman named dorothy...she had strong mothering energy....i think crackers may as well...

certain peple here have energy that i find comforting in a way i can't explain including miss and jilly.....it's not mothering.....but they have a healing vibe....i'm sure i would feel totally relaxed after visiting miss's salon or hearing jilly give a poetry reading

i feel kinship and kindrid spirit-like feelings with several others...but this is something else.....and i can't leave this post without mentioning kashmiri

oh, and then ....elsa (ducks and covers)   ;-)  

Awww you guys.  I am always flitting about commenting and running because my life is insane. I'm glad who I intend to be gets expressed in the rush. 

Definitely feel a kinship.  Satori it's completely mutual.  I could have said the same things about you.  Kashmiri, Goddess, Moonpluto are all very cool women... and of course Elsa nurtures us all on a daily basis. 

It's such a family here.  :)

i had a dream with elsa in it recently since satori mentioned dreams. i saw her at some public event w/the fam. but she was wearing a ski mask to keep from being recognized. a ski mask and a black cocktail dress. 

in the dream, elsa came over, popped up the mask, and said hello quickly before disappearing back under the mask  (to the shadows, i guess). mars/mercury. haha!

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words can't say it. sorry!

what a pleasure it is to have loved, and have those who you love , know for certain that you love them.

i am, i think, a mother. i love you. you are my community.

thank you satori, for dreaming of me. it's an honour to know my spirit travels:)

elsa you are like a mother hen to me! 

Hi Varsity Moms, Sweet post this is. along with Kashmiri (mountain spring momma), Goddess (telling it like it is), Lupa (not missing a beat), Jilly (unassuming reccognition in the shadows), miss (reaching right out) Lindsey (fine-tuned gentle one), moon pluto (careful sincere depth), Lynn E (raising all boats to float higher) Satori (typing the right thing to say in drastic  situation-posts) and Elsa (Keeping the lights and the server on like a pot of stew amidst the dark shadows) -- I'd like to add Shell (immediate reflective presence) and Jessica (spontaneous heartfelt communicator) who both contribute to a feeling of neighbor moms, so necessary in isolating times.

kash - you are an ethereal person with EDGE that I love (to me) and I do feel mother henish to you which I would never bother. I love it when you spew and I mean it is an unparalleled glory.

Deidre: you did that perfectly, I agree with your soundbites.

I love the way Kash speaks from the heart. And the way Goddess is so practical. Deidre really nails it. Jessica is full of beautiful empathy. Lupa is a voice of hope for the future, that it does get better. Satori always says something I don't expect, a fun/funny humor. I feel bad to forget anyone, but I just woke up-- Monica, Hrae, Bella, Jilly....

Sometimes I think I don't read closely enough-- I am going to start paying more attention because I may be missing some cool folks and wisdom. For example, aren't there two people named Lynn? I don't know who is who!

It's funny to think of myself as having mom-ness. Not funny, but feels good yet ironic. Cancer gets that bad rap for smothering and I don't have kids and likely never will but I think I HAVE to nurture to be happy, to live my chart. Although it's not conscious, but when someone comes over I want to feed them right away, make sure everything is okay. And yet I also feel like a kid--

It's a bittersweet issue since I lost both parents before my Saturn return and miss my mother every day and I do mean every day. She was scorpio, quiet, secretive...

Topic of mom/moon really gets me going...

I had a dream about Satori (before ever reading her username before since it was my first week here) the night before she gave me advice when I was first here that pretty much changed my life...it was about invalidation and not having to hang out with insensitive people. I've believed in myself so much more since then. In the dream I was running to a graduation through rain--cliche, but true...and this woman was saying my name, like a voice in the sky...then I woke up and thought "shit! there's a ghost in my apartment!" and I was terrified lol... Later in the day I commented on a post about...hmm forgot...something about accepting limitations of people's ability to understand emotion I think...and satori sent me a link and said that my emotions were acceptable after all, and then I clicked on her username, and holy shit-- it matched the ghost lady voice to a tee! Kind of soft and counselor-y. And her words were very impactful for me...

So thank you, Satori--you never know how you impact ppl...and I wonder, is your voice actually counselor-y? And if not, even you actually sound like a banshee, that worked for me at the time lol...

I think most people here are very nurturing since they are very emotionally honest and accepting of differences and even shortcomings, and I credit Elsa with being a magnet for it all, of course...

I had a dream about Satori (before ever reading her username before since it was my first week here) the night before she gave me advice when I was first here that pretty much changed my life...it was about invalidation and not having to hang out with insensitive people. I've believed in myself so much more since then. In the dream I was running to a graduation through rain--cliche, but true...and this woman was saying my name, like a voice in the sky...then I woke up and thought "shit! there's a ghost in my apartment!" and I was terrified lol... Later in the day I commented on a post about...hmm forgot...something about accepting limitations of people's ability to understand emotion I think...and satori sent me a link and said that my emotions were acceptable after all, and then I clicked on her username, and holy shit-- it matched the ghost lady voice to a tee! Kind of soft and counselor-y. And her words were very impactful for me...

So thank you, Satori--you never know how you impact ppl...and I wonder, is your voice actually counselor-y? And if not, even if you actually sound like a banshee, that worked for me at the time lol...

I think most people here are very nurturing since they are very emotionally honest and accepting of differences and even shortcomings, and I credit Elsa with being a magnet for it all, of course...

whoops...my second post had a correction.

 DenaMaria is missing from this list!  She seems a truly sweet and supportive person.  I always see her handing someone a warm blanket.  

*tears* you guys are so sweet. I loved reading this post.

I just want to be clear here...

I agree with the people being named at "mothering" here. The people I named are the people who "mother" in a way that resonates with me personally and I just want to make this distinction.

For example, I know satori is a strong mother figure but I do not feel mothered by her, I feel she is a peer.

Denamaria, also strong mother nature but I don't feel mothered by her. To me she is a peer / sibling of the soldier's which is very different... sort of a lateral relationship.

Also, someone mentioned, Dorothy. I don't know what happened to her but I miss her as well...

Elsa...thank you for clearing that up....I was thinking you meant this by whom you mentioned...because Moonpluto and Satori do resonate in some way with your energy.....I could see that right away.

Thank you crackers for including me....that was very sweet....I do read stories that hurt my heart and I want to encourage that person, but as far as mothering or resonating for me, I think about Lindsey and Dorothy....where did she go?  It may be the Pisces or LIbra I am resonating with, but I find myself nodding my head as I am reading....thinking...yeah, yeah....so true....Goddess does this for me too and Moonpluto.....really, so many...this is a great group of people. 

Thanks for making distinction there, Elsa...I understand now that you meant nurturing of the mothering sort, not nurturing as of the kindred spirit or peer/friend sort.  Aside from Dorothy, the folks I mentioned have made me feel nurtured, not mothered. 

Oh, and DenaMaria, thanks!  I think we came onto the blog about the same time and I feel special connection and comraderie with you because of that!!  

And Dierdre, thank you also for your words.  I feel appreciation for you and admire you and your work in astrology, as I feel towards Elsa.  

Lindsey - yes. The manner with which those 2 women interact with me specifically feels like mothering, of a kind I appreciate. I meant to reveal myself as much as honor the women. 

I am very strange (I have recently been told) because I say exactly what I mean. There are all kinds of mother types around here, yourself included but moonpluto never jumps to conclusions when I write something and always posts under my more questionable posts which makes me feel normal (and supported). It's like she senses, "Oh fuck!" when I write something shady / dark or hard to parse and she gets under me like under dog or something shores me up.

Lynne E is just real nice to me and she is another astrologer / a peer. She always has a knack of coming in (privately) when I am flailing in some way so these are things that feel mothering to me. Note I have Capricorn so I don't want anyone too fawning or sweet or smothering.  I meant this thread to serve a dual pupose - People cpuld acknowledge other woman AND consider what a "mother" is to them (their own moon).

Not that I am complaining about how it turned out. Just 'splainin'. :)

I love this thread! I'm more of a lurker but I love how supportive everyone is here! Communities like this are (very) rare and I just wanted to say I appreciate it. :)

Oh good, because I love this thread and didn't pipe up because I couldn't pick just one or two people.

But I have a 12th house moon and if I didn't have "invisible" people (or Pisces) mothering me, I wouldn't have any at all.   So everyone here counts!

and that was really sweet, both moonpluto and Deirdre.  thanks!
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And thinking about what you wrote Deirdre, that is weird because I think of shell as my "neighbor," too.  I wonder what that is!  Wouldn't have landed on the word, until you wrote that.<!--Session data-->

Elsa, I appreciate knowing this -- at the most basic level it is information. I honestly have no clue how I may affect someone-- unless they tell me.
I wonder if others have this same "problem."

Previously, I was starting to list people who I look fwd to reading and trying to remember them all, but my list was somewhat about being a peer, somewhat about wanting their wisdom -- may not be the same as "mothering" though.
I am thinking about this issue more (as well as whether people change ;)

Also, about your writing: I have prob read the blog less than two years consistently but have watched you struggle to express exactly what you mean and seen the misunderstandings and frustrations happen time and time again. Only natural, I suppose, but frustrating. It's like you have to be 1000 percent conscious of every word or some fire will break out. Something that I think helps and is fun to read: you come at stuff from one angle and then another and then another and then a picture erupts and voila! Okay, that's what she means...maybe.

And if I am like underdog (along with the other images you used) then I am surely .. on the right track...as a human.

One reason why I miss my ex so much (another Cancer) is that I miss his mothering. Which perhaps was barely adequate but this mothering stuff is on my mind now...

I think everyone here has given me some motherly/thoughful advice at some point or another, all of which I am deeply thankful for!  I think the community/relationship here is so valuable because it completely unbiased and without expectation.

If I had to choose one though, I'd have to say Kashmiri has stood out to me from the begining, and I think I've been reading here for a little over 2 years.  Such an interesting, thoughtful, compassionate, sweet-as-pie person. 

Deirdre and Jessica, thanks for feeling like I'm a neighbor!  I definitely am a neighbor in heart to everyone here. 

Lupa and Goddess...though I don't interact with either of you directly very often, your posts are the ones I tend to take to heart.

I'd say Kash, Goddess, and Elsa herself :) Satori also gives me that strong motherly vibe, but I don't think I've had an interaction with her directly :)

I'm lucky to have encountered you people in this board. You all are so great! :) Thanks for the wonderful advice! 

honestly, i feel the most nurtured when i feel understood, and that happens more frequently in this community than other places besides my immediate circle.

i do especially appreciate the mentions here. it means a lot to me.

Sigh..really really want some of that apple pie. .Deirdre, wow, how moving that was..so thoughtful..you really do listen to people...wow..you said I raise the boats to float higher.. that's made my day again..thankyou.. (btw I love boats too)

Goddess I so often read you and smile, and I've linked to your website, like your ethos and think what a good soul you are, a special lady..Lupa.. I have heard your voice and it's warm and kind and lovely.,Lunalie you say things that stir .. Sartori you make me giggle with that pipe in your pretty face.. smart lady with a deep soul..Miss, Sonah, Lexie, Shell, Sitara, anyone I missed here, I didn't mean to..I so enjoy everyone's posts  Denamaria makes me think water, water, deep feeling and maybe some strong fire, too.. she's sensitive and resonates with me too...feeling she needs a hug today(())...Jilly fascinates me..Jessica seems such a giver, too.. the thing for me is I came to the blog last year and joined in just a few months ago, as I thought err.. I wonder if anyone might mind me chiming in now and then.. and you all made me welcome, so thanks for that..and I know some of you know Elsa as friends.I have no expectation, it's true, just an appreciation of the chance to share astrology without the demands of what I once did, running a lively local group in my home, which I gave up when, ironically, (moons and mums again) my mum got ill. When she died I started doing a big newspaper job and lots of radio. She released that in me, I sense.But the busier I got the more I missed the astro-community. Just wanted to take this chance to say thanks ..

You don't always want your "Mum" around when you're hanging out with friends, mind you..nor does anyone want to be cossetted and sweettalked.. I like a little "cuddle" now and then, but tell it straight and I'll respect you,..yet sometimes I think we appreciate a little of the aura of the caring energy from whatever good mothering we had ( from any female caring person who's been close through childhood)..for me Tam does that without even knowing me at all.. just with her words... maybe there's a connection with my mum's chart there.. some Taurus or a Gemini Moon like my mum had.. it's more about the astrology of Moons, isn't it.

I so appreciate Elsa saying she felt mothered by me in some ways, and knew what she meant by that.. that the astrology should fit..with my ruler planet in Cancer and my Aries Moon aspecting 6 planets plus Asc/MC.. my chart is so about mothering, mother issues, mother..  not in a dark, gobble your kids way ( they've grown and flown and are nearly out of therapy ).. just that since I was 9yrs old I have been in a caretaking, mothering role, and most people who know me well think I care well for and about them. I enjoy that.   But, despite the occasional lapse, I am no "apron on" mom, not with an Aries Moon..My husband says we have to have the kids to visit as it's the only time he gets a really good feed.. sad lad..in our house the smoke detector going off signals dinner is ready..  no wonder I lust after that picture of apple pie.

...eek, what I meant was everyone here is a neighbor in heart to me.  =)

Kashmiri you are my fave! Hope you are OK.

thanks togi. not okay but i am surrounded by good people, including my partner who is most definitely a good man, albeit one that's flying the coop

I've not been around in a while, but when I was here before - for me - the mother figure was the lovely Neith.  Neith, do you have a lot of earth in your chart?  You seem very Mother Earthish to me!  Love ya dolly!

And, Neith, if you are reading this, take some Vitamin B6 for your carpal tunnel!!  Take two to begin with morning and night when you have a flare-up, and then go to one tablet twice a day.  Gave me great relief.  I take them for awhile (maybe two or three months) when I have a flare, and then once it's settled down, I stop taking them specifically and just take a regular multi-B vitamin daily.

Hey Thanks, DreamsAreality!! [love your usename!!] 

Would you believe the only earth I have natally is a Virgo MC?! Classic case of compensating for a missing element I guess. Plus a couple of years ago my Sun progressed into Capricorn along with Mars & Mercury (promptly conjuncted by transiting Pluto).

Say, you are the second person to recommend B Vits for carpal tunnel so I am adding them to my usual multivit/mineral supplements. Need to pick up some B6 and will do so.  Saturn in Virgo does support making small changes in diet & exercise consistently to improve one's health and well-being.

That Virgo element might explain it.  My husband is a Virgo and although he does not mother me, he is a very solid, stable, 'count-on-able' presence in my life.  Not flighty as is my mother, who's natch, a Gemini.  I equate solidity with REAL mothering as mine flew the coop early and I lacked an actively present mother figure during those darn teen years when I  could of used it.  She was there, and although I didn't live with her, I did the weekend visit thing which because she's an active person she spent overcompensating by taking the kiddos to 'do & see' things instead of getting closely attached.  As much as I enjoyed the lifestyle of travel & cultural awareness, it wasn't the same as someone who was there for advisor type purposes. 

I used to feel nurtured by Loon before she went off a cliff and left.  I think of Satori as that quirky aunt who always has something smart and witty to say.  And Kash feels like an older sister to me.  I guess because we have a lot of similarities in our charts.  It's like seeing myself in a few years.  But every single person in this community is absolutely valuable and irreplaceable. I <3 you all.