I'm a Sagittarius and my mother is a Virgo. All she's ever done my entire life is pop my happy bubbles. She's not doing well and before she leaves I have to forgive her but don't know how to.

Well, at the most basic level, sag and virgo do square each other (have tension between them) so it makes sense if things were rocky at times for the two of you

My personal belief is that you don't have to forgive anyone. I mean, you need to find what will bring you peace, whether it's forgiveness or something else. No. easy answers.

It can help to work with an advisor of some kind, whether it's a therapist or traditional spiritual teacher or astrologer -- someone you can share all the details with and figure it out.

If you love her, you can tell her you love her. You can tell her you are sorry for your part in whatever difficulty there was. You can tell her any number of things--

Mainly, I say figure out what you need

I'm a Gemini with a Virgo father and I understand the dynamic even though I don't know about your particular situation.

Marianne Williamson has just been the voice that I've needed to hear this year. I'm going to post a link to one of her podcasts I hope it isn't too religious for you.

http://www.oprah.com/media/20090218-miraclethought-marianne-williamson-forgiveness

cosmickisses2u, you could try posting you & your Mom's birthdata/charts & explaining more of your story here to us and see what we can collectively come up with or do a private consult with Elsa if you want direct insight into what's going on.

Moonpluto has given you pretty good advice - what will bring you peace in the long term?  Attempt it and know that you have tried.

"....before she leaves I have to forgive her but don't know how to." 

I agree with moonpluto.  Perhaps it will give you peace of mind to voice "forgiveness" to her before she departs, for her sake; but truly forgiving her shouldn't have to come with such force and urgency, or else it probably won't be authentic and healing anyways.

Going through a Pluto/moon transit myself, I'm slowling learning to take responsibility for how my life has played out.  Realizing how much I've allowed the mother-figure to hold me back from how I want to live my own life is pushing me to stop LETTING other people "pop my happy bubbles".  I'm not saying it's your fault whatsoever, cosmickisses, believe me; there's just a point when you realize that people only get to you the way you let them, and when you assume your half of the responsibility it leaves a little more room for forgiveness I think.  I know mother/daughter relationships are a little more difficult to get a birds eye view about, but I'm wishing you lots of love and healing during this time.

((((cosmickisses)))))((((((....and mother too))))))

Okay, I just read your comment in the "Beautiful Acts of Virgo" post.

I'm so sorry for everything you endured.  I think your last sentence, though, is something you could try to hold on to..."I guess I have my mother to thank for that at least."

Because of her mistakes, you yourself recognize that it's kept you drug and alcohol free.  And I don't know if you have any children, but I'm sure if you do/when you do....you will not be popping their bubbles...you'll allow them to follow their dreams and be happy individuals. 

I can understand where you are coming from.  I have a father who was an addict for many years...caused so much turmoil in our family...gave me countless issues I'm still trying to overcome; but I just always try to remember that he's human...as is your mom...some people just aren't strong enough or equiped enough to learn how to change......but then WE learn from them...and the cycle goes on and on...and hopefully the buck stops with us and we can leave a better legacy with our own children thanks to the mistakes of ours.

Again, much love to you.

Thank you Shell. As well as everyone who has sent me feedback. I'm so sorry to hear that you also had a parent with an addiction problem. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. It is hard when you are a child and a parent is out of control. Then as an adult, still having to overcome issues. I have Mars in Scorpio in my 5th house which helped me from going completely crazy. From what I've read, you sound like you are strong and have been able to cope. I wish you well.  

I am a mom. My youngest is 11. There isn't such a thing as a perfect parent. But because of the relationship I had with my mom, I try very hard to be and I enjoy my children. Something I know my mother never did with my sister and I. But then again I have 4 planets in my fifth house (jupiter, Mars, neptune, north node). My children, and children in general, bring out all my creativitey. My oldest is a jazz guitarist and my 11 year old has been modeling since age 4 and has done a few commercials. He's also been playing Ice Hockey since age 5 and is MVP on his traveling Ice Hockey league. That being said. there are no accidents in the Universe. Everything happens for a reason. You are so right Shell. Thanks to the mistakes of our parents, We will leave a legacy with our children who are mentally and emotionally healthy and happy. 

Much Love