Dolce asked on the Social Trends thread:
"And what types of things do people want who break it off after a few years?"

Which is interesting, I think.  The only answer I can come up with is "they want children," but that's about all.  :)

So, with that in mind:  If you were to enter into a long-haul (10+ year) relationship within the next year, what ONE (1) thing would be your biggest motivation?  What is / would be your biggest "want?"

And I'm re-stating this: ONE THING ONLY, the most compelling reason you can think of.  :)

Can you see the astrology of it?

companionship ~ Venus in the 11th house

companionship - Moon in Gemini :)

Well if I knew in advance that it would be a ten year plus relationship the only want I would have is perfect love & security.....not having to be peeping over my shoulder every time the wind blows....the feeling like no matter what happens I will always be able to count on this.....

perfect love and security is one thing because I ripped it directly from a song lyric :)

Oh the astrology....venus in capricorn opposed saturn and square pluto is the likely culprit....also sextile moon/jup

*lol*  Two responses, same answer, different astrology.

I likes it!  ;D

*laughs @TMP*  Okay, I'll let you slide -- but only if you link to the song.  :P ;)

A man who is willing to put his back into it, cause it's worth the investment of sweat equity. Let's build something solid.   Moon, venus in Capricorn in the 10th. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2-DDQQ-eOM

at about 2:19

Sizzla Kalonji

LMAO!!! at Daisy....well if its lasting ten years surely that is a given...says my venus square pluto....

Real love! Saturn in Libra transiting my 1st house.

What Caroline said.

  :)  Saturn transiting my 7th here. Someone to cuddle with. :)

security. saturn moon! saturn finishing its transit of my 2nd house.

A ten year long relationship? Hmm, I might have to have a talk with my 1st house Sun/Moon opposite 7th house Uranus sextile 5th house Mars about just what that means, and that jumping off the balcony doesn't count as quitting. *sigh* ; )

Ten---years. Still trying to wrap my mind around it. Well.....honestly? what's the one thing I've not been able to get from my other relationships being hardwired like I am so far?

Physical intimacy.

That's the best way I could think of to say it. Taurus/Scorpio relationship axis, and Venus/Pluto have spoken I think. I reversed the thought, and this was what I realized I wouldn't be able to partner without.

@toomuchpluto... ya CAN"T take these things for granted I say!!! ;) So, I'm with @daisy... someone who I can bank on jumping into the trenches & matching my muscle power. SICK of being surrounded by limp dicks (um... that's just an expression ;)

@SaD... & you? What about your one thing??

I know in the last year or so on here all I wanted to talk about was my baby desire - it kind of trumped other topics as I really wanted to have it figured out - how to do it, what kind of man (age etc) To do it with - ie i know a hell of a lot more about kids having moved home and being around my neices and nephews.. so now I know I can do it and would like to do it. BUT I was also determined to date to find a mate to do it with because my preference is to have it all come together - I have libra and a cancer planet.

But anyway.. now it's libra focused so I'm back to sounding man crazy. But what I really need is to find someone who's compatible with my libra side and for them to know that it's something I want so that then there's no reason to leave when the pressure returns full force.

For me it's children. I think that's what marriage is about at the end of the day. It could be to stop the relationship treadmill but to be honest I have moon in gem and I like the variety. Hate when the leave though.. so I'd like them to stay. I have saturn in cancer in the 9th and jupiter in the 5th - these are my "sharing" houses and they are about babies.. so of course I would only truly commit if there's family involved.

My one thing?  *laughs*  I have Leeeeebra!  I have Libra Venus, nonetheless!  And Mars!

The closest I can come to is "warmth."  What I want isn't explained in any one concept / word that I know of, unfortunately.  :)

Ok, Ok... we'll let you off =D

I know you have said you're very different in the RW, but I can't see how you couldn't attract warmth SaD!! I hope a whole freakin FIRE is on it's way ;)

A great love that will ground, nourish, secure and thrill me for the whole decade - with an option to renew the lease! :)

I want them to not get fed up with me and leave.

Oh, yeah... out n' about, I'm a very different entity, much more reserved.  I'm only a goofball among intimates.  ;)

I want to get a new life

this Saturn return is just irritating

Love like my grandparents had. It was abiding and not jealous. It grew and was compassionate. It was companionship. Financial support and safe. It was friendship and encouraging eachother in all their endevors. It was realistic and insitefull. It allowed each of them to achieve careers and friendships. A beautiful home and wonderful trips.

So see just by having that foundation to build in I wouldn't need to list more than one thing :) yeah I cheated but not really :)

Edited because of double posting. Now that woulda been cheating :)

freedom..

from being alone

from jealousy

from rejection

from insecurity

from pining

Aqua rising, Uranus conj Sun in Libra

I want to meet the one that I am meant to be with in this life. - I know he's out there.

I don't know. I really don't. I want too much to pick just one.

NO DRAMA

Welcome, jobaby106. :)

My biggest want? Someone who makes me feel loved.

I've been in a 10 year relationship and had a kid and was married. But really it boiled down to my Pisces Moon, the need for emotional companionship and growth. 

My moon trines jupiter and pluto.

But I also need, roots and stability and knows what theyre' doing in life. Cap Venus trines Virgo Mars.

But most of all I need a buddy, I'm a mess with out one. Libra Saturn.

Wow, great thread idea, SaD.  Thanks!

I like to think 'fairness' would make a relationshp work well for the long haul.

Giving AND taking.  Supporting and sacrificing for the other partner. A must in my opinion.

What I want (new moon in 9th) is my class to go well.  I want my storytelling mojo to come back into being. I want my book to move head (publishing / 9th). I want to celebrate my wedding anniversary.:)

i want to keep getting that tingle in my toes every time he kisses me .. 

and again, for the record: 

libra 9th house..  jupiter, venus, saturn, juno, pluto, lilith ( i want it all )

..and the current freight train is hitting all my placements dead on 

waiting on a big book deal and its driving me crazy- hoping to finally hear this week the $$ details- I can't take waiting any longer- this has been going on since the big meeting on June 30th!!

an Aries w/ Sag rising (me) has a hard time with patience- I would like some major movement in the work sector!

Holy crap! This new moon is on my venus/pluto in my 12th.. Pluto has been knocking my venus/pluto around and I descovered so much more about how I relate.. and can relate.. and am now comfortable in my own skin in a way I've never been before.

Well tonight I decided to redo my vision board - mostly I've just stuck to one theme in the last year - a baby - but now I decided in honour of this cardinal crush to add a house (neptune in my 4th) and a man.. so I went on POF and found one! The man of my dreams! I figured what the hey if I'm doing a vision.. i've always imagined a laughing dark curly haired man in my peripheral vision.. so i went looking and the man is indeed the man of my dreams! Cancer with jupiter in cap, saturn in gem, venus in gem and mars in leo. So I messaged him telling him so and put his picture on my vision board. He's even wearing a wedding ring in the pic because he's divorced lol. I also added my own edit suite since that's part of my vision. My own setup at home with the man and the baby. Geeze wouldn't that be something??

I love your enthusiasm, Liz.

I guess I'm the only one who wants money. Cold cash to pay my student loan off with. New Moon is conj. my Pluto in 10th, square Cap Moon and opposing Venus. Money.

I'd like to break the seal on my nearly-decade-long singlehood. This song explains my situation and attitude succinctly; I think.

Lyrics: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/r/radiohead/little_by_little.html

Track: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vMDKg4MMN8

I fought hard for my freedom, so someone who will intrude on it just enough, and keep it interesting. I know, tall order. A girl can dream...

I'd like the next ten years to be as beautiful as the past month or so has been since I decided to stick it out with the hubs :) I want us to move into the future together and share some kind of faith we can agree on :) Saturn transiting Pluto in the 12th.

True, soul-connected love.  Anything less and I'm not interested. 

Trans Saturn Libra 8th trine Saturn Venus Aquarius 12th.