Two friends of mine on FB got dumped by their boyfriends this week. During the fuckin' holidays, even... >:#

Anyone else seeing this going on?

Boy, that sucks!

"You dump them before the holidays that way you don't have to buy them a gift."

- Co-worker

<----- *Agrees with Future*

I think there was a Post about this somewhere on this Blog.

Or..... was that some magazine?? *Meh* Not important.

ditto towardsfuture:  pick arguments   or  go "poof"  ===> classic movies.

Maybe it's explainable, but it's still quelle dickish.  :/

No, but I've been dumped on Thanksgiving and my birthday...my heart goes out to them.

That's rotten!!  I got dumped by one of my very first high school boyfriend's on Christmas Eve.  I ran into the guy about 12 years later, and found out he ended up marrying the girl he dumped me for, she became the town coke whore, and he was a single dad with 4 little kids (one he named Carrie)!

My theory about this is guys who don't want any relationship beyond a casual one disappear right after Halloween and reappear on February 15.

The ones who don't want to buy gifts dump around Thanksgiving or Christmas.  Or they don't want to meet the family, because that would imply that the thing is OMG SERIOUS, when they were only in it for sex or whatever else.

I was dumped on Valentine's Day once.  Nutsy, I feel for your friends and I hope they can take advantage of the excellent mingling opportunities at holiday parties.

Ouch.

I used to know a gal who dumped her guy on Valentines Day - after he had gone and gotten her tons of sweet thoughtful gifts. Poor man! I always thought that was so mean.

I always seem to get dumped right before my birthday which is a week before Valentines even though I have always hated V-Day. I always got pink heart shaped stuff for my birthday and I hated it.

I got dumped two days before Valentine's Day once-- now that is a jinxed holiday :P

@Carrie

I'm sorry, but that's really kind of funny, even if it's really sad (for him). And maybe a bit creepy if he names his kids after you? 

Maybe I should be grateful I've never been dating someone around the holidays. (shrug) Meh, I'd risk the heartaches at this point to share some holidays with my beloved. If he dumped me, I'd move on in time.

But someone callously doing this to another person is not nice, and sad. Hmph.

I know people who have been fired / layed off / made redundant for the holidays. :( Can't management wait until after the new year? Ick.

Getting dumped the day of or the eve of a holiday is just plain mean. I knew someone who dumped his ex the day after V-day... that's rotten, too... like he was being fake and romantic, and the next day is done with her... I feel bad for the gal.

I would rather be dumped during/right before the holidays if the relationship isn't working than have the other person just go through the motions and wait until it's over to do it. 

Me too, Del again.  Dump me hard, fast, cold, whatever. That mercy fucking is for the birds.

Ha ha, I just thought of that line in the Godfather... he's a man who prefers to hear bad news right away. Me too. 

Maybe it's me but it is the dumping that hurts me not that it is holiday season.  If it's over then dump me no matter the day slow burns just don't feel great.

Facebook just did a big article on this subject.  What time of year is the biggest for breakups?  Hands down, it was the 2 weeks leading up to Xmas!  Not just before Xmas, but the first two weeks of Dec.  For lots of reasons...financial, emotional...etc.

I got dumped in December a couple of times, and once, a week before Valentine's Day.

Bought these fools nice presents...I felt so stupid.  I returned all those gifts save for one...a pair of red suspenders I bought one guy for V Day.  I kept them and wore them for a while...still have 'em.  ;)

Funny.  I had a slow-moving potential boyfriend (we've been workin' on it for over a year snail's pace) decide to ramp things up just before Thanksgiving.  I admit that I was uncomfortable about the proximity to the holidays.  Nothing much has come of it, but I did make sure I clarified w/him... save everybody a bunch of problems.  He's a very busy guy, and that last thing I wanted was to end up all emotional w/an absent or hit-and-run guy in the picture when I need to focus on my kid's Christmas.

Once had a bf who lobbied hard for me to sell my house, and when I did he disappeared/dumped me when moving time came.  THAT was brutal and ugly.  Then he reappeared after the dust settled.  

I felt like pinning this new guy down as to his basic intentions lowered the spontaneous combustion factor to the point of wet blanket.  So sad to miss that kind of fun factor.  However, do you really want to get screwed (up/over) over the holidays?  Absolutely not.

In the States at least, there is a steady stream of holidays from October to February.  If someone knows that the relationship isn't working, are they supposed to wait 4-5 months before ending it? 

I can't imagine that spending Christmas with someone who has "checked out" would be any better than being dumped.

I left my exhusband right before christmas. We had the big family tree-trimming party on the 18th and it was tense. I was planning to wait til January but we had a big disussion the next day and I left. Really weird that after all the fights, the actual break up was sort of anticlimactic. And we both got to spend christmas with our families with a huge weight off of us.

just got dumped - right after his 40th birthday in early November and before the holidays. good thing I didn't get him a gift that cost me much money.

(((orangie)))

I left my husband the during the first week of December. It was not about the presents.

Thanks Elsa. :) I wrote about him in the "prone to disappear" post a few weeks ago. The good news is that he's finally out of my head (well, soon to be) and life and I got resolution on this 18 years of off and on.

I was just dumped for the first time ever- this year, two weeks before Thanksgiving.  It turned out to be a good thing, because instead of flying 24 hours to see him and my parents and spending all my vacation and 400 bucks on a watch.. well, I'm flying to an exotic locale and instead of the long distance thing I'm getting laid regularly here and now by someone else.  Did I mention that I spend that money on shoes, too?  Oh yeah...  of course, it's two weeks before x-mas now, and we finally cut off communication, as I finally broke his desire to hang on to my friendship.  

Alright, andnoweden, at least you're doing what YOU want to do, and that's good! 

Welcome Andnoweden!

So sorry you got dumped, but it sounds like you are definitely making the best of it!

(And generally I'm a big fan of getting laid here and now vs maybe getting laid somewhere else later )

Haha, Shannon--well put!  :D

Welcome, andnoweden. :)

Here we go again.  On Facebook this morning, I saw that a girl who used to live across the street from me in my childhood was dumped by her boyfriend yesterday.  Always around the holidays.  She'd bought him a bunch of custom gifts for Christmas and now she's not sure what to do with them.  Shittiness=dumping people during the Holidays.  Pretty fucked up shit, yo.

Another Valentine's Day (well, actually, February 13th) dumpee here...it wasn't fun but I also saw it coming, too. After some time I managed to shake it off, believe it or not. Sorry your friends are going through it.

I am having the opposite trend. Everyone is getting married or engaged. Starter marriage time, I suppose!

It's pretty shitty to do that before a holiday, but there has been some studies that people break up more in the winter due to the holidays/spending money/being stuck inside, etc. Just seems trashy to me unless it was just the timing.