For some reason, I just remembered this...  A few months ago I was half talking to BestGem and half beetling around in my head.

"Hey, am I passive-aggressive?" I asked.  (Someone had accused me recently and I didn't see it, but -- Libra! -- I like to give benefit of a doubt.)

"Um, what??  Dude, you're, like, aggressive-aggressive!"

"Iknow, right?!?  That's what I thought!"

:P

It's so nice when someone knows you well, sees you, and can remind you of who you are.  :)

Do you have someone you can go to when you've lost yourself?  Are you this person for anyone in your life?

I have my spouse & brother to turn to for "moments of conflict within my mind".....other than that......"Still waters run DEEP - BEWARE".

......"Still waters run DEEP - BEWARE". "

I agree. I like it that I have those that know me, but the most important thing is that they know WHEN to know me and call me on it.

Welcome, Dark Scorpio. :)

I think "passive-aggressive" gets overused. People don't know what it means anymore. Usually the person using it is the passive-aggressive one.

and to answer the questions, yes and yes.

Even those that think they know me, don't really know me... Neptune in the 1st.

Cap friend: We all look like chess pieces to you, don't we?

Me: No! no, no, no, no, no, I'm a go player.

Cap: You know what I mean!

Me: Yeah.

Yes I do.

Gem: You know you so PC? But on the random side?

Yes thats me to a TEE!

I am this person for most of my friends. And most of my friends do this for me.

(also: I like to say I'm not passive-aggressive, I'm active-aggressive!)

No.. not really.

Even those that think they know me, don't really know me... Neptune in the 1st.

Snap CArRriE!  I have several 'lives' and I'm not quite the same person in any of them, and neither is any of those personas the same 'me', as I am when on my own. 

Added to which, I see very little of my old friends these days, so they barely know the 'me' of more recent years. And the newer people only see a bit of me (eg my racing friends, or my astro friends. local people etc)

So no, I have nobody like that (and I wouldn't welcome anyone other than a very old friend trying). In any event, I don't feel I ever 'lose myself'. I wouldn't presume to do it for other people either - I don't see enough of anyone these days for me to feel justified

BP, I definitely feel the same way. There is that layer that stays hidden from everyone(or so we think), but I wouldn't necessarily say that's the 'real' me. It is, but my friends and family to get the real me as well, just without some of the really weird quirks. For instance, there are songs that I will never ever listen to around anyone else, and will deny putting on my computer if anyone were to ever ask..thankfully no one has.

I used to be able to say yes. I'm not sure anymore.

I'm this person for most of my close friends. I dedicate far too much of my life trying to really UNDERSTAND people around me to a T.

I think my friends know my personality well, but I don't quite think they have a firm grip on the way I think or how I come about my decisions. My mind is all over the place, I don't blame them though, I can barely keep up with myself.

Yes. The SO. He knows me and many things that make me feel repulsive that I never tell anyone else. I always ask him when I'm too Neptuned up to see straight.

I do not think I am this for other people, usually.

For those who don't have a person like this to go to (someone who really knows you), does it bother you that you don't?  Just curious.  I haven't explored this issue yet.  ;)

Do I have someone? Many of you probably remember me chatting about my brother (Scorp with Gem Moon).... well , "at the moment" he's being the "referee" between me and the afore mentioned "arse". Both he and this "arse" are street-fighter types.... I prefer using the playbook , and am passive aggressive (unless I have absolutely no other choice).

Yes.... my bro knows me. And I blame my Pisces energy for the passive aggressive.

I have my best Scorpy friend of 40 some years, and I have my Scorpy sister, and my brutally honest daughters, one of whom is a Sag.  Usually the Sag not only finds me again, but opens the skeleton closet where everything falls out.  Then she leaves because she's not into cleaning,

I can be a compass, yes. 

Yes, I am very lucky to have that person in my life. But no, I don't think I'm currently serving that role for anyone else.

Ben.

I have a few people I can go to. It's quite nice. 

I do. My best friend is the best at it, but other friends are helpful as well.

I feel kinda rootless in a way because the person who knew me best has passed on. I could always count on him to be honest to me, about me. It was my Scorpio brother, I thought we were that for each other actually. But somehow I failed given that he never told me he was attempting suicide.

In some ways my Mom has kinda filled that spot for me since his death, but there are still things I won't discuss with her as I would have my brother. It's not the same.

I have an SO, but that is less than a year old, and that aspect of our relationship is still forming. It's there, but you know, it takes time to really become the deep trusting relationship that it can be.

Moon conj Pluto in Virgo. Another vote for still waters run deep. You can't get to know me unless I let you.

(((luckyduck)))  My condolences for your brother's passing.  :(

I have this relationship with my sister. We are soooo different from each other we just marvel at it. But we are also similar due our upbringing. So it is a good bond.

Sometimes I think my family are freaks but we're actually quite functional when you think about it. :) They help me sort through my self-generated BS :)

((luckyduck))

I also lost the one that saw more of me than anyone else ever had, my friend/love to an accidental suicide. I miss my male twin/fallen angel. More so as I haven't found his equal yet in my life since.

Now, almost four years later, I can say that I do have another in my life that I can go to, and talk to about anything and everything, and I know she won't have trouble understanding me, or offering support. We met in a rather unusual way, but I guess that's par for the course with my Sun/Moon opposite a 7th house Uranus.

Funnily enough, without me really planning it, my departed man, and my newer female friend both have/had Scorpio Moon's, and Uranus/Aquarius rising. The Lady Scorp is also really good for talking about anything with, and for support. But I do not get to see her, or talk to her very often, as she is really busy, and I tend to exhaust her with my intense energy.

But all three of these people have aspects of Sun/Pluto both ways, or one way in synastry, I think. And I've started noticing that it's the Pluto aspects to close-in planets that are the relationships that seem to last, evolve, and survive thru anything and everything--even a few trips to hell and back for yours truly.