A couple of things this week have led me to ask this question, but the bullying post made me more curious:

Is there a difference between your relationships with romantic intent verses relationships with others?

For instance: I have a hard time when people are angry/upset with me in romantic relationships and it leads me to giving in on issues I might not otherwise give in on.

However, when it comes to friends and family, I've cut a few of them out of my life and not looked back when I determined that it was a situation that just wasn't getting me anything more than drama and stupidity. 

I had a  friend once  that only used to call me when she wanted to bitch about her own life and never let me get a word in edgewise, for example. She'd say her piece and then miraculously have to go when it was my turn to talk. Go figure. *snicker* I only put up with THAT crap for so long.

On the other hand, I could  NEVER in a million years make such a harsh and quick cut with someone I was dating, I don't think. It would have to be an extreme case for it to happen, and it's something I'm working on fixing.

It just leads me to think that sometimes our chart energy manifests itself ONE way in certain situations and perhaps ANOTHER way entirely in others.

Thoughts?

I think you have to have a lot higher level of compatiibility with anyone you are romantically involved with than you do with friends. With friends, they aren't underfoot 24-7 and you don't have to be up close and personal with every aspect of them, good and bad, all the time. So with friends, you can be more tolerant of the things that annoy you. (Let's just say it's a good thing one of my friends isn't someone I see on a daily basis or I'd be far more annoyed with her.)

Okay, so in my case, it's reverse. I'm LESS tolerant of bullshit with friends and family, than I am with the people I date.

Luci, I've noticed this about myself too. I'm wondering if it has anything to do with the condition of one's venus and its house and also the 7th/11th house? 

For example, I have sun in libra in the 11th house sextile uranus. I really value friendships but i rarely become needy or insecure about them. On the other hand, I have venus in scorpio in the 12th house (trine jupiter nonetheless), and chiron in the 7th. So when it comes to love and relationships, I tend to be broody and intense and suspicious.

what's ur chart like in those areas?

Good for you for ditching the friend who wouldn't let you get word in edgewise. Friends are supposed to kinda give & take (one would hope anyhow). I wouldn't put up with crap from somebody was or am dating! I mean they want practically all of me & get to treat me like crap? Uh-uh!  For example, there's this guy I was seeing very recently. Ral sweet when not drinking (he's got Sag. sun), but when drunk, what a dick! He talks down to me and berates me. Only realized it once he was drunk or just had alcohol on breath. So, he's outta here. I'm nearly 39 (not sure if has a lot to do w/ it) & much less tolerant than used to be. Plus have a child here at home. If friend or i fight, we can usually work it out. If it's not meant to be, sometimes have had to just let go. Probably left you with more questions than answers! ;-)

I'm prob LESS compatible with men I date and more compatible with women/friends.

Hmm...

With women/friends I must have ease. I must. No drama. With men, I have a higher tolerance for discomfort.

Luci--Oh yees, that is the case for me for sure.  I am appropriately assertive when I need to be with my husband, but I find him the hardest person to unleash my wrath on.  I'm afraid of confrontation and conflict only with him.  Anyone else?  Forget it. 

There's always been an insecurity when it comes to that.  I don't know how to put it into words, or put my finger on the source of it.....but I'm realizing what a passive-aggressive person I've been this whole time.  Last night I experienced an outburst and it felt so good and raw (cursing, slamming doors, and the such).  Not the behavior I wanted to display at this time (and in 9 yrs, never have), but it was genuine and long overdue. Even he appreciated it after the fact, and I definitely felt the earth lift off my shoulders as well.

I think Elsa wrote about sun/saturn contacts in synastry.  His Saturn is in my Sun (Leo)...I feel trumped every time....even if he's done nothing to make me feel that way.

I pick men who embody qualities I don't like in myself.  I don't do that in friends.  consequently I've been harder on the men, with supposed cause.  BUT, I would appear at times to be easier on the men cos I don't necessarily confront.  I bitch to my friends.

I'm working on it.  :p