Okay, I just had this thought.  Alright, not really, it's been popping in and out for a while, but this time I've finally got a firm enough grip on it to do something with it.  *lol*

What is it lately?  There has been a rash of couples seperating all around me recently, and some that are still together that are having problems.  I lost my 8-year relationship, my mom got dumped in almost the exact same manner by her bf of 15 years, kash lost her man, shell's having problems, one co-worker just got dumped and another is getting divorced, my friend in Cali is thinking of dumping her man and on and on and on.  Is it the Saturn-Uranus opposition?  Saturn moving into Libra, preparing us for "real" love?  WTF?

I know that not everyone is having problems.  There are those who are having smooth sailing or getting closer, in fact my BFF just got engaged recently.  But, all in all, it's been abrupt disintegrations galore.  What do you guys think?

Well it cetainly sounds like the idea of Saturn moving into Libra could have some influence. After all, Libra is the sign of partnership and Saturn a planet that can have devasting consequences in whatever sign it is in, if you don't head it's lessons. Though I am just beginner here and don't know much about oppositions and aspects yet, I can tell you a bit about a guy I know who was born with Saturn in Virgo in his fourth house it has really done a trip on his family life growing up, and other areas that rule that house. So hopefully, Saturn moving out of there (I think by November?) his troubles will lighten a bit. Then it will be interesting to see if he finds a serious relationship once Saturn moves into his fifth house. Sorry to hear about your 8 year relationship loss Sadiablo. I hope you heal soon.

Relationship problems....for me. Business as usual!

In my case, it was something that needed to happen (well, that's how I'm feeling now...not how I felt at first...and maybe not how I'll feel tomorrow, lol).  I've seen a couple of relationships end that probably is for the best and other relationships that are really good and just starting for people who've been single and looking for a while.  It just seems like a big mixed bag of nuts right now....but definitely all revolving around "the partner".

shell, I didn't mean to imply that maybe it's not for the best.  Who knows, maybe it is?  But I included your situation in the original question because it certainly did come out of the blue and shake things up.  Yanno?

Except for the one engagement, there isn't really anyone in my circle who's pairing up right now.  What I'm seeing is abrupt disintegrations of long-standing relationships where one partner refuses to do anything to solve whatever problems there are and just bolts, which is why I thought of Saturn-Uranus.  Okay, to be fair (says Libra), that's just the majority.  There has been one slow, painful slide into oblivion.  *smiles*

Feh...  I don't know.  Maybe I was just asking because I needed some hope.  Thank cheeze I'm no longer sinking, but the rising has stopped.  I'm just stuck.  Stuck, stuck, stuck and tired of it and wondering why I can't move on and why I am so fucking miserable about this when everyone else is just happy-go-lucky.  I'm a motherfucking Aquarius moon, I should be able to sweep this under the rug and ignore the shit out of it until it truly doesn't mean anything.  Gah!

Oh my. Just in the beginning of a divorce. I was treated poorly and my gut & heart are in knots from all this hurt. I guess it is in the stars. Yall are in my thoughts.

SaDiablo--I totally undstand what you were trying to say. =)  It was vert abrupt, and it defenitely hurt(s) like hell.  I was just saying it was inevitable, and I'm glad it was now rather than later.

Yes! I´ve recentrly ended a relationship with a Pisces. I have venus in Pisces. And Uranus is sitting right over it.

Though I believe Saturn make us cut with unnecessary things. What is not useful, should be removed.

Well that's a relief to hear for me ironically. I thought it was all roses and I was odd-man out. My old friend married last fall and they recently bought a house and are now trying for a baby. That's where I want to be at but am far from it. Just starting some work next week - it's not secure but it's something so i can feel a sense of stability enough to get back in the dating game.I have capricorn in my 3rd house and saturn in cancer with taurus ruling my 8th. I have never found it easy to be casual in sex and when i once was i got burned with an std - saturn was transiting my 8th at the time. So getting knocked up in that "accidental" way or without the other person's consent is foreign to me. Too much integrity to allow natures way? Not sure what to do other than keep looking for someone who wants what i want and hoping for the best.

I have saturn in my 11th and uranus in my 5th right now. I was part of a group that allowed my creativity to flow but i thought that that path leads to being so obsorbed in creativity as to not have kids. Work work work. When one project ended there was someone else with a hopeful face smooth talking me to work on another one. And none of it paid. So I switched it up. The whole time i had a deadline in my mind that i would move home when the money ran out. Decided to be serious about my goal to have kids. But now feel lost. Everything is so serious. Figure having some work will help lighten the load enough to get on dating sites. Feel sad because i think that my ex thought that that club was my path when i knew that it wasn't even while enjoying it all. He seemed surprised (in email) when i up and moved.

Now i read about not forcing someone into a relationship and feel torn in corresponding with him. My 3rd house capricorn thinks i should still update him on where i'm coming from on everthing in my life in case it helps and because we were to remain friends. We have saturn trine moon and venus in our composite so talking about things really helped us while together. But saturn-uranus opposition trumps all. So I hold back from emailing him.  Hard for me to let him go until i'm in a better position - work wise and emotional wise to date. But tick tick says the clock so can't leave it too long.

Wow.  Mom just came by a couple of hrs ago.  Tears in her eyes.  Said she asked my dad for a divorce a few days ago, but didn't know how to tell me.  She's said it before, but I have a feeling this time is the real deal.  They've been married 28 yrs, and the last 15 have been hell.

I'm not surprised or sad necessarily, but I am concerned about my dad being alone.

Me, my brother, and my dad are all going through heavy Pluto conjunctions at the moment (we all have Capricorn).  So is my 7 year old daughter who has sun, moon, and Venus in Capricorn....she's extremely fond of my father and I have the feeling that if they do divorce, he'll move and we won't see much of him ever again.

Oh, shell!  (((shell)))  Talk about a Saturn Return.    I hope everything works out and your dad doesn't disappear.

Liz, re: contacting / not contacting your ex.  I know it's crappy advice, but I honestly think you have to do what you feel.  If contacting him is too hard, too much, too whatever, then don't do it.  If keeping in touch with him makes you feel better, though, don't deprive yourself of it.  If you decide not to keep in contact, though, I'd at least send him a note explaining why.  Good luck, either way.

(((aurangeluv)))  No words, just hugs.  I'm sorry.

saturn squared my gemini venus this year... it was fun!

it was very lonely times and i had a couple of very rude awakenings with guys. what did it teach me? guys are jerks. dont' trust any of them. put YOURSELF first. saturn is in my 10th/11th whole signs. venus is in the 7th/8th using whole signs.

i know saturn in libra will have amazing things to bring, and i'm really looking forward to it. every astrologer i've talked to said that something solid will happen for me with the arts

my mother ENTERED a relationship this year, and it has been really positive for her so far. she hadn't had one in 7 years. i hope things go well for her.

i'm new here and so far i like the vibe. it's great that this group seems to be so full of women and so full of support  

It's already effecting me. I just wish I had enough courage to leave. This marriage is making me become a monster.

I just cannot take it. Anymore.

Interesting article from CafeAstrology, via AstroDispatch, about what Saturn-Uranus might mean or how it could play out in relationships of all kinds:

http://www.astrodispatch.com/2009/09/17/saturn-opposition-uranus-and-relationships/

That explains it!!!  I have been seeing this EVERYWHERE.  I even wrote about it in Elsa's post about "Marriage is a big deal."  I also posted something about "cleaning house" relationship wise...

So Saturn/Uranus.  Maybe those of us who have been flying solo because we're "too serious" about relationship matters are about to be rewarded!? Ha, I hope so! 

Good thinking, SaDiablo.