My friend/partner/mate/unborn child's father (hey! we've got uranus conjunct our sag composite ascendant!!!)... So yea, he has got a Sun/Conjunct Uranus in Scorpio nicely square Mars in Leo with the temper to match.

I've never experienced anything like this. His anger...when he gets angry is like gasoline man. And its strange. I've never seen him go off on anyone. And he has never gone off on me. Although I'd hate to see the damage done both verbally and physically is he did.

Either way, he just gets so infuriated at times/things. I can feel the energy revving up (I've got Neptune conjunct Ascedant, I'm a human thermometer!) Its just like you can touch it. Cut it with a knife. And then BAM! He starts yelling "F*CK!" That's his explicative of choice. He'll bang a wall. But I swear you could tangibly feel the amount of energy generated.

All in all, it kind of scares me. Don't get me wrong. He is a kind guy. Sweet. And takes good care of me. But when he gets in his mood, I just don't know how to deal. He can be stubborn as a bull, just a hardcore hardass. But I know that he is sensitive and easily offended too. What a paradox!

How do I deal with this? I hate feeling so uptight and I really want to be able to take his moods lightly, because they never have been directed at me.

Since he has controlled himself time and time again and you know he would never go off on you, remembering these things would probably make you feel better. You just have to remember his character. Just let him let it out. :)

I grew up with a father like that.  Rageaholic is how I called him.  He never hit us, but I woke up almost daily to him raging at something.  I grew up tiptoing around him, we were always afraid that we'd set him off.

Everyone in the outside world thought my father was wonderful.  His grad students, to this day, speak of how  he was a second father to them.  He was intelligent, worked for good causes.  That only made it worse,  his rages were the family secret, like a family hiding, dealing with an alcoholic.  

I am broken from that experience.  I will probably never have a good relationship with a man in my life (yes, I have good male friendships, but even those have been fraught with issues) because of him.  If you stay, you have a huge responsibility to your unborn child to somehow shelter that child from those rages.  Can  you do that?  Can  you make that child feel safe and secure within the bounds of your relationship?  Can you promise that child that their father will never direct his anger at them? 

Why do you feel you need to deal with this? Is he yelling and stomping around the house? I mean if he isn't doing anything... There is nothing to fear if it's personal to him. People always try to make others fit, but unless you are scared, what's the problem, exactly?

I have mars-uranus and I have to have an outlet or I would be like him. I'm talking serious running, exercise, taking risks, getting it out but it's always there. I have a hair trigger temper, but guess what? It's saved my life too. I talk fast, but if I'm in a mood I'll tell people to back off for their own good until I'm through processing, and it's fine.

Temper tantrums. *sigh* I've seen my fair share. (Um, thrown my fair share). But typically how I deal with it is to roll my eyes, snort and say "Are ya done yet?"

Yeah, doesn't usually help.

I agree with what starrkttn says. I have sun/mars/uranus. I have to have an outlet or things get screwy.

Oh and Mars in Leo is what he has! My youngest has that placement. When he throws a tantrum (albeit rare) I applaud.

sounds like this is his outlet for his temper and it toseems harmless enough but if you feel scared  you might try to talk this out with him  and if you need help with it you could both visit a therapist. It can get scary when someone loses it a lot or at least it is scary to me and I get too jumpy around it.  If you are very uncomfortable you might get some ideas for  him about how he can release his anger in a less scary way. You might have less walls to fix too!

But, if it's harmless and you can laugh at  it then you are way ahead of the whole thing.

thank you so much for all of your insight and advice.

he NEEDS i mean he MUST HAVE a physical outlet for his energy. he loves to run and bike ride, play ball etc. but the winter is hard for him because its hard to get out. we've been talking about moving to a warmer climate and i think it will help both of us a lot. he'll be able to get out and be more active.

@Josi

you are hilarious. its funny the way he responds to compliments and attention. heis very intense and overwhelms most people that they don't spend much time with him.

whenever i compliment him it shocks him out of him whole self. i should do it more often.

My dad did meditation to control his temper. It really helped. He had mars/jupiter in cap square saturn in aries and NN in sag. Even with the control we knew he had a bad temper and were afraid of it. I shudder to think how he would have been without my mom - who he loves and has a tough venus in scorp - and without meditation.

They both took it up (on dad's suggestion) when they were both unemployed with 3 small kids.. took their last paycheck to pay for a retreat/lessons. They meditated twice a day for 7 years. Saved their marriage. We were told not to tell people because it was "weird". Now I meditate to control my own temper/anxiety.

I agree he needs a way to control it consciously like fishing, jogging around the block etc.. NOT punching a wall.. and it has to come from him.. not in anyway in reaction/relation to you or the kids.

A sunny climate is good for leo. But there's also winter sports. I just went dog sledding last sunday.

I would not bring a child up in that situation. Period.