their very opposite needs/wants. it can be a very volatile tug-of-war

sometimes i am better at it than others, but sometimes i feel like a real jeckyll/hyde

there is my soft and floaty, in-the-background, patiently atruistic, flexible, serving and sacrificing, enlightened and universally basically selfless and loving sun. 12 H pisces sun/asc/jup

and THEN.

AND THEN.

in walks (barges) my sword-wielding, aggressive, impatient and impulsive, hard-edged, immature, hot-and-bothered, narcissistic and basically selfish moon. 1H aries moon/venus/chiron.

what the crap? sometimes i really struggle to make peace between these two.

who else has experience here? now, i KNOW, from all the aries i love in my life, that these are the shadow qualities of the sign. what am i missing? i need to find the higher expression, but i just can't get a handle on the energy. it usually takes me by surprise and consumes me before i can count to 10 (or even 3 for that matter!). and then i REACT instead of responding, as i would like to do.

my poor kid- on my last bad moon day, he said  "you aren't my mommy. where'd you put my mommy?"

I know of what you speak with my Aries Venus and Pisces Sun. I have a single mindedness wshen it comes to art that allows for nothing to bother me or get in my way when I am working in my art.  I can float in many areas but in the area of art and love I do not float but have a more  childlike veiw of these areas  that can seem very uncomfortable and very non Pisces!

I try to find a balance between both energies as best I can. I stop and take the time to think things through more than I did before to  get a better balance between others and my artistic world.  I no longer sacrafice everything for my art and now have a better balance.  Finding a comfortable way to live with both energies is ideal but not the easiest thing, at least for me.

thanks for responding, Annalisa. it really is hard, isn't it?

i think venus aries is not bad at all when it is alone.

for you, it probably makes you very passionate and stubborn about what you value. it can help you fight for and defend what you hold close.

but it can be surprisingly tenacious and aggressive at times.

i definitely feel and act very non-pisces sometimes, but i struggle to express the fire in a positive way.

my combo of moon/venus/chiron in fire sign and house acts more like the big sister.

it steps in and stands up for my softy sun. which isn't all that bad, i guess.

but it isn't very diplomatic.

i'd look to libra to help out, but the only thing there is pluto, and i'm pretty sure that would just fuel the fire.

Hi emi

I definitely struggle between different elements in my chart. I'm not sure of the rest of your chart but 5 planets spread across two houses sounds like you may have a locomotive pattern in your chart. Have you studied the pattern at all?

I have a lot of Earth and Fire (hence my handle) but a Grand Trine within the Water Houses, with Moon/Chiron and Sun/Neptune. I am excessively sensitive and very easily hurt. My Cap Moon hides it but that's getting harder to do these days. I don't know what the answer is. Retreating is my fall back but that doesn't seem to do me much good these days. It doesn't address the pain, for one.

@kash yes that is it .. sometimes seems like incompatible energies. make one happy and the other one unhappy. Wish I could find a common denominator.

But it's hard with such different and strongly represented elements... like in your case fire earth and in mine fire water.

never heard of the locomotive pattern thanks for mentioning it off to check it out