Just curious!

What have you learned about what works and what doesn't for you? Have you changed your relationship style drastically? Who you are looking for? Did you stop worrying about a relationship at all?

Ever since I've noticed that Neptune was exactly on my DC (lol, I'm always late to transits) I'm dead set on not being delusional about relationships and men I like.How am I doing...I'll probably be able to tell you once Neptune is  too deep in Pisces to conjunct my DC.

Also, Saturn's recent pass over my Sun has made me set strong boundaries for myself as well as others who would like to approach me and mess with my head.I have less patience for anybody's nonsense.I'm currently looking for a Saturn figure.Not to parent me, but to match my need for seriousness. I just don't want to play games and have excess drama. I want a responsible person.Someone who won't shake up all these feelings inside me and then take off.

I've learned that I can actually have a sane one.

I think we're both a bit surprised...

Speaking for myself, the sort of person I am never really worked with men/relationships. If I am listening to him and hearing what he's saying, I think that's a ditto.

I am very much enjoying it. It's relieving and relaxing. A pleasure. And an eye-opener.

I'm actually in the middle of thinking about a relationship and how to make it better. Scorp moon and the disappearing act. sigh. They make you spill your guts and then...

..*poof*...

...gone.  

That humans are silly creatures.... I'm pretty sure I already knew that though. 

I have learned and finally embraced that being attachment-free is the way to be! 

I have finally let go of my attachment to the Cappy/Libra, after spending 3.5 weeks with her over winter break.  Some very interesting and not-always-pleasant situations and encounters, overall very worth it.

I have also learned to be honest about my feelings is definitely the way to go.  Even if I am not feeling the same way about someone, and I know they are attached.  This happened a few days ago, and has been a recurring pattern in my life, so instead of running away without a word, I was honest and told her the truth.  And it went far better than I imagined it would.

We are still friends and on good terms, and I feel FREE! 

What a great feeling.  Relationships have taught me so much in this life, and for that I am very grateful.  I've had many wonderful encounters and interactions with many beautiful people.  I look back on all of those encounters with gratitude for what they have taught me. 

I have learned that self-love and self-acceptance are absolutely paramount if you want a truly loving relationship.  I will only allow myself to be in romantic relationships with those who are truly whole themselves, and are not seeking something outside themselves to fill them up.  Relationships based on egoic attachment are no longer for me.

Very happy to be where I'm at and very happy to be me!  Hope you are all feeling well today, wherever you may be!

:-)

You can't control who wants to be with you.

ETA: Or DOESN'T want to be with you.

i've learned (and am still learning) that relationships are between TWO people .. not just one couple.  that a partnership is between a pair of individuals.  that i need space, and he needs space.. and this has taught me to be less obsessive (somewhat..  ermm.. ok, i'm trying really reallt hard). 

i've also learned that what i think and feel about a situation isn't necessarily (and often times not at all) true.  i've learned that i need to always make an effort to step back from the situation and see it from a different perspective than my own, and that will show me a better truth. 

now, i would LIKE to learn how to love without posessiveness and jealousy..  but i don't think saturn will be in libra long enough for that to happen.  but then again, since my saturn is so closely tied to venus anyway, perhaps that IS what i will learn when he passes into Scorp, my devil sun sign that emulates those two characteristics so well. 

That you can't control the outcome of things, and you wouldn't want it if you did! 

If a man wants you, he will wait for you and move heaven and earth to be with you.

A man that is interested will want to call you often.  Mature people don't play cat and mouse games, they don't lie.  They are genuinely concerned about you, and how your day went. 

@Caroline .. i learned that one a long time ago.....  straight boys.  not a good crush. 

Yes, I would imagine not, rantares!

I've learned that I need to be more planted in reality.

Not to be in a relationship based off of what I imagine the person to be. Go slow. Really figure them out?

Actually the thing that's great recently is that I haven't been forced to learn anything. I feel like I've been learning lessons for the past 2 years and finally I've been granted some grace. Ah Neptune in Pisces!

To just enjoy the moment and take it all in for what it's worth...If I'm enjoying my time with the person, to just be in the moment and to not think 5 hours, 5 days, 5 months, etc ahead of it...That and to never give away my power...If someone wants to be with me, then this needs to be loved and accepted. Not changed...

When people show you who they are, believe them.

I've learned that if he wants to do the honourable thing, he would. If he wanted to do it (back then), he would've.

Me being honourable and 'waiting,' or giving him the chance to do it 'better' or making excuses for why he might have not done it the first time around, is wrong.

Partnering up is not worth doing unless both parties are being fair. Saturn in Libra.

I've been shocked to learn who, when the chips are down, fall off the face of the earth versus who sticks around, sometimes for decades. I'm very appreciative of the ones who've stuck around.

Recently, I've learned that I need to focus more on, and not be so mercurial afraid of my Plutonian needs in a partner. I've been ignoring what I need in a relationship for far too long, and that's precisely, or at-least I think it might be, why I have not found another partner yet. I need to remember my own relationship motto, and direct it back towards myself as a gentle reminder; 'either go deep or go home.'

I've also learned that being fully open, with no more locks on my heart makes my feel much more optimistic about finding someone. And I feel like it's actually quite 'easy' now, rather than a tiresome Mt/ Everest type feat to find a man that's strong enough to be with me. With openness seems to come....greater availability, and options that I would have missed if I'd still been blind to them.

Also that I'm even more quirky, and Uranian in relationships than I had previously thought. And that's okay. I'm owning my 7th house Uranus a little more these days.

And that I still do not have it in me to settle for anyone less than I (and he) deserve(s).

I could probably come back and write what I've learned in SR in Libra school every other week, but these are my newest Gemini lessons of late. : )

What have you learned about what works and what doesn't for you? Do not "reveal" everything in my past on any given topic , it  WILL  be used against me ((lesson taught courtesy of my Ex , during her NCIS Legal Complaint against me)).

Have you changed your relationship style drastically? No.... but Karma did ((via online dating , boy those women are "picky" to the extreme)).

Who you are looking for? Did you stop worrying about a relationship at all?  Karma made the "decision" for me , so I no longer need to worry about searching for a mate. But.... I have found a great many Ladys on this blog-boards who are wonderful Friends!!

*** And for now , these friendships are just what the doctor ordered!!