So guys what makes you think a woman is flirting with you??! Or what would make other guys around you think this way? Because I'm being just friendly around a guy who I feel him as a friend & today another guy just said we know you are flirting with him secretly !!! So I need to know what NOT to do & do all guys intrepret it the same?

Girls share your experince please !!

ThanQ...

If you are female, breathing, and talking to a man. Seriously. I am the least flirtatious person on the planet and I get this kind of thing happening to me all the time. A lot of guys will take ANY level of "attention" as flirting, even if you weren't trying to and were treating them like you would any girl.

There's really nothing you can do to stop it. Some guys believe what they want to believe, and scientifically it's been proven that guys want to take any attention as sexual interest because it ups their odds of scoring. Unless you are flat out rude to the guy and ignore him, or just utterly avoid him,but that just gets interpreted as you being a bitch.

He WANTS you to be interested, and so you are, is what it boils down to.

I wish I had an answer for you, m'dear. 

There was discussion of this ilk on another thread and I honestly have no idea what to do when a man interprets a woman as interested when she's absolutely not or keeps forcing the issue when she's turned him down.

Really, at this point my POV is that the issue is with the guy.  It's testosterone over proper social boundaries sometimes that's what can happen when you dangle, unfortunately. 

How do I handle it?  Politely but firmly letting him know I'm not interested, then promptly disengaging.  Beyond that, there's not much you can do because you can't control how someone else is going to interpret *anything* you say or do, but if you say it directly and like you mean it then if he doesn't get it he's just an idiot or an asshole at that point in time.  In either case, if you keep pressing your luck you're not going to like it when my claws come out....

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Now this is really odd ! I don't know what to do , usually no one approachs & I always thought I send off vibes or am closed somehow .. Now this is telling me that guys think am "flirting" with this guy :| which to them probably its not so "closed" vibe !!! That others are talking about ! While in fact there is nothing of that ! Talking about confusion ! Neptune square sun & venus .. I need help

@alethea : well thank you for your share ! Actually today that was said to me in present of the meant guy & I was shocked to the degree that I kept quit & just ignored the guy speaking !!! I'm afraid he they would inreprt it as consent o_0 !!
I guess I just have to ignore them all together .. Dunno what to do !

The other guy who said that to you is probably 'cock-blocking' - it's very common in groups of men, see Elsa's blog post:  http://www.elsaelsa.com/astrology/2007/10/11/astrology-and-%E2%80%9Ccock-blocking%E2%80%9D-%E2%80%93-it%E2%80%99s-mars-raw-male-energy-what-can-i-say/

In any case, so what if you were flirting? - it's what [single] men and women do around one another! It adds greatly to the gaiety of nations and does little harm among grown-ups. I'm all for flirting - if someone accuses me of it, I smile sweetly and carry right on    Life would be dull indeed if nobody ever flirted

Edit To Add:  I haz the Venus-Pluto prominently displayed in my chart.  The more I give my Venus air time (say by being friendly with strangers, particularly those of the opposite sex) the more I attract this kind of thing.  I have come to rely on my Pluto "veneer" as a sort of natural "bug repellant" in cases like this.  For example, if a guy's getting a little too friendly with me I turn on the "vibe" - the "f*ck off and leave me alone" vibe.  I imagine the man finds it confusing, but if your behavior is juuuuust on the borderline and is not something I can call you out for directly then it's just easier this way.  Really, what do I care? 

You see I have a ring on, don't you?  How else am I supposed to respond when a stranger asks me about the weather (or whatever)?  Ignore completely and be antisocial?  This is the trap you get baited with, though.  Say nothing and you're made out to be a bitch, engage and then he thinks you're giving him the green light.  It's a no-win.  I'll engage to a point, but if it becomes clear the intention is no good then I don't think twice about cutting off, and directly at that.

Witty banter and going at it back and forth with words is a sure sign of flirting.

Smiling a lot and being 'interested' in what you have to say is also a sure sign of flirting.

That, and yea, basically not shrugging you off (what @jenfullmoon said), lol. Grr!

As a teenager, I used to think guys were flirting with me as soon as they spoke to me, I'm a guy, so they were just wanting to be friends! I wanted to believe they were flirting though! And my reasoning for thinking they were interested in something else was that "is it not obvious I'm not interested in girls? why are they speaking to me if they realise/think this about me!"

Now I'm friends with loads of guys, we even flirt for a joke, and I don't take it the wrong way.

I have a female friend who thinks guys fancy her as soon as they speak to her!

Or want sex as soon as they ask to meet up or hang out with her!

I think we all do it/have done it!

I have no clue now when someone is flirting, people flirt for a joke, way too much nowadays!

Clear flirting has to be consistent, not containing too much laughter!

Eye engagement.

@Julian - ahahaha no wonder so many guys think I'm flirting. I tend to make a lot of eye contact with people.

With my Venus conjunct Neptune..... it's simply too easy to take "any" display of concern as a flirting session. Well.... right after I get over the "suspicion" of my Scorp stellium.

Agree with Julian.... eye engagement is a biggie , but combine it with what Debdeb said.

You would all think... that I was flirting with all of you

I tend to devote my universe to whoever I'm in one-on-one conversation with at the time!

Yeah... I do the eye contact and smiling a lot. I naturally get excited in conversations.

haha. I've had so many guy friends think I was into them. Made it so awkward.

Whenever I've "tried" or wanted to flirt I always fail LOL

@risingaries - if you devote your world to the person with whom you're speaking, i'd be surprised if they DIDN'T fall for you - everybody likes feeling special, regardless of whether or not the undercurrent compatibility exists. :)

@egiyablu, me too! I can never consciously or proactively "flirt." Sadly, I'm so used to the guys making the effort, that I never quite learned to be the femme fatale and get what *I* want! :P

I have a 'mystic rectangle' - BML in Scorp, Mars in Cancer, Moon in Taurus, round to Venus in Cap1 So I guess I can't help flirting ;)  I just send out 'that' vibe 

I tend to date men who practically have to be hit over the head to realize I'm flirting with intent. It's amusing. And it makes sense in light of the next paragraph.

I've got the Venus-Pluto square plus a touch of PTSD that left me highly suspicious of people. I adopt a "bored and bitchy" façade in public. :) Doesn't always work but it's a million times better than "friendly and cheerful."

I am gonna agree with Julian here. Mostly if you give good eye contact and smile, and a guy already thinks you have potential, the assumption is there.

What I interpret as being polite, really. Sorry :(

Laughing far more than you need to, constant touching, rubbing bodies, the 'fuck me' eyes--y'know, the obvious.

If you're talking to a guy, he's liable to think you're flirting with him. The older the guy, the more you're at risk of this.

I have a very strong Jupiter - so I'm very engaging, dynamic, friendly and fun.  And when I'm flirting I know it but I have gotten into so much trouble just by being friendly with men.  I like people and want to talk to them but I learned over time to shut all of that down completely.  I adopted the "piss off" look and some excellent ignoring strategies which have served me well.

Haha Mahchi - yes I've got those too. BML in Scorp can do the 'come-hither' or the 'drop dead' in the the blink of an eyelid!

Maybe it's my Jupiter/Juno exact in Libra which makes me such a Grade A flirt? I've never tried trying to hold it back - if it has an effect I don't like (ie on the wrong man/men) I've always been able to deal with it easily enough

An now, obviously if anyone want to flirt with me at my age, I'm delighted

@Inthedark - Hilarious!!

another guy just said we know you are flirting with him secretly !!!

The guy who said this is probably just jealous. Seriously. Shake this crap off and have fun, go about your life! You're a Leo--let your light shine and screw the people who try to derail you, to stop you from being you.

hahahhaha...as long as I breathe...some guys think that's what a woman is for...and they see me...so obviously, since I exist, I must exist to flirt with them!

I've got Venus-Pluto and Neptune touching my ascendant...people will think whatever they want until the day I die. If they've decided they like/want you, anything you do is considered flirting.

Like Alethea said, just have to watch the interaction carefully, but be on the lookout for bitch comments even if you make it clear you are taken and not flirting...egos and delusion, you know...add a little bit of porn addiction and sexual tension from their side...and who knows. I keep to myself, and even when I turn them down flat, I have people taking it as a come on...uh...yes...I spend my time playing shy maiden just for you...some are insane.

And agree with Julian - eye contact...unfortunately, I have eyes. LOL

eye contact...unfortunately, I have eyes.

hahahahahaha

I have Virgo Mars. Do women really flirt? What's it like? What are the symptoms? Is it contagious?

I have Mars sq Venus in Sag. So, when they're shooting at me or throwing things at me, they really mean they're interested?

I have Neptune/Moon. If any such thing occurs, I'm probably just seeing things. Can't be sure, though.

I have Saturn sq Moon. Such things do NOT occur.

I have Saturn on the angles. I must have ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY before believing it's really happening. 

I have Saturn in Pisces. I don't believe.

I have Saturn in Pisces. I'd have to be drunk to believe.

I have Saturn in Pisces. I'm never really drunk, not enough to believe something as incredible as that, anyway.

I have Saturn in Pisces. Lost those illusions ages ago.

I have Saturn in the 4th. I'm stuck here and nobody will come and flirt with me. 

I'm a Capricorn. They're probably just being polite.

I'm 47. Those days are over, if they ever began.

I'm twice divorced. Second hand goods are not worth a smile, especially one that actually means something.

I'm poor. Where's the candid camera?

I'm a nobody. She's probably just trying to make her boyfriend jealous.

I have Scorpio. There must be some dark conspiracy behind such aberrant behavior.

I have Gemini. She's just talking. 

I have Sag. Please God, give me a sign, so I can tell what she actually means.

I guess I'm the only one who thinks this guy was just a cockblocker.

A man gives a woman he isn't even dating a hard time repeatedly for "flirting" with another man. Right.

ha! a little innocent flirting never hurts, what's wrong with that?  it's a part of your charm and who you are as a woman. in my own experience, North American men are highly intimated by any degree of flirting... I think they need to chill out and like the fact that you are sunny and you enjoy their presence :)

Nah it makes sense Kashmiri. Not just you.

jannevellamo, that really made me laugh!

catatonia ca, I could not agree more. Lighten up folks - flirting is fun, and fun makes the world go around :)

i think it depends on the guy and girl, respectively. usually, the prettier the woman, the more a guy thinks she is flirty is she just so much as acknoledges him in some way or form, and usually guys with low self confidence will mistake a woman being polite for flirting.

Id classify it as flirting if the desire for sex with that person is there. Then, if the vibe is reciprocal, its flirting because both are actively indulging it.

My experiences are limited, but I'm pretty I'm putting a stop to many of the, ah, less than interesting ones? hehe.

Ahem, I have Venus double whammied by a 12th house placement, it's my chart ruler, she's in Aries, and she trines Neptune, and opposes Pluto.

Men see everything but me, and take everything but absolute frigid, ice cube making temps and silence as a sign I'm interested.

Venus/Neptune=oh my god, the perfect woman! she's beautiful, and just right for me! I'll act a fool, and be loud, and crass, and act like an animal and that will earn me some points. (venus in aries, neptune in sag seems to attract some fiery immature one's)

Venus in Aries=a mouth like Aries Betty Davis, and a vocabulary that would do Gen. Patton justice.

Venus/Pluto=you didn't get the first hint, or the second one, so now I think it's time we played this game to the end, and painfully for you. It's not like I didn't warn you this was going to hurt about three sentences ago....

Venus/Saturn=I only flirt, and look at a man like I'm starving when I already know he's what I'm looking for. I flirt for keeps, not just because he's got more testosterone than me.

I don't let my Merc/Pluto trine out though unless we're no longer in public. Ahem, it's just not proper. ; )

Perception is a terrible sense to waste, and a very attractive trait to possess.

thumbs up, Blessed Place! :)