This started out as something completely different, but I think it'll be more constructive this way.  So, let me ask, what have you learned from the time(s) that an important relationship of yours ended?  Can you see the astrology behind it?

For me:

The majority of you are aware that I had a very hard break-up back in November (or April, depending) from I man I loved the way E loves the The Soldier.  Still processing, still feeling like I'm not dealing well enough (although, this time, I only felt a momentary urge to put parentheses around the d on loved).  So, what I've learned so far is:

• I should've left a long time before the split occured.  When he didn't put forth the effort to make things better after I brought up the problems I felt we were having in our sex life, it should have been a red flag and I should have left, no matter how much I thought we loved one another and trusted that things would, eventually, get better.  I'll be looking out for this in the future and will not put up with it.
• Never again will I stick around, no matter how much in love or how happy I think I am, when I start feeling jealousy.  Because in this instance, I believe that my jealousy was a subconscious cue that things weren't as they seemed.  Next time, I'm going to heed it.

That's about all I have for right now.  How about the rest of you?

hey sadiablo-

I think your stance on jealousy is interesting. Also, I think it's related very closely to the first point. Was he trying to provoke it or were you feeling like you had to compete? 

I think for me, right now, it's recognizing what my deal-breakers are, or to what extent I would let a deal-breaker go. For example, a few significant men in my life are extremely habitual marijuana users, to the extent it might make me uncomfortable. Despite their other good qualities, I'm having to judge whether I want them in my life or not. I think this is mostly because there tends to be a certain immaturity/lack of awareness that surrounds the guys I know.

anyway, best wishes

SaD our experiences are so similar it's cray-cray. 

I attracted lame ducks that I dated too long because I thought it might be my last chance. OVER THAT SHIT!

There are worse things than being alone and I can name names. 

Hrae, he wasn't trying to provoke it.  It was my own insecurities, feeling like I wasn't enough.  There's a whole backstory there that I can't get into right now; I'm at work. *smiles*  Suffice to say, I have Sun-Saturn natally and was going through my Saturn Return for most of this period.

"There are worse things than being alone and I can name names."  *snickers*  You go, Tam!!  RAR!