....when things are at their most bleak? Does your chart support your getting support from friends? Family? Lovers? Partners?

I have a strong 11th house but my closest friend these days is having a hard time herself!

MP--I have a loaded 11th house too.  I were feeling super low I would go to my man first and then my sister and closest friend. They are all deeply intimate people in my life, both know deep/dark things about me, so I feel comfortable and safe sharing any pain with them.

Well my husband is my best friend, but if he and I are going through something rough (problems with my daughter, financial problems), I really only have one sister that I tell (almost) everything to.  It has always been my tendency to just withdraw from the world when things are bleak - (scorp rising, neptune conjunct ascendant, and moon in scorp in 1st house).

You mean bleak as in bleak?

I turn to no one.

What Elsa said.

LOL neptune in the 11th.

A few close friends. My mom.

When things are really bad I withdraw just a little further into myself and stay there....eventually, if I can't get my head around it, I might share with my husband.........but I'm a person who has to come to their resolution on their own; I'm not comfortable sharing something that cuts too deeply.

When I wrote "bleak" I was thinking "still able to make a move" -- whatever that may be. 

I guess, for me, no matter how bad it gets (for example, a death) I mostly move towards seeking someone out.  Scared of the other alternative. Too much alone-time during times of bleak, is BAD for me. 

No one. Venus/Saturn and Aries South Node and Sun/Chiron all mean that if I reach out to someone, I will be kicked upside the head. I HAVE TO take care of myself and not trust that someone will be there for me when I need them. I take advantage of it when someone offers, sure, but I can't EXPECT for human beings to take care of me. There is only so much I can reasonably expect from people, and if things are very bad, the less anyone will give.

Island unto myself, mostly.

Nobody.

I have Sun and Moon in the 11th house. My Sun has good support, but my Moon has her ponytail eternally pulled by Saturn. As a Cancer, that last one has largely governed my behavior in my lifetime up till recently.

When things are bad, I mostly keep it to myself. When things are awful, I turn to a few friends because I can't take the pressure of keeping that bad energy to myself.

When things are so horrific and miserable that it would pain and shame me to tell anyone, I keep it to myself for about 10-20 years, have a breakdown, and then turn to professionals to piece me back together. :)

I hope it's not that bad for you, and I've learned that there is no problem so terrible that you can't find someone to help you or to understand. You'd be surprised. 

I never confide in family members, regardless of the color level on the terror-alert chart. :)

It's taken a long time to realize that I even can ask others for help and it's still not my first instinct.  The exception was my seperation, where immediately after it happened I called my best Gem and said, "Need you, come now."
She and I are like that, though.  At least I hope she knows she can always come to me.  Hmmm...

SaDiablo: That's nice to have someone like that. I've learned over the years to be self-sufficient because when the shit hits the fan, if it ain't their own shit, no one wants to deal with other people's shit and that's the truth.

Not everyone can handle their OWN shit. Some people don't want to slog through someone else's, even when they're on the floor depressed and in dire need. Who wants to be pulled down (in general sense of mood), too? 

So you learn to pick yourself up and carry on.  That's what my divorce (with the number of people that simply couldn't be supportive and "didn't want to get involved" when they weren't being asked to) taught me. 

The rug gets yanked out from under you in the hardest times, you'd better hold a tissue to your own damned bloody nose and carry on. 

I am surprised at all the islands here! Whether it's friends, therapy, boyfriend -- i'm pretty good at reaching out. At least I think I am... I'd like to get better in asking God/higher power/spiritual sustenance for help. I'm a Pisces North Node and I need that but I think it's often the last thing I think of -- and yet it's a powerful resource and helps one get quiet during turmoil. I'm not in crisis right now -- just have a lot of worries about stuff I need to change and not sure the road.

I have learned that people often want to help/listen but often can't understand. It's a test to accept their human-ness.

3 planets in my 11th house (sun, merc, mars) ... people depend on me but when things are bad, well, usually the only person I depend on is whoever I am romantically involved with (My relationships tend to be long term and my SO is my best friend)  For some reason or another I've never been one to reach out to friends...

He is a fine looking man, and dresses it well indeed.

Plus his movies tend to be fun.  I haven't seen Ali yet. 

My mom, my guy, myself, my dog.

I have jupiter in the 12th aspecting neptune in scorpio.  when I fall off a tall building there's usually a dumpster full of dirty diapers to cushion the landing.

my mother usually comes through for me after putting me through the wringer first.

Elsa's been there for me more than any other person.

I hate asking for help because by the time I really need it I feel like i don't deserve it. 

If it's something very serious, I keep it to myself. If it's something silly or simply concerning some relationship drama, I can take or leave talking to someone about it. i guess it depends on how bored I am and if I feel like the attention. I get support from groups-- forums, meditation groups, writing for english classes. That aqua moon and mercury/jupiter in gemini probably play into it.

I'll try my closest friend. But if it really comes down to it I just write, read astrology and poetry listen to music cry and do my best.