My Dad (a Leo) abandoned my teenage Mom before I was born and I was raised by my grandparents who legally adopted me. Mom married when I was eight and my stepdad (an Aries) wasn't much of a father figure at all. Five years ago I found my birth Dad on the web and paid him a surprise visit. I thought that asserting myself would put an end to most of the issues I had with him/men.

Not quite.

I read that the 10th house (which in my natal chart is stacked including the sun) represents the father (but I have 3!) and that transiting Saturn which is there right now means I need to resolve my father issues before I can achieve the success I want in this house. The current saturn uranus opposition is currently cutting through this area as well with uranus in the fifth. 

Anyone else with father issues and did astrology help you get beyond them?

I have lots of dads and daddy issues.  I hear you saying "resolve" and "get beyond" and not sure that happens entirely.  I think I work on my issues and they become less troublesome.  astrology helps me learn who I am, what things are mine and what are others' responsibility (it's not my business what someone else does and not my fault if someone can't love).

but on a certain level, yes, during the time that I have studied astrology my daddy issues have gotten MUCH better.  but more through work on my own chart and astrology in general (accepting stuff) than anything else.  I am not really all that interested in their charts.   

my father, a Sagittarius with a birthday two days before mine, was earnest and devious. He was a good father to me but not to my brother or sister. I have endured much anger and angst from other family members for loving my father.

I'm 57 and I don't ever think it will be completely resolved. your father is just a man. There is good in him and bad.  Think of him as a biological specimen if you dislike or disapprove of him so you can be objective enough to see what you inherited from him.

Ask to see his feet; examine his ears and his fingers. Check out his teeth. Ask him if he was good in math or could draw.

Dad shaped me into the twisted pretzel that I was. Helps that he's dead. I decided I wanted my persona and my Saturn back -- it's *my* damn Saturn, you don't get to drive it anymore -- so I took it back. I father myself. 

I've spent a good many years cringing and whinging at the shadows of the past, and I don't feel like doing it here, but you can get a grip on it. It's hard work though and you revisit some ugly places. You don't get over it, but you can put it in its proper place and perspective. 

Therapy, pharmaceuticals, self-teaching and astrology all helped. 

"and that transiting Saturn which is there right now means I need to resolve my father issues before I can achieve the success I want in this house"

I do not think you "have to resolve". I do not think your personal succes has anything to do with your father issues, so why would these issues be any obstacle for your self realization?

I have a sun saturn conjuntion and my father left as he had a middle life crises.

I have learned to live without a father and it was very hard, but I have a self confidence I never woul have thought I could achive.

It took me 10 years to stop cryng about my father, and in the midtime I learned to take care of myself.

The pain is really getting over, the strenght I have remains.

Needless to say I hated men. But that is also changing, and I see lots of good men around me (family good man, wich for a long time I was complitely blind to see).

I do not think your personal succes has anything to do with your father issues, so why would these issues be any obstacle for your self realization?

It's the 'not good enough' ailment and it runs deep. I KNOW it's there. I don't believe it in my conscious mind at all, but I believe the unconscious stuff keeps us tethered. On some level it is a fear of success as much as failure I think because with success comes more scrutiny and if there is something I really don't want, it is scrutiny.

Maybe my post came across as sounding like a victim but that's not where I am at at all (neptune on ascendent ha ha). It's just there is so-o much going on in that 10th house I wanted to see if anyone else had similar stuff with a packed 10th - that DIDN'T pertain to career but instead father - or other.

for some 10th  is mom 4th is dad

Togi--I totally understand.  I have sun and merc in the 10th and I suffer from the "not good enough" syndrome.  I've always found myself trying to impress my father, but somehow feeling like I was never being heard.  Just lately has he been acknowledging my hard work/personal accomplishements...but communication has always been strained.  He's a Cappy sun w/ Scorpio moon. 

I'm just glad to have a family of my own now...takes the focus off of the dysfunction junction known as my original family.  LOL =)

I don't think you came across like a victim.  it makes sense that you'd be thinking about these things with this transit.  I'm not sure that I have anything more to offer than, yup, that sounds like the deal.  I'm just in a personal place where I'm not so sure that things like that get fully resolved.  but then my saturn's conjunct chiron and saturn is opposing now.  ::rolls eyes::

what I think is stunning here is how many bad father stories are here and how few good father stories!

Interesting how all of you talk about fathers associated with the 10th house. I heard somewhere that people with 12th house suns (like I do) suffer from this as well. I have no planets in the 10th house but I have midheaven opposing my 4th house Cancer Moon. Like what you all mentioned, I have severe "Not Good Enough-itis." This manifests itself in EVERY area of my life. My Mom, whom in my eyes is the most beautiful woman that ever lived - was still cheated on by my dad and I strived then to be as "perfect" as I possibly can. But we all know that doesn't exist -_-

You can't blame your sister, your father was the adult long before she was. How sad for her, but i know what you mean. My father was always terrible to my (gay) brother.

terrible, horrible. But i was his "perfect" child 

I feel fortunate NOT to be the favorite sib.  I've seen what that's like and I prefer to be on the outside:  less to lose.

you guys--thank you. i actually have to take this post down though it makes me feel awful

nothing to do with your responses...it's just i think i'm too sensitive to think about this sort of thing today, and it makes me feel sad 

My father is an Aquarius who I know loves me dearly.

-His Sagittarius son-

I'm a Pisces Sun daughter of a Pisces Sun dad. I was always the apple of his eye but had to "compete" for his affection with a control freak Cancer Sun mom. Must be my Moon in Leo - and/or Saturn in the 12th.

(((Kashmiri))) no worries I didn't read it :) I get way too sensitive sometimes... I tend to act before I think... Tee hee... what an Aries :P

"I tried hard to have a father but instead I had a Dad". -Kurt Cobain.

Complete opposite in my case. My father has Sun/Saturn in . He never acted like a Daddy. Everything had to be done according to the "rules". A total control freak. I have Sun square MC (10th house).

With time, he completely lost his edge but still likes to rain on my parade.

Father issues? I want a father as a husband, in other words i prefer a parental partnership. My taurus father had a bad unpredictable temper. We lived in fear. My ideal partner doesn't have that quality though, just the "good father" qualities... which are probably pretty similar to good mother qualities for me: nurturing, caretaking, giving, did i mention nurturing? Generous (to me), but also amazing common sense and wisdom! 

My 10th and my 4th are empty.