they were working on a computer, like in a cafe or library, and you found them attractive?

Just wondering.

For extra discussion goodness, in what kind of situations do you feel comfortable approaching, and when would you absolutely not approach, even if all signals were "go"?

Astrology optional (analytical Virgo type wants to know).

No, 12th house Sun would not approach them.

I would talk to them if we were standing in line together, or sitting beside each other on an airplane etc. That wouldn't bother me.

I'd look for body posture before approaching.  Per your example (sitting alone, working on a computer in a public place):  Are they leaning back in their chair or hunched forward?  Relaxed face or squinch-faced?  Are they present or off in la-la land?  Arms open or more closed?

It's a dance, really.  But if all signs were a go, I'd approach.  :)  The only things that would stop me would be time (if I was rushed), energy-field, and whether or not I had company along.

But I'm pretty famous for walking up to complete strangers and asking weird things / starting up conversations.  The other day I got looked at like my third head was showing by a couple of bystanders when I asked a tall dude next to me in the grocery store if he could hand me a pint of heavy cream off the top shelf.  :P  (Hey!  I'm short, man!  *grins*)

I might, if I had a question of some kind.

Nah. I wouldn't feel comfortable either if a guy did this to me.

No way! I'm a woman, I'd let him do the approaching. I've always known how to register enough interest to get that moving... and I've never been interested in the kind of man who needs bustling up. I don't find shyness in a man in the least attractive

But I'd probably be annoyed if I was working on a computer and some stranger bothered me. If we'd been 'catching eyes' for several days or weeks, maybe not so annoyed ;)

No, but I would try to get him to approach me. :)

It depends on whether I feel vulnerable or safe.  I'm pretty confident about bothering people. I often offer to get things at the grocery store for short people. 

I approached a stranger today at mother's doctor's office.  My mother thought I must have known him.  Wrong.  I was curious. It was a short conversation.  It was in an oncologist's office.  The man was wearing a Viet Nam Veteran ball cap. I asked him, "Excuse me, but were you exposed to Agent Orange? My brother-in-law was exposed there and is enrolled in a Veteran's Administration Agent Orange study."  The answer, "Yes, I was. Agent Orange gave me cancer, diabetes,... ".  ---  I thought the man may want to be in the study, too. He saw no use in it. 

I guess I'm just nosy. 

I'm mostly cardinal and don't think twice if I want some information.

I didn't notice this topic was under dating. I'm past that!!

I'm like that too Sue Ellen - I often engage strangers in conversation! Seven planets in Cardinal inc Mercury ;)

I would approach and I have in the past. Mixed results. Mars in Leo goes after what it wants, but has learned it's better to be flashy just once, and then run away and pretend it didn't happen. If they like you, they'll come to you. No coddling.

I understand, BP. I have 5 cardinal planets, plus Chiron.

What Elsa said.  If I can catch his attention subtly, I bet he approaches me.  If not, well pfft I'm not interested. 

Absolutely not a library. That's "me time" IMO. Unless I had an obvious icebreaker present itself, there's really no reason to approach someone while they're working on things.

Coffee shop... Hmm... I think I could get away with this if I noticed someone working for a long time on a paper or something. I might ask the cashier what he got and then get him something and take some interest in what he's been slaving away on.

To answer the others...

I would NOT approach on a person while they're at work, working out or in the library.

I WOULD approach someone anyywhherrreee else :)

No, I personally wouldn't.

With earthy Taurus/venus ruling my chart, I have rather magnetic powers of attraction. If I looked up at a man from under my dark lashes, and gave him a gaze that could melt a steel beam, and he didn't budge? he's not worth my time or gifts. Perceptiveness, a quick mind, and a healthy/positive opportunistic streak win points with me from the right man.

And playing what I think of as the male role has never felt like I'm being 'me' to me. *shrug*

Oh dear. Being the recipient of that, please DO NOT approach even if you imagine she seems friendly and open to the possibility - she may be busy. Please only go ahead if she is looking around, meets your eyes, smiles, winks, or does something that is a clear go. Please DO NOT follow interesting looking people from said library, coffee shop, or other public place in an effort to chat or 'get to meet them'.

PDA over. Years of this makes me barf that people can't read social clues. Read, learn, then approach. Please.

Personally, I don't approach unless in a social occasion, like a party, restaurant, bar, or on introduction. Signs would be catching the person's eye, getting a welcoming smile (as opposed to a curt smile out of politeness), hair flipping, a wink, etc.

If the right signals were there, then yes.I'd get my shy ass over there and try to strike up a coversation, though I'd be very subtle.Like sit next to them first, pretend I'm doing sth. while I'm actually trying to collect all of the courage I have and simultaneously looking for a conversation starter.

No, I'm not an approacher, really. I would, however, watch intently for opportunities to make eye contact. I don't know, tho. There's a whole "feel" thing that goes along with it. I don't know how to explain it. But, I would know whether or not we would be talking before we each left or not.

Thanks everyone for your respones! Haha, I have to admit I was asking because I was wondering my chances if I decided to set up shop in a cafe for an evening and work on a project. (Cap just can't sit around looking pretty, and Venus in Sag would get *bored*). I started out this thread targeting the guys, but I thought I would be inclusive.

As for myself, I don't think I could bring myself to approach a stranger unless he was holding up a huge sign that said "Hey short woman with the long blonde hair - you're cute, come talk to me. Yes I mean you." I've got too much Cap and Virgo Saturn in the 1st.

I second starkttn. It is REALLY uncomfortable and creepy for the person you're approaching, who was probably just trying to mind her own business in public.

If they're saying hi to you or something, that might be another matter, but don't bug someone who isn't looking for someone.

Probably not.  Unless she (it would have to be a she, y'know) looked over and offered an inviting smile or sorts.  Then, yes, I'd have to say I'd be quite intrigued. 

Ummm.... I'm absolutely clueless about "timing" , so I'll probably be the one walking over and disturbing them.... right as they're about to find the cure for Cancer.

:::Pisces energy just doesn't know better:::

Definitely so... if you're hungry enough.

*grins @julian*  Never hurts to try, right?  :)

Nope.  I don't like it when strangers approach me in public, so I leave everyone alone (unless I need a store employee's assistance).  *shrugs*  I guess I'm just not a very friendly person, lol.