This came up in another thread.  Anyone?

He's fantastic looking and you feel...

I was just talking about this with my friend the other day.  I have never dated a fantastically good looking man!  I once went to a college dance with one, but other than the fact that he was a cool friend, I could have lived without the experience.  He broke his foot earlier in the day and asked me if I minded if he smoked pot at the dance, and pretty much sat it out.  I spent the dance dancing with a guy friend.  But years later, he still looks great in those pictures and my mother is still envious. ;)

Whatever, I have no experience in this realm.  Interested in living other's experiences vicariously... 

What a great/funny thread, but I, too, have little to add -- my guys have always been... normal, handsome, whatever... Beautiful to me, of course, but not "models"

Heh that's probably who I'll wind up with... with my venus saturn square... I'll be old wizened saturn and I'll have a young buck, very venusian who adores me... Guess I'll have to post again then!

Fab, a b s o l u t e l y fabulous, until the gay men starting hitting on him. It's  very embarassing to be in a public place arguing with a bunch of moustaches about whether or not your boyfriend is really straight, because his english isn't good enough to defend himself.  And he's embarassed about them wanting to shag him. Mind you, the embarassment quickly turned to annoyance.

But we did make a lovely couple ;sighs;

"a bunch of moustaches" LOL

Amazing...until I realize the only thing rattling around in that perfect head socket of his is what color paint he's going to use to express the "feeling" of playing Dig-Dug. Sigh. Back to the drawing board. 

I've been out with a few and didn't like it. I'd go as far as to say I am prejudiced. I just didn't enjoy being with a man who was prettier than me like he's the damned broach or something. 

One guy, I actually told him I did not want to see him anymore because he was too good looking. "I just can't stand it," I said," although I like you and I enjoyed meeting family. Your stepdad in particular is a hoot but..."

I went on to tell him I thought he should go back to the woman he was with before me and I was very serious. "You guys were a great couple," I said. "I don't know why you guys broke up but I think you get back together."

"But I want to go out with you."

"But I don't want to go out with you."

"Because I am too pretty? Because I am good looking?"

"Yes, I don't like. I am sorry, it is not for me but it is for her. You guys were happy - weren't you gurus together?" I asked.

"We went to est together."

"Yep, that's the one. Call her, that's the woman you belong with."

I was 23 or so, a woman can only take so much shit and I am not walking around with a man who looks like a broach, I don't care how funny his Aquarian step dad is.

I walked out of there so relieved, it was like finally getting something off my chest,.

Elsa, what's a broach? I looked it up in my dictionary, but my dictionary is missing a few pages.

I have actually been out will a few obscenely good looking men and just searched another and found his pic- he still looks good.

I dumped him to and he wound up marrying a Greek girl, a friend of mine. I was relieved at that at too.

That girl had 2 sisters, we were all friends, I was like a surrogate sister.  The oldest one was involved with a freakishly good looking Greek man but we didn't like him so we called him. "Tall, dark and stupid" when she wasn't around. "Poor Thalia," we'd say. "Here comes, Tall, Dark and Stupid"...

And then we stand there in a row like we weren't doing anything..

broach = fancy glittery thing you wear on your lapel.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!

I was trying to just shut up for a change, but Elsa I'm enjoying this thread very much!  :D

The stepdad was a crazy bastard in the best possible way. He was an inventor (Aquarian) and he loved  Christmas and he loved kids.

He was a white guy and completely enamored with his wife who was Mexican. Therefore he did all his tinkering in Spanish AND English, like for example he did not want to back over any children with his car so wired a tape recorder in his trunk to come on when he put his car in Reverse. This was before they started putting those beepers and buzzers that sounded on trucks backing up. This guy thought of this first.

Anyway when he was backing up, the recording would blast from his trunk. It said:

"I'M BACKING UP" in his spoken voice and then he repeated this in Spanish.

And then it would play again: "I'M BACKING UP"and then the Spanish.

There was a cadence in the recording I can still remember today although I don't remember the phrase in Spanish. Why would I? He deliberately used both languages for the convenience of others, in particular, "little children who might not know how to speak English.."

 Anyway, you should have seen the house at Christmas. This guy took regular decorations and automated them / gave them voices. He was thrilled with himself because he could make the coffee pot in the kitchen turn on from the bedroom and he made that talk too.. in Spanish for his wife.

Did he ever love her!

"I am trying to learn Spanish so I can talk to my beautiful wife," he said.  "I am not that smart so it's taking me awhile but now I fixed the coffee pot so it can help me.."

That's really touching ::sniff:: valentine's day approaches....

But i think what i really want is a beautiful mexican wife :)

I married him!

I dated a pretty boy once. After him I vowed never to date a goodlooking man again. I want to be the prettiest thing in bed if you know what I mean. Did I mention the sex was as awfull as he was goodlooking? No thanks never again. A man has to be somewhere (anywhere) between uglier than me and prettier than a gorrilla. 

if his inside matched his outside it would have been lovely.

I dated a very beautiful man once. We we're extremely close and very young - a year together was like a whole lifetime, and extremely hard to get over, even though I ended it (for reasons having nothing to do with his appearance).  In any case, two things stand out now, as I think about this topic. One, people were shocked that I was with such a perfect-looking model type. Everyone would ask if he was a model. (Actually, he did start dabbling in modeling, years after we were together.) I thought that reaction was very strange, and a little hilarious. I guess I was naive - we we're young and in love! Of course, I look nothing like a model. But it was normal for me to be with him, just strange how others reacted. 

And the other thing, was that this guy called me up nearly fifteen years after we broke up - out of the blue. He was going through AA, and wanted to make amends for putting me through what he put me through because of his drinking way back when. (Honestly, it hadn't bothered me that much - I didn't know any better, it had all seemed so normal to me; though I had drawn a line when I walked away for good.) I was so glad to hear from him. And then he floored me: He told me he was immensely grateful that I would go out with him, and that I did not care about how good looking he was. It's true, I hadn't cared about that at all. What I saw was somehow something else. He took the opportunity to tell me things he never explained when we were together - what he had loved about me, and about our being together. He recollected such vivid memories of me in my youth, the call was a pure gift to me, and very moving. He also explained told me what a burden he felt his looks to be - everybody who wanted to date him seemed interested in him just because of that, he said, and not interested in much else. (I guess it can be like being hugely rich, and wondering if that's why someone has married you, wondering what would happen if it all went away?) He said, "but you... You didn't care that I had these blue eyes." We had never talked about it, so it was a surprise and a real treat to get his opinion on this so many years later. 

Thanks for reminding me about him. I think about him from time to time, because he's no longer alive. Sad and tormented story. A deeply beautiful man on the inside; his appearance just happened to match. Sweet, sweet guy. I wish he was alive. 

I feel like it's icing on a delicious cake. Yum!

My husband is one. He is aware of his looks. He's been reminded of it for his whole life. It's been a blessing and a curse for him. Thank God he's grounded and a decent man.  He gets better looking as he gets older (he just turned 39). The gray hairs in his beard and at his temples are so hot!

For me, it can be annoying. Friends or acquaintances feel that they must comment on his looks to me when they meet him (women and men). Most say it respectfully, "Oh, he's handsome/gorgeous/good looking, etc". Others practically salivate-- freakin' disrespectful. I cut them off immediately.

Here's an interesting story (it's actually pretty hilarious to me) that really pulled the Scorpio out of me:

My husband is a musician and a DJ. He gets hit on all of the time. He thanks them for their interest, tells them he's married, and that's that. Almost always they respect that.

About 5 years ago,  he told me about this incident that happened the previous night. This woman kept hitting on him while he was DJing. He was pissed off. She wouldn't take no for an answer. So he told her friend to "please get your girl. I'm married. I'm not interested" and she finally left.

A few months later, he and I were hanging out with some of my new teacher friends and their husbands/boyfriend. One of the teachers, Lisa, invited her best friend Tammy along. Hubby pulled me aside early on and said "That's the girl [Tammy]! The one I told you about who wouldn't leave me alone at the club a few months ago. And Lisa  was her friend!" Turns out Lisa and Tammy would occasionally hang out at the club where my husband DJ'd.They all knew the same people. Tammy dated a few of the regulars. Small world.

So we go back to Tammy's condo because she lived in the city. The vibe was a bit weird. After a while, I turned to Tammy, who was sitting next to me on her sofa, and said "Well, apparently there's an elephant in the room. So, let's just get it out and move on. I know about that night at the club a few months ago. Are we all cool with it?" My husband looked at me and tried not to laugh at my audacity. Laughingly, Lisa explained to the others what happened. Everyone else laughed. I got my message across.

Five years later, we still hang out together. I still consider Tammy an acquaintance though. This past October, Tammy had a meltdown during Lisa's birthday celebration and said she hated my husband because he was getting on her nerves. He was trying to keep the peace between her and Lisa, who was annoyed and hurt because she felt Tammy was ruining her birthday.  Apparently she never got over the rejection 5 years earlier, but my husband still kept his cool after her drunken outburst and said it was time to go and we left.

Sea,

What a beautiful story. So sorry for your loss.

Wow that is a beautiful story Sea. You write so beautifully about this man. It was very touching to read.

mscardinalblue and fajalobi78, Thank you. It's  moving to me that you can sense something of what I was trying to convey from so long ago.

mscardinalblue, I think we were writing our stories at exactly the same time. Your story's really interesting! I can relate, at least somewhat. Looking back, it's strange (well, to others), but I really did feel absolutely, completely confident (is that my Venus in Libra, trining Jupiter in the 7th??) about my status in my relationship with the guy in my story. There was never a threat from any super pretty girl (or, any girl - or guy! - at all). And we weren't married, nor even headed that way, but we were still a team, together. So I never minded about all the girls tripping over themselves to say 'hi' to him. It was funny! I'd get so many overt comments from my male friends about his looks. They'd say they didn't get what I was doing with such a pretty boy - thought it made me seem superficial or something, I guess! I think age would have definitely helped that aspect of the situation - we were nearly twenty then...

After the "introduce the friends" night when I had just started dating my husband, my friends confessed they were surprised he was so attractive.

Seem I'd never brought it up, so they figured he must be a real bowser (with a great personality)!

He's not.

And after our first date, he thanked me. He said I'd complimented him all night, but not once mentioned his looks. That was the only thing the ex ever did compliment him on. I guess it made him feel valued for who he was.

What's with all the we're for were?? Ugh, I hate commenting on my own typos - but seriously, why am I putting so many apostrophes willy-nilly, just everywhere? Especially in my story above in this thread. Also, elsewhere, It's for its. Can't just be mercury in Cap. Doesn't seem to account for it at all.

Meanwhile, let this post serve as notice for all my future apostrophe mistakes. I cringe with my grammar mistakes, but I'm just not going to talk about it anymore!

(ahh... now that sounds like Mercury in Cap! ::sigh, feeling much better now.)

Sea, you mentioned Neptune's almost opposing your Merc in 3rd.  That's a double whammy of nebulous language! 

I can sympathize -- Neptune's opposing my sun-Merc-Saturn conjunction, which is trine Neptune natally.  This has been worse than any Merc rx in existence.

I lived with a good looking Libra for 3 years.  He was a yoga teacher (Virgo mars) and had a very sculpted look. He was half Chinese, half Austrian and had very creamy skin and long black hair.  We eventually broke up because he was stubborn (Taurus moon) and I'm perfect. 

I find this amazing but I always happen to attract good looking guys (they tend to pretty faces). 

They have this innocent handsome look to them. Maybe that's Venus/Moon in Gemini in 7th house. 

I do feel rather smug as the other girls do get jealous (especailly my friends) and it has caused some troubles with my friends. I'm sure they don't mean it but they don't nice things. Just because the guy is good looking doesn't mean they have horrible personality at all. Infact most of them were such a gentlemen.

Hmm... I've never officially dated any of the "hottest guys in school" who were continuously voted "best looking" for their respective grades.  I was, however, close to the 3 main "hottest" guys.  I did have a fling with one of them for a short time.  He is incredibly handsome.  When people would see us together, they would always speculate as to what is going on... Which I found funny.  I have Scorpio Mars, Pluto, and Mercury.  Not to mention a 12th house Sun (Sag).  That made me laugh to see their reaction when I'd be with this guy.  He is shy.  But so am I and I guess that's why he got the vibe that he did. Anyways, when I was with him, I felt very calm.  Despite all of the attention I received.  I never really let it go to my head... I guess that's what he liked about me.  He knew how girls felt about him, and I think it partially freaked him out... But he is Capricorn so maybe Saturn just always had his poker face on.  Which I can understand with my Capricorn Venus which was conjunct to his Sun.  Haha.  We were just a cool, calm, quiet and in control duo.  It was fun while it lasted even if I always felt he was holding back.  I think a lot of the time we spent together we spent wondering why the hell everyone was all of a sudden so obsessed with us?  Or why girls saw him like the guy they could never have, and why guys felt that way about me.  Haha it was just strangely confusing and amusing.  A much intellectual bond, but comfortable with one another cause I think he sensed one of his own when girls in our class would try and throw themselves at him.   He's just not that kinda guy.  I "hooked" him by being my chill, loner, quiet self.  Even if that was never my intention.  He is now in an engineering program at a private university here in Texas.  He was the valedictorian of our class.  He teeters between engineering and the Air Force since his dad is a pilot. He still has that amazing bone structure and jawline. Yummy (Venus in Cap haha) to me.  But he also still has that calm cool and collected persona that I know I can depend on when all of my first house planets (Venus, Neptune, Uranus) and wild transits seem to throw me off.  :)

One of the other guys (Pisces, Pisces Venus conjunct his Sun, also in the 12th house) is a total charm magnet.  I mean this boy could be telling you to burn in Hell and you would still be in a daze from those eyes he has.  We connected on a deep, strange level.  I could literally "feel" him and just out of the blue text or call him asking what's wrong and he'd just break it all down and talk to me.  Quite strange.  Turns out he is also a liar, and we are no longer friends because I just don't deal well with secretive relations and cheating... So I cut that one loose.  It was fun while it lasted because girls would literally have a freak attack when they found out I was hanging out with this kid... Very dramatic.  Fun.  But obnoxious at times.

Then the last one, Mr. Leo.  Oh man this kid and I had lots of fun together.  He is anti everything.  Has such a "fuck it" attitude it's ridiculous.  I think he brought out the rebel side in me I might not have ever expressed if he and I weren't close.  I miss this kid but he is in a world of his own, drug addict.  He is finally going to school though and got out of this town and away from some of the negative influences in his life.  Of course I never did drugs with him or supported his drug habit.  But I was the "Ro he could go to and just be himself." So that still keeps us in touch with one another even though it's nothing like it was in 2006.  It's cool though, we'll always be friends.

"I find this amazing but I always happen to attract good looking guys (they tend to pretty faces). "

Molly, same here. I'm what one might call pleasent looking myself - the kind of girl who got compliments from other girls rather than from boys, actually -, but most men I've ever dated have been very, and some even spectacularly good looking.

Thinking about it, good looking men probably like me just for the reason some of you have already mentioned speaking about their good looking husbands, lovers and exes - I just focus on other things. My father - and to think about it, most men in my family - used to be very good looking in the typical Scorpio way, when he was younger. He was dark enough to pass for a Frenchman or Northern Italian, and did all kinds of sports.  And he really wasn't at all in ease with the attetion he got from women solely for his looks. I think that some time after meeting my stepmother - who really was the first woman he ever introduced to me after my mother's death - he stopped, more or less inconciously, taking care of his looks.

So, when I meet a good looking guy I do take note of the way they look (I'm a triple Libra, after all), but then try to figure out who they really are. Sometimes I find out quite unespected things - for instance, I've dated a gorgeous Trekkie (and actually recently befriended another) -, others have simply commented on how good it has been talking to me. 

Candela, My dad is a Scorpio too with Libra rising, Venus, Moon and Jupiter conjuncting in Libra in that 1st house. 

My Dad is loveliest and he's a true gentlemen. I tend to look for guys who has similar personality to my Dad. 

Also, the guy I like has to be smarlty dressed and polite. I've been told by people to be pretty however, my Saturn in 1st squaring Jupiter and Mercury doesn't let me take that compliment and run with it.  

I think I feel comfortable with good looking guys, I don't feel intimidated by them and I think this is due to early exposure to beautiful men like my Dad.

Great topic! I have dated a few spectacularly good looking men and how I feel depends on the man in question. I'm 45 now (Sag Sun, Leo Rising)

The father of my child is Hungarian (a Pisces) - tall, green eyes, very handsome...he had worked as a model in Europe before we met. We shared a sense of adventure but there was no connection. I felt...smarter than him and that I could run circles around him mentally but I also felt like I wasn't as attractive as he was and pondered what he saw in me all the time.

The man I have been seeing recently is also spectacularly good looking (a Leo)...played in well known bands, travelled the world...and I feel...special, confident, loved, cared for, connected, engaged, like I've met my first true match of my life! And, I know I am just as a attractive as he is!

Time passes, confidence grows - perhaps that is the secret of being with very attractive men.

I lived with one for three years, a Leo rising with a Taurus sun, Scorpio moon, and he was beautiful. I actually met him at a fashion show where he was one of the models! A complete ugly duckling story -- you wouldn't have believed it if you saw his senior prom photo.

He was quite vain about it but since I'm a Leo I understood, and his Leo rising was so generous with compliments towards me that I never felt lesser than. Now it is only after we broke up that I found out he cheated on me (I should have known -- all of his friends were cheaters, and his dad was one too) but his Scorpio moon really did a number on my Pisces moon. I've never felt so safe and protected as I did when I was with him and now I wonder if it was really good for me (I did not move forward, careerwise or educationwise, for the three years we were together).

I don't wish we were back together. It was quite a broken relationship. But when we went out at night, as only two Leos can, we sparkled and shimmered for everybody while they sat back and watched.

Have to add to my last post...

I agree with Candela who said something about how she saw something else in the good looking guy that she had dated.

I have to agree with her on that point, with guy #2 in my above post, his looks aren't what drew me to him, it was the way that we were able to naturally just relate to each other. Talking is easy, we seem to naturally get each other's styles. In fact, I appreciate how good looking he is but what makes me most "attracted" is the fact that I do see something else quite compelling... he is fascinating to me - he's led an interesting life, he's very smart and he keeps me interested, we always have a great time together and I feel completely free to be me. We have a lot of tight synastry connections too...

Also agree with mahchi and Candela. I could never have a relationship with someone I only connected to because they looked good. Ex and I got along like peas and carrots, basically.

OT @ SaDiablo

Interesting to hear about your experience with merc etc./T Neptune opposition,. Since your stellium is natally trine Neptune, I would have thought this transit would affect you less, since the energy should be so familiar to you... 

For me, Neptune, Chiron, Venus, and soon the new moon will actually all be within 4 degrees of an exact opposition to my natal Merc. So I guess I should admit this all counts as a full opposition, eh? My Merc is in the 9th, so T. Neptune in the third - whether it's transiting opposite mercury or not - has been really affecting my thought and communications for years now! Ah well, I've gotten used to it.. Just a few more years to go - about eight or nine, I think! And now, opposing nat mercury, "a double whammy of nebulous language", indeed! 

The one good looking guy I dated was a Leo with Cap rising (interesting that I married a Cap with a Leo Moon, what's with that combo?  ).  He was 30 and graying, but it looked really good on him.

Anyway, he told me that he was a late bloomer and was a real dork when he was a teen.  I didn't think anything of that until I told him I wasn't going to sleep with him.

Well, he made it clear to me that he could get anyone he wanted because he was so good looking.  Yeah, he was only after some tail.  This all went down right around Valentine's Day, so people were asking him if he was going to buy me anything.  They got the classic "we're just friends" line.  Translation:  I refuse to go out with someone who won't have sex with the wonderfulness that is ME.

Typical Leo.  And years later, my mom said she was glad we broke up, because seeing us together (I was very thin with long blonde hair back then) was "too much".

I dated a particularly gorgeous Leo once upon a time, who knew it, but downplayed it by being extra scruffy and instead overly complimenting me.

I am engaged to a super handsome Scorpio. He's beautiful inside and out though. Oh there's the cheese...sorry. :)

And there was another one, a Scorpio who made it into my book. He was stupefyingly good looking and I don't know why it never bothered me but it never did.

I see now that he is anomaly, I should find that story and pull it up. I don't remember what I wrote but I wrote it in 2001-02 which was before I had an filter of any kind place. I wish I was easier to understand.

"I wish I was easier to understand."

  (((Elsa)))