This came up in another thread.  Anyone?

He's fantastic looking and you feel...

Never dated a pretty boy/man, but I made out with one once. I guess that was our one "date." I found him a bit full of himself, but worse than that, he had nasty tasting spit. Just because you have purty blue eyes fringed with long eyelashes and a killer dimple doesn't mean you should forgo the dental hygiene before meeting up with a young gal on a Saturday evening.

There was this super-hunky army guy at my work, sandy hair, blue eyes, tan, muscles, drove a jeep... it was too much. I didn't have a crush on him because something draws me to unconventional types and he was just, you know, normal. But boy, what a total package... just a great looking, NICE guy. He was always joking with me and I'd think, "Is this flirting?? Naww... couldn't be. There are hotter girls here for him to flirt with!"

Anyway, like I said, not particularly drawn to Brad Pitt types. They're fun for eye candy. For me it comes down to the personality, sense of humor and that essence of sexy that comes from within. 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but I am currently dating a spectacular guy in all respects, and it's very nerve wracking. He's a Virgo, who is 25 and is currently working towards a 2nd PhD, in the Health field. All received from academic scholarships.

He speaks three languages and has a heart rate of 44 beats per minute. He's a trained athlete. He's unbelievably kind and funny.

I just feel very tiny compared to that, and I have no idea what he wants with me.

I'm a Capricorn.

... very satisfied visually :)

These types tend to be drawn to me and me of course attracted to them. The relationship usually lasts 2-3 months and is an absolute romance novel tale of fun, surprises, and a little jealousy on both ends. The good looking guy tends to think even if you're a hot girl there are SO MANY hot girls they want to court and try out before they settle for just one. ha. They eventually get a reality check in time...but I luckily I've never fooled myself into believing any of these relationships will end in marriage. Just a good time. 

Of course I'm maturing and now I'll go for a guy who is MORE beautiful on the inside and hopefully that also molds how he looks on the outside;)

Hmm, well.....if I'm dating him, he's spectacularly good looking to me. : )

The flip side of this is that as they grow on me, and I learn to love them for who they are, and realize just how beatiful they are to me I tend to start to think of them as being more beautiful than me, and so wonderful that I wonder why they just want to be with me, and see myself as the butt ugly duckling. But then, I've defended a few male friends b/c someone else didn't think they were anything special. Claws on my 5th house Leo kitten come out, and the vigilant Gemini Water Dog starts to growl in defense of my friends/lovers looks. Damn it, he's gorgeous, and if you can't see that, more for me. Hmph.

H12 Venus--tend to love someone for who they are, and once I love them, they are the most gorgeous creatures walking, and all other men are nothing in comparison. And love tends to take time with me, and grows over time. (Saturn op Venus) : )

I fall in love with the soul, and the body becomes beautiful from the inside out.

It would depend on what happened after he opened his mouth of course.  Just 'pretty' isn't cutting it with me, you gotta have more than that.  Plus it goes without saying there has to be that 'connection,' you know the one that sends your heart beating a mile-a-minute, dislocates your mouth so that you sound like an idiot, and wreaks havoc on your coordination so that you're bumping into things, etc.  Especially if they come up unexpectedly right behind you. 

@Snapdragon--what is it with guys sneaking up on their girlfriends? I've asked a few lesbian women, and gay men who just blink at me, and say the same thing as straight men; "cause it's fun!" Urgh, he used to love doing that to me. I'd let out a shriek, and turn to him clutching my heart, my eyes huge, my pupils dilated, and my breathing short. He's just grin boyishly, and say, "Hi," like everything was fine, and I wasn't trying to find my base heart rate.

I've never dated a man that most others would consider spectacular looking.  But the more I like you, the better looking you get to me, so all of my men have been spectaular looking. I love it, because my eyes tell me what my heart already knows.

ETA @Mina my ex husband used to do that to torture me.  He loved to get me angry so he could laugh at my anger.  Um.  Well, he IS my ex.

Unsettling. Especially if they are your IT man and you are a Scorpio rising.

@Shannon-awww, that's so sweet, and makes perfect sense to me! : )

The first part about love that is. About the second part, that's too bad. My man would do it just for fun, and he knew I wasn't really mad at him, or I would've tore into him with my sharp little Gemini tongue. I probably secretly liked getting my blood flowing from a surprise visit from him like that, and thought his boyishness (Gemini/Scorpio guy) was nice to see in one so usually serious (1st house Saturn).

If I ever did get mad at him which.....I can't recall a particular time, he'd usually get quiet, look worried, and want to fix it like he did with most problems. He was a good listener that one.

"He speaks three languages and has a heart rate of 44 beats per minute."

Hehe, CarolR, you're sounding like the Virgo Avenger :D

I hope so.  Hey attractive dudes, you're welcome to try talking to me!  I think the mantra is "he is coming to me, therefore I am good looking enough for him."  And that makes one radiate with confidence when we think, I'm not simply good enough, I'm good.  Even when I look like shit.  (Thought this when I was sitting a close distance to someone attractive and it prevented my shoulders from going up and hunching).  Now that I think of it, no matter how I mince about how, "I'm too young for the deciding that all attractive men are stupid and 'he's a nice man, a good catch!  Right?  Right!' ...I mean, I can get it, I deserve it, right?" thing, the fact of the matter is the male friends I would keep around I was attracted to.  Sometimes my best friend would talk about him, partly to take my adulation down a peg, partly to remark on how mean he was would tell me, "Well he wasn't that good looking anyway."  And I would respond, "Yeah, well he is to me."  And then she'd say, "My point exactly" (She has the Venus/Neptune falling in love with people later thing that we were talking about in Orlando's thread.  One that I sternly rebel against having felt ugly for so long.)  Usually I'm pretty swayed by other people's opinions (which, if placating, work as the placebo effect).  Then again, I have the Venus/Neptune synastry stubborn semi-denial thing that, "Yeah, well, there's no one like that again for me!"  It was a once in a lifetime thing!  A bond!  Yeah, that's a different flavor of Venus Neptune. 

Anyhow, even though I found my friends attractive, there was some common ground.  We sort of matched (I'm not flattering the way I look, or anything, you can just smell the rapport of two people who like Frank O'Hara and have a Cardinal Grand Cross composite a mile away :D).  I think when one person is disproportionately attractive in an uncomfortable way, I could stay, but then I don't know. 

The men that I've found attractive that I've dated I kept at (when I didn't put them off with my lack of social skills or nervousness), and it seemed okay. 

I've had an unfair share of "really, really good-looking" men.  I don't know why, since I'm incredibly generic looking.

They made me feel lusty, mostly.  And not one of them was willing to be really really into me, so I ended up dumping every single one.

I've had an unfair share of "really, really good-looking" men.  I don't know why, since I'm incredibly generic looking.

They made me feel lusty, mostly.  And not one of them was willing to be really really into me, so I ended up dumping every single one.

...disappointed because he's gay and has an even hotter boyfriend.

.... I feel PHOAR and I'm attracted!

Almost all the men I've had serious relationships or even just extended ones, have been good looking - and a few quite spectacularly so. It started pretty early in my 'career' so I soon took it as the norm! In fact I'm a very visual person and I find it almost impossible to get turned on by a guy who's not in some sense good looking, though that can be 'quirky attractive' too as opposed to classic good looks

The worst thing about it is of course, that these men are forever being hit on by other women, and some don't resist. It also means you may find it hard to get their attention in social situations while all these women mob round your guy (inc a few exes). But it's so satisfying when he leaves with you! The other thing is, that these men tend to be vain - but I like a man who's pleased with himself: Leo-style self-confidence is a big turn-on for me

I've only a couple of times jumped into bed with a guy very fast just because he was so good looking, and those liaisons were a mistake, ie didn't last long! Most of the time, it's been other things which both pull me and keep it going. But looks do matter to me, and sometimes I find it hard to let go partly because I'm so hung up on a guy's looks! [Ruth has seen a photo of me and the Man together back in the day, and will confirm he was pretty dishy - I used to lie there in the morning watching him sleep 20 yrs ago, just swooning at his beauty]

Hahaha eccentricvirgo, that's funny! And has happened to me more than once, as I love that androgynous thing - I like 'beautiful' men as opposed to macho hunks. Brad Pitt and Russell Crowe leave me cold

HEY! All the posts in this thread from seven months ago disappeared. There used to be over 50 comments at least from back then...

Weird, huh?

Very weird. I will ask HQ wth?

@BP - Same here, I love androgyny! I also enjoy androgynous women, thin boyish-like figures, hair cut short but stylish (ladies with faux hawks are nice), deeper voices...but I hear you on Brad Pitt and Russell Crowe, bleh.

That hot gay man (who is my coworker) turned into a good friend of mine, so did his boyfriend (who is also amazingly handsome)! I felt a little jealous when a customer started talking to me about how attractive she finds him as well haha.

I once fell madly in love with a gay friend who had thick silver hair right down his back, very long fingernails and heavily beringed fingers, extremely campy gestures, and the most enormous stunning brown eyes you've ever seen. He's really weird looking but has a beautiful soul. And skin. And eyes...

Both times I've aquiesced when lady friends have hit on me (twice, back in the 70s) they were very boyish looking. It didn't help! I had to lie back and think of England lol

By the way one reason for my love of androgynous looking men besides looks is 'trial and error' - they make much better lovers, being so in touch with their feminine side. I've never found big Marsy men very rewarding in bed (and I don't like much body hair either)

Accorrding to the Mechanic, there was a tech accident behind the scenes some months ago. this is why the missing comments.

I dated a gorgeous guy for a couple years.  He was 6'2", 185 lbs, lean and muscular.  He had russet hair, blue eyes, dimples and a cleft chin.  He was ridiculously good looking.

We couldn't go anywhere that I felt private.  There were constantly women clamoring for his attention, and as he was a Gemini with Venus in Leo, he enjoyed it.  I almost felt as if I had to prove to these women I was good enough to be with him.  It really got to me after awhile.

Once at the bar he went outside and peed in the parking lot (yeah, I know)   A girl came up and asked him if she could help....

Thanks for checking on that, Elsa! At least I'm not imagining things.... :)

Yea, I had posted something here too a few months ago.  And it's not here anymore

:(

I've never dated a spectacularly good looking man until now. And yea it's different. He gets hit on by women when I'm standing right there! It's a little tough to take but if we continue dating I think I'll get used to it.

Yea he makes my knees weak, plus he's really sweet (Leo rising I think). He's not a good communicator though and this has proven to be a problem in the short time we've dated. I get paranoid very easily so his lack of communication has led to a couple unnecessary and painful misunderstandings. **sigh** we'll see how it all works out.

Looks are very important to me, but I am rarely attracted to the stereotypical Hot Guy. His muscles are too big, I'm not a fan of his tan and he usually isn't that interesting. Tall, lean, broad shoulders/narrow hips, dark hair and big brown eyes (tattoos are a bonus) Jonny Depp (even better if he's in character) types are so much more attractive than Brad Pitts. I have had many many many problems with most of my boyfriends in regards to other women. On the bright side though, they have all had to deal with plenty of crap from men hitting on me so I guess it's about even as far as grief goes.

i dated an Israeli/south African model once... he was absolutely beautiful, and he didn't exude it either.......but in the bedroom..... aah so so.

this is interesting though, i had a picture taken with a gorgeous man recently, and posted it on my facebook....... i had probably about 5 girls within a few hours all contact me asking who that was........ it was astonishing.....and i thought to myself, my goodness, if i have women calling me by just standing in a picture next to the guy, imagine how many women he has thrown at him, may i add, DAILY!

I don't know about men... But most spectacularly attractive women have one serious issue or another. Its almost like all their eggs are in the beauty basket and other things are lacking. Beauty is such a highly coveted charactertistic with women, that somewhere along the way, somebody skews their perceptions of things. Some glide on their beauty and are never forced to develop real social skills. Others. Want everything handed to them and to be showered with gifts for the great priviledge of being with them, yet others are super-promiscuous, and have no problem feeding their addiction... Yet still others have a combination of the above. Whichever way you cut it, usually something is lacking. I really think its like what happens to child stars... Too much too fast causes stunted psycho-emotional progress, because certain natural positive stressors are absent.

I once went back to his apartment with The Man back in the day (c1990) after a night at my place. He switched on the answering machine, and there were about 20 messages on it... he'd been gone about 24 hours. The tape got to about 15 before there was one from a man (his business partner). All the rest were from women as well, all asking him to ring, asking him to a gig, dinner, show etc etc - and when were they going to see him?? And he used to complain that I never rang him ;^)

Hmm, I've got beauty and brains, and last I heard that's a deadly combination. (grin) But then, so do quite a few men I know. When met with a gorgeous intelligent man my brain usually either shuts down, goes on autopilot with polite conversation, or just slows way down. My first, and last thoughts are usually "oh dear, um...."

I'm not every guys honey, or doll, or darlin' I'm myself, and if I need to explain "the rules" in two languages, I probably can. I imagine guys get tired of being treated like pretty, brainless boys sometimes too--hopefully. : )

Show us a picture, BP :)

Good looking guys, many times but not always, are arrogant but you can use this to your advantage just make them jealous.  Jealously works wonders on ANYBODY!  ;)

So sad that my original post got lost but I'm going to try to recreate it.

My daughter's father (ie my ex bf) was a very good looking man.  Tall and perfectly built - amazing bone structure.  He is Hungarian and had modelled in Milan.  When we were together, I felt like the poor cousin but have to admit many years later that I found him really boring. We didn't have anything in common either. Glad it ended.

I have a very good friend of mine now who is also very good looking man - now in his mid-50's.  Yes, we've fooled around a bit!  But, circumstances are so different than with my ex.  I am not attracted to him because of his looks - I'm attracted to him because of who he is inside.  He is a fabulous person who has grown wise through the challenges life has thrown him.  We get along so well - like two peas in a pod.  He does get alot of female attention which I find kind of funny to watch. 

Ha ha Dina - if I did that I'd have to kill you all!

My experience dating spectacularly good looking men? 

that question sounds "sadgy".   LOL

You know Mina?  I really do enjoy his 'boyishness,' and funny that you mention that because it's just what I've been thinking lately.  :)

I'm dating a man who happens to be very good looking in a unique and distinct, almost European way. What he lacks in height he makes up for in chiseled cheekbones, jawline and toned physique along with wide green eyes fringed with lashes that make me green with envy! The interesting part is how so many women, young and old, do so many takes when they see him yet never hit on him. To be honest, I find it hilarious. :-) My experience so far has been wonderful but that is because as a person, he is just absolutely wonderful. With him being a Scorpio sun/Scorpio Moon/Leo Asc, he can be just absolutely exhausting and exasperating, but all that is balanced out by his sweet and caring nature and his intellect. However, it is still an extremely intimidating experience as well because I'm afraid he'll be whisked away by some other lady who is as turbo fine as a Ferrari 458 Italia! Being a very plain and uninteresting looking girl, the only thing I have is my mind and that is not much to fall back on because i'm not exactly a cakewalk to be with!

Just my .02 :-)

I dated a couple. They were actually really boring.